| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 9:09:48 AM | | Having never been married, was wondering from the previously married, separated, still married but miserable, widowed and cheats, what is the greatest downside of singlehood for you? For me it is having someone for social mirroring. I tend to go off on my own tangents and would be nice to have someone reel me in, face me off in a better angle and give me a gentle shove from time to time. Sharing basic bills would be a big plus, having a person who has your best interest at heart and helps you to do the best you can do and be the best you can be would be fantastic, though kind of a lot to hope for... (are we at 200 yet?) | |
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 9:30:47 AM | I had a good marriage till I was widowed.
Now I have a good single life. I am not needy, love my own company, love the company of friends I love.
I admit I had to learn with experience that I would enjoy being single. To begin with I figured being older and single was going to suck. I would have been shocked back then if I thought that 16 years later, I would be loving my single lifestyle. Give it time folks. Get to know the real you. Spoil yourself by doing all the things you have always wanted to do................life is only a problem if you make it a problem. | |
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:06:04 AM | | There is absolutely nothing wrong with being 50 and single. There is also nothing wrong with being 50 and in a relationship. There are downsides to both, I'm sure, but there are also advantages. Not everyone wants to be single and not everyone wants to be in a long term relationship. Fortunately, we have the right to choose. I enjoy being single and have for a good deal of my adult life. I also really loved being married to a wonderful, loving man. I would never been in a relationship to avoid being alone. I am very content with my own company but I do prefer sharing the wonders of this world with someone I love. | |
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:41:24 AM |
you already DID this post under the UPSIDE. Get offline and DO something
I didn't DO the other thread. Someone else did. It is sad and negative. This is to counterbalance that thread, to remind people who forgot or never learned, that being okay with being single is... okay.... OK?
I am not parked in front of the computer all day watching for posts. I am up and down all day, (because of previously stated health reasons) and I get up, do something, lie down for a bit, get up, do something else, maybe two things, lie down, recoup, get up and do more. I stay busy all day, every day. Sorry if my frequent postings here give some impression that I am sitting comatose in front of the screen waiting for the picture to change a bit. I am not. Hopefully you are not either. | |
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 11:46:29 AM | ^^^
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Both of you, just ignore him,,,
I know the words get under your skin but why not just realize that most are catching the contradiction between his posts and his screen name,,,
He's killing his own chances of finding someone every time he spews some crap like that,,,
Just enjoy,,,
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:09:15 PM | In attempting to opine to the thread's question, I think the downside is that the pool of potential dates/mates is significantly shallower that at say, 25. As we age, our chances of finding, or being found, by someone who we can exchange mutual admiration and interests with just gets smaller, if for no other reason, due to attrition.
I have no statistics to quote, but I would bet that there are far fewer single 50 year-olds than 25 year olds. Of that smaller number, how many are we going to find attractive? How many will find us attractive? What percentage will live within a reasonable distance?
Not to mention all the other variables.
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:18:58 PM | | you got that right joe... I look at my matches and have been asking myself, "am I that OLD???" which I'm sure I must be, I just haven't bee paying attention... I gotta change my idea of attractive I think. I am new to POF. I been really stuck in a vortex for about a dozen years and have not kept up on what is current, even with myself. Its good though... I'm learning more each day here, about me and other people in general. Sooner or later I'll find my bearings and be off and running (or staggering, whatever... ;) | |
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:33:18 PM |
what is the greatest downside of singlehood for you?
Men need women who need men, which the situation may never be changed. When you aren't married, you can't smell the opposite sex every day, which is bad for your own body system, not to mention the rest of needs of you from your opposite sex. | |
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 1:02:50 PM | I didn't DO the other thread. Someone else did. It is sad and negative. This is to counterbalance that thread, to remind people who forgot or never learned, that being okay with being single is... okay.... OK? Wait a minute.
The other thread was the POSITIVES of being single.. the UPside.
It was the "okay with being single" side.
But this thread is... what is the DOWNside.. which translated could mean the 'sad and negative'.
