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 dvdey03

Joined: 10/4/2009
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Posted: 11/1/2009 10:17:24 AM
Ok, so heres one for you. I have a pile of unread msgs in my sent mail category. I had sent a couple of letters and had a good correspondence. I think we were getting along just fine. (The last email I got from her included, "tell me more")

She hadn't been on after that for over a week, which is fine. But I've seen her on a couple more times since then but my msgs are showing, not read or read/deleted, but unread. Now that could be just that she gets so much mail that she doesn't get to them all. Or is she getting them?

I wouldn't be so curious about that specific issue except that there are something like 12-15 unreads to different parties that have been on. So I'm wondering if the parties are getting the msgs. unread/ delete, or read, or read/ delete is pretty clear, but unread raises questions.

Also another question. If I delete a sent msg from my sent mail does it delete the mail from the other parties side?

Thanks for the answers

Dave
 *Cowboy*

Joined: 4/28/2006
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Posted: 11/1/2009 10:23:21 AM
If it is in your sent messages she has received them. No you may not delete a sent message and have it removed from where it was sent.

Cowboy
 Turn A Page

Joined: 11/17/2008
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Posted: 11/1/2009 10:39:06 AM
I've a friend with the same problem. Started some time yesterday and is still going on now. The messages she sends aren't being received by anyone, including myself. Messages I send to her have the subject but sometimes the text is missing. She replies to the messages but I don't receive them.

Weird
 klx68

Joined: 10/17/2009
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Posted: 11/1/2009 4:59:33 PM
Okay, I have sent over 18 messages to people since Wednesday. As of today only 3 show to be "read". Usually when I see that I will see that they have viewed my profile. But they haven't. When I message people I will send about 6-8 and average maybe 2-3 responses.
But this seems unusual to have no one respond. Even after sending even more out of frustration totaling 18 now.

Also, the last contact I made with someone was one that did not have a pic. I asked "why no pic"?
The user asked I give my email address and they would send a pic. I did so. And they never sent one back.
Could this be some hacker or something messing with me. I get other emails from people not associated with POF but nothing from the people I have messaged.
 Balled Eagle

Joined: 2/12/2009
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Posted: 11/1/2009 5:11:53 PM
If your sent messages are unread but the recipient has been online consider the very real possibility she got a message from someone more interesting and she has been so busy flirting with the new guy she is too preoccupied to clean up her mail.

That said, make no assumptions.


Also, the last contact I made with someone was one that did not have a pic. I asked "why no pic"?
The user asked I give my email address and they would send a pic. I did so. And they never sent one back.
Could this be some hacker or something messing with me. I get other emails from people not associated with POF but nothing from the people I have messaged.


Again, make no assumptions. Possibilities include:
Her mail service flagged your photo-carrying email as spam and quarantined it (and she doesn't have a clue how to check the quarantined files).

Your email got stuck in some cyber-space black hole and never reached her mail server. You could try sending it again, explaining politely you are risking being redundant but were concerned your first effort didn't reach her the first time.

She saw your photo and isn't interested.
 Island Raven

Joined: 8/19/2009
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Posted: 11/6/2009 12:01:20 PM
I sign in all the time but do not always have the time or energy to read and reply to the messages I have ..even if there has been ongoing correspondence....

I also may look at the profile of a new message but not read or delete it bc although I may not be interested in the person , I am a nice person and would rather take the time to message back and at least say thank you for the message

I have 12 messages right now that I just am really not in the mood to deal with ..
so I waste time in the forums instead
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