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Posted: 10/31/2009 11:41:39 PM | I'd love for someone to look over my profile and give suggestions!
I'm getting a lot of hits and messages, but almost all of the messages involve the guy wanting to "get it on"... any ideas on how I can more clearly state that this isn't what I'm after?
Do you guys think I should expand my mail settings to include older guys (maybe they're more mature)? Or is that asking for more trouble? Right now it's set at 18-29, and I'm 20.
Thank you!
Kat | |
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| New, looking for advice! :)
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:46:06 AM | I dont know if this will help you but maybe some of the guys asking to "get it on"might take no for an answer and be ok guys,ya know?I mean maybe if you got them to talk a bit after you gave them a resounding NO there might be more to them.
Or you could just read/delete and totaly forget what I just said.
Anyway,I thought you were very funny in your profile.Your sence of humor really shon threw and you're a very attractive young lady with great hair and smile.
Very likeable profile. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 1:42:58 AM | | I believe you have a great profile. Your pics are clear head shots, so you don't come across as trying to hide something about your appearance. I like how you threw in some humor without having to say "I have a sense of humor". I wouldn't change anything. I don't believe you can avoid the "lets get it on" emails. They come with territory of online dating. Just ignore them. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 3:30:40 AM | Older men are not more mature, so your settings are probably ok.
Delete contact from those tacky enough to proposition you . Make sure your mail settings block IE people and block offending users.
You could write more about the non-traditional life you've led and contact men you find appealing vs waiting around.
Men in grad school or some other sign of serious intentions are more likely to appeal to you.
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Posted: 11/1/2009 4:16:59 AM | Hi Kat :)
Your profile is great, one of the few ones is the profile review section that doesn't actually need much doing to it! To be honest, there are men out there who won't even bother to read your profile - they just send out mass 'hey baby' messages and hope for a reply. Read/delete them, it happens to us all.
Your age settings are fine. Older men are no more mature, trust me :)
Other than that... I have to say you take a fantastic photo! Your 4th one does make you look older than 20 I think, though I'm not sure why exactly. But your main one is just great, very clear, lovely angle.
Good luck :) | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 7:33:59 AM | It's a great profile. It's not you, it's them.
You're an exceptionally beautiful young woman. I'm afraid that kind of thing goes with the territory when you have the anonymity of the internet. Either learn to just hit the "delete" and/or "block" button, or delete your profile. The other thing you can do is hide your pics. You'll have to seek out and make contact with the guys, but it gives you a chance to do the selecting. Once you've exchanged enough contacts to feel comfortable, you can send your pics. No guy is going to break off contact after seeing your pics. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 8:33:39 AM | You're going to get hit on no matter what. It may help to have well defined interests that someone might want to share. Realistically though, its probably not far wrong to consider long term as a result of dating and dating as a result of booty-calls that began to last overnight.
I can't much recommend oldies. If you're young you may as well take advantage of it, unless you have some natural, or unnatural, inclination for gramps. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 8:39:03 AM | Hi Kat…you’re stunning, articulate, interesting and a 10 in the eyes of men. They figure they’ve got nothing to lose by saying “Hi” and talking Lo.
A few suggestions…
1) HTDad gave you great advice…you can hide your photos....Alternatively…
2) You can post just ONE photo; OR…
3) You can hide your profile and do your own searching…more work for you but less weirdos.
4) Are older men and more mature?? One or two are. Okay….maybe 3 or 4. Seriously….sometimes yes, sometimes no. One size fits none. Leave your settings as is.
5) 1 teeny change to consider…..rather than use the word “attack”….can you make it more “ninja” descriptive? It would read more humorously and be more interesting.
6) Okay…1 more teeny change…the “If all you’re after is physical stuff” might also benefit by a dose of humor.
7) Maybe something like….”If all you’re after is physical stuff and petting, my cat’s already taken, and there’s more to me than that.”
Hope that helps. Best to you. DenverSky5280  | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 12:03:34 PM | Thank you so much to everyone for your help! Also, thanks for the compliments on the pics... I feel all warm and fuzzy.  I think I have a better idea of how this works now. I'll make some changes once I'm done mulling over all of your advice. You guys are awesome!  | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 12:25:13 PM | This is off topic but I Just wanted to say, I love your Kitty, He's so pretty. Having 2 cats and watching them play together is so much fun. Especially if they are related. Pictures with cats in profiles are bonus points to me. (Seriously )  | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 12:46:54 PM | On behalf of Mink, thank you! She really is a beautiful little cat. Nice to see another feline lover on the thread!  | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 8:42:21 AM | Kat - your profile is very good.
I must say I'm so impressed by all the helpful people here, most of whom have excellent advise. The world really can be an amazing place sometimes. :-) | |
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