Hello :)
First off, have you got a good clear headshot of yourself? In a lot of your photos they're taken from a distance or with some sort of uniform/costume on - a close-up of you smiling is always a good idea.
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No need to put a girl off before she even starts, especially if you're not going to spellcheck your warnings. I'd delete this.
Ok profile update time. Start with the basics. 38yrs old, father of two demonic boys who live with thier mom in TX (no drama though, well setup relationship). I am a resident of Venice, FL. I consider myself of average build and height. Nothing special there. For the record ladies, I am NOT here for a quick fix or one nighter. Not my type of ride. Shocker huh? Marraige? Maybe down the road......maybe.
The only part of this I would keep is "I'm a father of two boys who live with their mom in TX, and I'm a resident of Venice, FL." The stuff about your age and height is already covered at the top of your profile. No need to mention that this is an update. Don't put yourself down unless you're very good at making it light and humorous. The 'not looking for' is negative, plus you've stated you're looking for dating, not intimate encounter, so again this doesn't need to be repeated.
Peeves: Ok, gotta throw this up. First, Mr. Right? Ladies, there is NO such animal. ALL men are dogs by nature. It's what we are. You will seldom meet a gent that doesn't have "SOME" type of fault, drama, bad habit, etc. Is that bad? Of course not. That is what defines individuality. The best you can do is try to find someone loyal, honest, and will treat you like a mate and not a piece of meat. We ARE out there, but you just have to look under the shell to find what it is you seek.
Negative and unnecessary. Your profile should ideally be positive and upbeat. This just sounds snappy and arrogant.
I have been burned bad in my last 2 marraiges. Both wives decided to find others (if you cheat, aren't you supposed to cheat with someone BETTER? LOL)first while I was in Baghdad, second while I was at work. Oh well. Either way, I am VERY careful on what I say or do relationship wise.
Again, this gives such a negative feel to your profile. Everyone has hurt in their past, but a dating profile is no place to air it. Keep the detailed relationship history for when a woman asks you about it.
I am a family oriented person. I enjoy family time at least once a week. No TV, no computer. Just board games, bike ride, etc. I have two boys of my own that live in TX with their mother. I get them during the summer. So anyone I get with has to understand that and accept that. My sons are my #1 priority in my life. Nothing comes before them. If you have kids, chances are I will feel the same about yours. I love kids and the innocent minds they offer.
I would move this paragraph up so it continues from your first line about '...and I'm a resident of Venice, FL.' and cut it down to 'I am a family oriented person and I enjoy time with my boys when they come to stay with me in the summer, playing board games or going on bike rides.'
The rest of it should be deleted. It sounds confrontational - 'my kids come first and you better be okay with that'. Of course your kids are a big part of your life, it doesn't need to be said. Also, you've repeated the line about having two boys who live with their mother, from earlier.
Now the downside.
Don't put any part of your life down, the woman reading will make her own decision about whether it's a problem.
I lost alot of really good friends and occasionaly, that will come to the surface and hit me like a ton of bricks. Other than that, I don't like to talk about it so do not be offended if I choose not to discuss my military past.
Now I understand that this is part of your life and obviously something that still affects you. But again, it's a massive negative vibe and could easily be cut. It would be better if you could either say something positive you gained from the experience, or just move on from it after mentioning that it's something you've done.
As for what I'm looking for, I am into the slender ladies, if you have green eyes I'm already yours LOL. Something about green eyes turns me into a blubbering pile of goo. I don't know why. However, unlike others on here, I WILL reply to all. Even if it's just friends. Not replying to someone is just flat out rude and makes you out to be a prude. Not a cool thing.
This far too specific and says nothing about what you want in a woman personality-wise. Cut the physical stuff. You've just turned off any women who aren't sure if they'd count as slender, even if they do, and any woman without green eyes. Instead, write about the sort of woman you're looking for as in - good sense of humour, likes motorbikes, feminine, loves the outdoors, anything that's less about what she has to look like.
And cut the stuff about replies and people being rude. This is yet more negativity. For a start, women have many reasons for not replying to a man, and putting what you've put suggests you'd be one of those guys who gets nasty when a girl decides he's not for her. There's no need for this stuff on your profile.
I may not be the richest, smartest, or best looking. Nor do I choose to be.
Again, this puts yourself down, and the 'I don't choose to be' sounds more like sour grapes than individualism.
t's too much fun watching drunks fall over each other trying to get to the one decent looking young lass in there. Better than Comedy Central.
Laughing at others = sounds cruel. This might be okay if the rest of your profile was fairly light-hearted and funny, but it's not so this doesn't really work.
I may not be the best looking ladies, but you will NOT find someone more dedicated to happiness in the heart and dedication to proving you are the one to be put on the pedestal.
Puts yourself down, plus women these days aren't keen on pedestals. They insinuate unrealistic expectations.
A nice walk next to the water discussing anything from current events to flaws in romance
This is the only part of your first date idea I would keep, plus I would change 'flaws in romance' to something positive and more neutral like 'our favourite movies'.
You have the potential to write a great profile. You obviously have a lot of life experience and things you could discuss, but your profile is weighted down with negativity about yourself and others at the moment. Remember, this doesn't have to be your life story, it's just an overview of who you are, what you enjoy and what you're looking for. All it needs to be is interesting enough to make a woman think 'I'd like to get to know this guy'. Then you take it from there.
I hope this was helpful, and good luck :)
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