| | who gets your stuff?Page 1 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | | A lot of us are single with no children. Just wondering how you all plan to disperse your worldly goods after you kick off. As time goes by I am feeling less and less inclined to bequeath to my blood family. May as well set a match to it as do that. How do you choose an organization or individual to give those things, $, whatnot that you have accumulated over your lifetime? | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 7:52:02 AM | My stuff??? 
Goodwill would reject most of my stuff..
No huge pile of money in the bank, so no
problem there.
If I'm dead,, I don't care what happens to
any of it.
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Posted: 11/1/2009 7:57:44 AM | Hi Afixerupper
I'm planning to put my favourite skis and bike in storage and come back and get them in the next go-round. :)
In all honesty I'm downsizing rapidly and hope to not have much "stuff" ever again. Money I would want to spread around the people I care about and also set aside enough for a great "goodbye and thanks for all the fish" party for my friends. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 7:58:07 AM |
A lot of us are single with no children. Just wondering how you all plan to disperse your worldly goods after you kick off. ....How do you choose an organization or individual to give those things, $, whatnot that you have accumulated over your lifetime?
LOL....I love those old plays...."You Can't Take it With You" and "Auntie Mame" ("life's a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death") ---lthere won't be any world goods to disperse, especically money... | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 7:59:40 AM | My will says my 3 children will come here on a day of being together, no spouses, just them...
and take stickers with their names on them...
starting with the youngest, they'll take turns putting a sticker on something they want...
until everything sits here with either stickers on it, or rejected to be sent to Goodwill.
I've raised 3 really great people.. they'll not fight nor fuss over my 'stuff'.. they get along very well.. they'll make it a time of togetherness and remembering mom. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 8:01:05 AM | I do have children and I have stipulated that everything will be split between them equally. With the exception of one or two things that have been passed from one generation to another, my "stuff" is not worth anything to anyone. And I wonder if my kids will think that the "family heirlooms" will be worth keeping. It's all just "stuff".
I do have a younger brother who does not have children or a wife. I wonder if he has given this any thought? | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 8:02:56 AM | MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
Put MEEEEEEEEEEEEE in your will.. I NEED people's stuff. I forgot to fund my 101, 201, 301 and especially my 401K..
I DO have a couple of pair's of 501's. but I tried to use them to get some groceries and the market said I couldnt take off my pants in the checkout aisle.
I need things.. I need STUFF.. I need funding to carry on with my wise & sage-like advice here on dating forums. Ok.. maybe not so sage-like.. probably more like Parsley, Rosemary & Thyme. Yeah.. spicey advice.
All you people without a cause to support.. Support ME
Just call me L'Oreal.. Cause I'm WORTH IT! | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 8:10:19 AM | I want whatever of my goods and chattels that can be converted to cash to have been done so and that cash and whatever else that I have as liquid assets will to go a couple of charities that are near and dear to my heart. The rest of the goods and chattels that have no value can go to the dump for all I care.
I have no contact with my family of origin and it is my specific wish that they not profit from my lifetime of hard work nor from my death. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 8:28:28 AM | --well, I'm hopin' the "leaving this world plan" is tightened up a bit more
than it is now...I'm still paying on some of this stuff--ha!
--My boys will have 1st choice, and like Breath, I know they will be lovingly
fair with the "stickies"... any plans for "stuff" will revolve all around them.
However, all that could shift some if I partner with my last great love...
--today, I'm alive and using my stuff dernit!--- | |
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PeggyI
| | Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 10 | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 8:57:05 AM | My sister will get my stuff stuff. She and I are a similar size, so she can have most of it. I am a bibliophile, so my books will go to the local library. My horse tack will go to the local handicapped riding program. Since I am on the board of directors of three charities, two local and one national, the cash will be divided between them.
Other than my books and tack, I don't really collect a lot of clutter. After my divorce removed a large portion of stuff from my life, and a 2,500 mile move necessitated the elimination of more stuff, I am pretty well clutter free, and have adopted the policy "If I don't bring it home, I don't have to throw it out". I guess I am really a semi-minimalist.
Edit: 1kindman - I would send you some stuff, but you live in a different country and your email filters won't let me contact you, so you are SOL - stuff out of luck.... | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 9:04:17 AM | | I don't have any kids. I don't expect to live to a ripe old age, but "just in case" I can't blow my wad yet. I am broke-ass BROKE!!! but I have assets. I have considered selling all real property and large belongings and just hooking up the truck to my horsetrailer with a dressing room, pick a few favorite dogs and chickens and going totally mobile, living off the $ in the bank and picking up work wherever I go. I could land just about ANYWHERE and find work. That would not be an issue. Might have to get a better truck first, or go even smaller, Geo Metro or something and make the difference in KOA fees. Who knows... Might find my final hour a lot quicker doing it that way, or I might get stress free and live for freaking EVER, which I wouldn't want to do either... | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 9:05:48 AM | 1kindman4u: MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
^ ^ ^ This one
He asked first.
