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 STL Gentleman

Joined: 10/28/2009
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Comments welcome on my profile
Posted: 11/1/2009 2:44:28 PM
I am looking for feedback on my profile. Looking for input as to things I can add to make it better. Anything I need to take off?

So far I have not received any responses to emails I have sent and I am trying to figure out why I have not received much interest on this site.
 HouseKitten86

Joined: 7/2/2009
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Comments welcome on my profile
Posted: 11/1/2009 4:20:03 PM
Hi there,

More than one picture is always a bonus. Your current one isn't bad but a good quality head-and-shoulders shot with a big smile would be a great, plus some more full length ones.

You could do with some more interests - writing 'plus many others' doesn't look that great. You can guarantee no one ever puts that into a search :)


I don't rush into things as I am at that point in my life where it is hard for me to blame mistakes on inexperience. However I am open to new things so it is sort of a catch 22.


This sentence is a bit wishy-washy, I'd delete it.


when my knees allow me to.


If you actually have something wrong with your knees then I'd lightly explain it, such as putting in brackets afterwards (old sporting injury), if this is just meant to be funny then I'd cut it, it makes you sound old.


I have to admit that I do not like dancing because I look like every typical white male dancing sterotype when I make an attempt at dancing. Slow dancing I enjoy however.


The word dancing 4 times in two sentences! I'd change this to along the lines of 'I've been known to make an attempt at dancing but it just perpetuates white male stereotypes - I find it safer to stick to slow dancing!'


I am looking for a woman that is not threatened by my daughter


I don't think you need to mention this. You have a daughter, you've said a little about her. To be honest, it'd be better to see a sentence about how you spend your time with her and what you enjoy doing together, rather than a warning to potential jealous women. Anyone who has a problem with kids won't bother to reply to you or get in touch in the first place - this is a bit like putting 'no players' down. Of course no one wants someone who clashes with them but writing little warnings just looks silly and exposes your own insecurities.


I would show that gentleman still exist. Doors will be opened for you and you will not be expected to pay for anything. I personally do not understand how guys expect women to pick up the bill or split it 50/50. I do not say this in any sexist way so please do not take this in a negative way.
It is hard to say what would happen on a first date as I think most first dates are spontaneous as both people will figure out how long the date will go and what to do as the date progreses. I will promise that the date will be no pressure.


I think there is an over-emphasis on how you'd like to be seen in your profile, ie. as a gentleman. You can be a gentleman but it sure helps if you don't make a big deal about it. All this talk of 'no pressure' and 'doors being opened', both things you've written twice, make it look like you have this narrow view of how men should treat women and that you learned it out of a book. Just be yourself! Jerks are perfectly capable of opening doors too, so this kind of offer means little. Cut the pseudo-nice guy stuff and just write naturally - what would you like to do on a first date? No ones expecting this section to be the most original ever, but please don't put anymore about treating a woman like some sort of princess. Believe it or not, most women want a partner they can be best friends with eventually, not someone who puts them on a pedestal.

You have a potentially great profile here, hidden under the 'I'm a gentleman' layers. Good luck :)
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