I think either you, OP, are confused... or I am! LOL
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 1:18:46 PM | | There are compromises for everything in life. ................ you just got to make the best of what you have and be glad to have good health to appreciate what you have. Don't focus on what you haven't got. Don't look for problems when you don't have one - PLEASE! | |
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 7:43:54 PM |
Having never been married, was wondering from the previously married, separated, still married but miserable, widowed and cheats, what is the greatest downside of singlehood for you?
Geez..right now I'm too busy enjoying the upside of singlehood ( F R E E D O M ) to think about the greatest downside.
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 7:47:25 PM | There is not downside, only a down hill battle and I am going to enjoy ever minute of it....... like riding a bannister with a dress and no panties!! weeeeeehaaaaaaaaaa and no skid marks either!!
OMG **shakes head** damn full moon!! | |
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 8:37:54 PM | ... think the downside is that the pool of potential dates/mates is significantly shallower that at say, 25. As we age, our chances of finding, or being found, by someone who we can exchange mutual admiration and interests with just gets smaller, if for no other reason, due to attrition.
I have no statistics to quote, but I would bet that there are far fewer single 50 year-olds than 25 year olds. Of that smaller number, how many are we going to find attractive? How many will find us attractive? What percentage will live within a reasonable distance?
Not to mention all the other variables.
Being single at any age is the same, as far as I can tell. The downside when you are 45 or more seems to me pretty much as above...the pool of potential dates/mates is smaller. However, based on what I see on singles sites, there are far more divorced men than I realized. Still, a lot of women are saying many men on these sites are not divorced, actually are married and pretending to be divorced....so...back to the idea that the pool is way smaller than when we are younger. In RL, I don't meet that many single, divorced men in my age range who are attractive and interesting. Much more difficult than it was 20 years ago. | |
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/1/2009 11:35:17 PM | Size of pool ~~ The only time in my life where there were a lot of available, single males was when I was in school. And now. In school, they were nearby. Now, they're all over the place! But *no more* were a match for me when I was 18, or 33 than they are now. I think that's true for most of us. The blessed part about being over fifty (a lot over fifty, lol!), is that I don't hang on hoping. If the fella isn't a match, I don't pray, I end it. And I've reached an age where I *know* what is necessary for me to be in a relationship with another. I like myself and my own company well enough that it is never an issue of "oh, I'll be alone forever!" That would be okay, yanno?
I do want, very much, to be with someone. But not *anyone.* If being with this person doesn't improve my life, then what's the point? Doesn't matter that much anymore (if it ever really did) what friends or family or the larger culture thinks of a single woman of my age. . . .
I think the questions "what's the upside" and "what's the downside" are really the same question: sorta like flammable and inflammable. . . . Look different, but mean the same thing, eh.
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/2/2009 1:03:23 AM | No downside for me.
As a widow I had a great marriage and now I see life as a new adventure that I want to milk for all its worth. And I have family and friends who are honest enough to do what my husband did, which was hold tight to the string that is attached to me (the balloon) flying high and happy.
So that I dont drift away 
Having nice men in my life is also a bonus.
~Beth~ | |
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| So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:51:00 AM |
I look at my matches and have been asking myself, "am I that OLD???" which I'm sure I must be, I just haven't bee paying attention... I gotta change my idea of attractive I think. You're facing reality, so you're way ahead of the game. Good for you.
The downside of being single is that being with someone can be great, and being single you don't have that. It's what you're missing more than anything else. Being single is fine. Life is there to live. There are plenty of things to do, enjoy, look forward to. But it could be better when you have someone to share with, to care about, to beg for sex from, to sleep with, to be happy when they show up, to miss when they're gone, to fall in love with all over again as you watch their face sleeping beside you, and just because companionship and camaraderie are stimulating and satisfying. For a lot of things, it's better having someone you love to be with. You are having a pretty good time but you know compared to how it was, it could be a lot better. Love matters a lot in life. Adjusting without it has to be possible, but can only be preferable if you learned love costs more than you can afford, and that is just sad. | |
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