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Posted: 11/1/2009 9:17:00 AM | Wow I wished I had more stuff to give people...I hate the concept that when someone dies other worry about how to take care of their stuff. Every time I go to see my mom she gives me things she is afraid someone else will take before I get there cause I live 4 hours away.
My mom was one of 9 kids and it was out and out nasty stuff, and that was with a will....
My aunt that had no kids, my Uncle took over her home, put her in a nursing home, took the things of value he and his wife wanted and then had a yard sale on the rest...she wanted the desk her husband had brought for her birthday when they first got married for the nursing home and they told her they couldnt do it cause it would cause a problem with the way her medicare worked, they sold it for $50.00. The uncle is a millionaire. I lived out of town and didnt find out until after it was done.
If I had a ton of money I would leave it to shelters for abused women and children. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 9:17:41 AM | DD.. You need to copywrite your "Grinch meets Steve Martin" pumpkin idea and market it as a mask next year.
Then you need to email me with your plan for when you are going to come to L.A. and sweep me off my fishing dock for at least a WEEK..
When my heart gets broken after you go back home.. we can post competing threads on here to see who will have the most sympathy for our lost romance.
Oh.. dont forget to put me in your will first. | |
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Ron9
| | Joined: 8/10/2004
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Posted: 11/1/2009 9:32:31 AM | I don't have any bio kids but .....
I "acquired" two little girls (one had just turned 5 - the other was 7) in 1986.
The little one (the first day we met) after a few hours - came up to me - looked me right in the eyes and said "my daddy".
They are now both fully educated, married, still my daughters. This is now six years after their mom took off.
I told my ex-wife (as soon as the shock wore off) the younger one gets EVERYTHING. In other words YOU DON'T.
My ex's name is still on everything. In order to help fix that problem - I also told the daughter "you get everything".
I am pretty sure my ex don't have the nads to try to buck my wishes, since her own daughter knows my intentions.
The one daughter (now 28) will distribute fairly to the other daughter, now 30 (they are pretty close).
I should take legal steps to insure it but ...... I just don't see the mom creating a riff with her own daughter. She personally would take my blood if she could (she tried but failed during the divorce) but ............ not her own daughter. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 9:38:09 AM |
I should take legal steps to insure it but ...... I just don't see the mom creating a riff with her own daughter.
people do strange things where money and estates are involved.
take the legal steps.
my mother thought it was foolish to divide stuff up between my sister and me, but she wrote a will to do it anyway. we told her that we had no intention of arguing over her jewelry... we plan to fight over the wine cellar!
my sister is my beneficiary on everything. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 10:01:24 AM |
The one daughter (now 28) will distribute fairly to the other daughter, now 30 (they are pretty close).
I should take legal steps to insure it but ...... I just don't see the mom creating a riff with her own daughter. She personally would take my blood if she could (she tried but failed during the divorce) but ............ not her own daughter.
You really should. People do the oddest things... My mother, once she was finally convinced she needed a will, left everything to my sister and brother and her blood descendents - except me and my kids. She was apparently convinced that all of use, me and my kids, had died in a train wreck! The lawyer finally talked her into leaving me a very small portion of her estate, unless I contested it to get an equal share, in which case I'd get nothing. So my sister is the executor, and she says she will do what's fair for all of us, but I'm not holding my breath. As for my own stuff, it's my daughter who would be most interested in the 'stuff' part, and she will split whatever she gets with her brother. He's not into 'stuff' so none of it will matter to him. She is also the one who will have the same responsibility for her father, dividing whatever he has between her brother and their half sibs fairly.
I'm also cutting back/down on stuff. Most of mine means nothing to anyone other than myself now anyway, with very few exceptions. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 10:29:27 AM | RONO -I agree about making your intentions LEGAL. I worked in the legal profession and it gets really UGLY.
However, I've also met some elderly people who started having annual STUFF parties with their offspring.
They'd have them all come over and go through the "stuff" and let those offspring express their own wishes about it all. The STUFF of value $$$$ got debated amongst them ALL.. with parent in on the debate.. and that value was assigned to that offspring in like a ledger. It either diminished or increased that offsprings claim/entitlement expectation of the eventual liquid assets.
The PARENT was the final arbiter.. and on stuff that more than one offspring desired.. decided that it would NOT be given to either.. but Solomon like it would be sold with the $$$ going in the pot for all.
THEN.. the parent started giving away $$$ while they were still alive to see it go to good use. ALL the time, ledgers were kept keeping the other beneficiaries aware of the VALUE of the transactions.
They got to see the JOY on the beneficiaries faces in receiving before they died. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 10:34:34 AM | | My mom last fall gave my daughter her photo albums...they are priceless to my daughter she is always talking about the people in them that she has no clue who they are but how great it is to have the pictures. She took a few out and put them in frames around her bedroom, one is of my parents dancing at their wedding and it is on her nightstands...the smile on her face when my mom gave her the albums made my mom cry so there is alot of wisdom to what 1kindman4u said. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 10:36:33 AM | My pumpkin idea is public domain, I took a few shots while making it and posted it on
http://www.youtube.com/user/1SOFISINTOWN#p/f/0/OdGgT8JQ_iI
As for our heartbreaking love affair, I wouldn't hold my breath to happen, you are all the way over there....
