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Posted: 11/1/2009 3:27:28 PM | Will take suggestions, and give it another few weeks. I'm working so much right now, it's killing my social life, so a friend suggested this site as something I could do while I worked.
So ladies, what should I do? Different picture? I actually think my profile is good, and pretty much what to expect with me, but then again, maybe it could use some work. I'll take constructive critisism and try some updates before throwing in the towel.
Seems like 90% of women here are looking for a LTR, and while I'm not ruling that out, I think dating is the logical starting point for that, right?
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Posted: 11/1/2009 3:55:21 PM | I think so too, really. Pics + interests DONE.
I don't know what constitutes "working" really, being very green at this whole internet "dating" deal. Honestly seems like more work than just going someplace, anyplace and just striking up a conversation with a woman, if you ask me.
Maybe a bit egotistical (see one of my new pics LOL) so maybe I just had unreasonable expectations, and the LTR vs "dating" thing is a deal breaker. I don't understand how ANY reasonable person would have any expectations meeting someone new, either on line or IRL, without spending some time getting to know them. That's "dating" and it goes without saying that if you date someone long enough and enjoy it, well- that's your LTR right there!
/rant. So I guess the pics and interests can be fixed easily, not so much with the smoking. Oh well, that's me.
THANK YOU for the input. Anyone else? I have more pics if those aren't that great, but I like them. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 4:02:58 PM | I like the pic with the kittens - lol - it shows your playful side!
I agree re: dating and long term. I have dating on my profile, but maybe such will lead to long term. I'm not seeking a role in the hay either. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 4:07:20 PM | 1. need a head shot, close up and not blurry. and try to avoid pics with other women. either cut them out completely or don't use the pic at all.
2. you need more interests. try using one or two word interests. move the comment about women with self esteem to the about me section. and move the interests you have at the end of your about me section to the interests section.
3. speaking of which, your about me section is repetitive. why give your age, status and if you have kids when those things are already addressed. try not to repeat yourself. use that section to talk about the kind of person you are, not your interests. if you state you are busy, it comes off as you may be too busy to date. and no need to mention all of your worldly goods unless you're looking to be a sugar daddy. focus on your personal traits. some things don't need to be mentioned because you use your settings to set those parameters. age, drinkers, druggies, location, etc can all be modified to your liking thru mail settings.
4. positive word choice. focus on what you want, not don't want.
5. be more creative with your first date. you might turn a girl off if you're offering her a ride on the bike on the first date. same thing with the smoking. just as an fyi. not saying to change...
good luck...
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Posted: 11/1/2009 4:12:22 PM | Thanks, bombs. Added another pic, hopefully that'll do.
I added like 10 interests, so I should be good there, unless I'm the only one who finds those things interesting LOL
I'll fix the section now.
good rec on the positive word choice, but I have no worldly goods other than my own house a car, and a job which any grown man should have, IMO. I have a motorclcyle and I do travel, didn't think I was "bragging" but I'll see about toning it down. Thanks.
Tried to keep the date general, but I can be more specific. My schedule is murder, so lunch it is.
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Posted: 11/1/2009 4:59:53 PM | Hi there,
Pictures of yourself with women are generally considered a bad idea because it's like saying 'there are other women in my life who are so important to me, I consider using their photos in my profile completely acceptable' ie. here's the competition.
Now fine, everyone has sisters, aunts, friends and cousins who are female, it's not a crime. But it's a bit like going out to a bar with your best female friend and then being surprised when women don't approach you. Girls don't like to think there's another woman hanging around the man they're interested in, and if your friend/aunt/sister happens to very pretty, they might even feel there's no point starting something with you because you've already got a gorgeous unexplained female hanging about - why should they compete?
Notice at no point did I say this was 100% logical, but it's a good enough reason not to do it.
Okay! As others have said, a good clear close-up shot for your main picture would be much better. Can't see your face in your current one at all.
mocking the boring
I'd cut this from your interests, it's cruel.
Ok. I am not a lonely guy. I have a lot going on, probably too much, and I'd like to find some time to date some nice women. I can find a one-night-stand easily enough
Ouch. Cut all of this. From this I get the impression you're very busy, quick to deny that you're lonely, you mention women plural rather woman singular which instantly puts up 'so how many people is he expecting to date?' thoughts, and you apparently sleep around. I'm sure that's nowhere near what you wanted this to say, so I'd cut it.
I’m not really into settling down just yet, having been single again for a year or so, but am having trouble finding a woman that isn’t exactly on the rebound, nor looking for her next ex-husband.
Again, something I'd cut. The first part screams 'commitmentphobia!' and the second part shouts 'I don't have a high opinion of women!'
I’m kind of unreliable
I feel like a large part of your profile is actually a huge disclaimer. You warn women reading that you're unreliable, you can easily find one-night stands, you're very busy, not ready to settle down and prone to disappearing without notice.
The positive stuff is great - I'd just cut down on the negatives and concentrate on the upbeat stuff.
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Posted: 11/1/2009 5:10:45 PM | OK. The thing about the women friends is what it is, can't change that. Love it or leave it.
"mocking the boring: "I'd cut this from your interests, it's cruel."
True enough, but I didn't say I was perfect LOL. I'll do it, and don't you want to know that in advance?
"Ok. I am not a lonely guy. I have a lot going on, probably too much, and I'd like to find some time to date some nice women. I can find a one-night-stand easily enough" Ouch. Cut all of this. From this I get the impression you're very busy, quick to deny that you're lonely, you mention women plural rather woman singular which instantly puts up 'so how many people is he expecting to date?' thoughts, and you apparently sleep around. I'm sure that's nowhere near what you wanted this to say, so I'd cut it.
I am busy, I'm not lonely, and I'm expecting to date as much as possible. That's how you meet someone special, by dating a lot. I don't sleep around- Sure, I like sex like everyone else, and wouldn't mind a phyical relationship with someone I'm "dating" but I want the "dating" part before hand, and hope that would be something that would come as two people get to know and respect one another...
"I’m kind of unreliable" I feel like a large part of your profile is actually a huge disclaimer. You warn women reading that you're unreliable, you can easily find one-night stands, you're very busy, not ready to settle down and prone to disappearing without notice.
Perhaps unreliable is not the best word.. "Unpredictible" might be better.
I guess I disagree with much of what your saying, but I sincerely appreciate the time you took to offer some help. | |
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