You are IN my will already. All you have to do now is wait until I kick the bucket!
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Posted: 11/1/2009 10:44:34 AM | noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
I want you to "give it to me personally"
And your stuff too!
(yes.. I AM cracking up here) | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 11:15:30 AM | My two daughters will get all my "stuff".
I also just took out a substantial life insurance policy last year which they are named the beneficiaries of.
oh oh...
If you see my name in the obituaries anytime soon....call authorities!!  | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 11:16:56 AM | i often ponder this question as well. my three adult children may not want some of the stuff dear to me. lots of antiques, etc. but, will suggest they do the same as when my ex came home from a marketing event, laden with engineering gadgets. i make several piles based upon value. each kid writes out their priorities and hands it to me or someone else. that way there is no wanting something, just because the sibling wants it. they draw for who goes first, starting with the "cheapest" pile. they then take turns gathering up the booty! we do it pile by pile. after it's over, they spend a day bartering and exchanging. i also think that since you are affected by mold and i by lymes, you have to give extra care to thinking out going from one extreme to the other. phase "simplicity" in slowly. eg downsize the chickens, find good homes, maybe sell off some property or rent it out to others. i am trying the housemate thing. it's hard, but we are both learning and it will be advantageous in "lessons learned", when i find the man i want to live with! also, you could use the rv to scout around and find a smaller but doable place to finally reside. if you come this way, just holler!
for now, i am simplifying, starting with papers. i'm doing a barter with a housemate who helps as personal asst. it is an arduous task. she has downsized from a condo to one room and some storage here. i am dealing with the last remains of boxes and boxes of paperwork. having fost/adopted three teens, i am worried about getting their documents in order for their future. there are the divorce records, the legal records, the financial and property records, the medical records (often audited), yada yada. i have paperwork sufficient to to warrant a group home and full time staff--i did this all on my own after the divorce!
then, i am concerned about anyone reading my private journals, etc. so, i'm cleaning them up. some material will hopefully go into a book about adopting at age 50 and the life i've lead. everyone says they will write a book. many are urging me to do it.
with respect to my parents stuff, i am thinking that no one else will care about some of it. so, plan to do some sort of ceremony. burn it and bury it with a blessing. maybe include some of mine with it or leave instructions to do the same with it, when i pass.
i worry the most about my pets. my kids all have lives and are somewhat "pissing" away money. so, i am changing my trust to withhold it only for emergencies until they mature. to date, they've been in seperate special needs trusts, so that no govt. agency can dip into what little i have for them. i also want to save some for my current charities. problem is that with the recession, not as much to spread around as before!
as for future pets, i am not doing it anymore. however, i will help pet adoption agencies. or take on a pet, if they promise to back me up with medical bills or taking the pet, should i pass in the future. i will also provide respite to other adoptive parents, but no more for me!
i think my focus is on giving while i'm alive. i find locals via appropriate agencies, who are just out of jail/prison and trying to start over. many just couldn't afford a good attorney or are getting off drugs. most of my financial charities are international adoptees, wildlife, local to world hunger. having lost weight, almost all of my clothes have been brought to the people getting out. i keep some for my barter meetup. the furniture is the hardest. i start with my kids and then slowly find people who will care for several generations of antiques and the like-- and i feel good that they have it. some are on limited budgets and some have no parents to pass stuff down to them. you can also check out shelters and goodwill does a good tax deduction as well as make things affordable to those starting out.
i belong to a homesteaders group and many are now living in rv's. but, if your disabilty lays you up again, who will care for things, let alone your remaining animals? you must, at least, join a reliable group to do this and be a support network. what will you do with all the exposure to chemicals, such as bonfires, sprays, etc. at least you now have neighbors. maybe downsize first and ease into it all? barter for a housemate or helper? that is what i am doing.
over time, i hope to be with a mate. if not, one more housemate or else find a mobile home on the beach and deal with a move. not ready yet. not sure what i would do with my creek mallards, et al! i go out and call come to mommy and they duck walk down the creek squawking at me. they even know my voice when i walk down to the ocean. alas, they give a rat's butt about my possessions, short of the duck food! | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 12:00:03 PM | I have one child so he’ll get all my crap ... and the crap I inherited from my mother ... and my father ... and my grandmothers ... and various aunts and uncles ...
I come from a family of packrats so it’s become a family tradition to stockpile lots of useless crap so that each generation has to spend several months going through all of it when someone dies, only to keep 3/4 of it for sentimental reasons. It is incumbent upon me to uphold that tradition and I take that responsibility very seriously ... and he will have to as well...
whether he likes it or not!
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Posted: 11/1/2009 12:02:54 PM | | I won't say who gets what. If I did they might start planing my untimely death. | |
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