| What prevents someone who has favorited your profile from contacting you?
Posted: 11/1/2009 4:53:40 PM | | The majority of men who had favorited my profile, have not taken the opportunity to contact me. What makes someone favorite a profile, but then just leaves it at that? It is an unspoken request to then have me initiate contact if I'm interested? Has anyone else run into this scenario? | |
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| What prevents someone who has favorited your profile from contacting you?
Posted: 11/1/2009 5:07:09 PM | Does this belong in the profile review section?
I've had this happen too, but I took the view that if they couldn't be bothered to type me a message and instead just favourited me then waited for me to make the first move, then they're not the sort of man I'm looking for anyway.
Mainly since I like men with balls  | |
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| What prevents someone who has favorited your profile from contacting you?
Posted: 11/1/2009 5:16:17 PM | Usually you try to send them an email but their restrictions don't allow emails from users who may live farther than they would want to date someone.
However, your range limit may be 75 miles and that guy lives 76 miles away, for one mile you miss the chance to get to know someone who may be great for you.
So you add them to your favorites in the hope that they see the notification, and send an email.
If they don't within a certain period of time you remove them and move on . | |
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| What prevents someone who has favorited your profile from contacting you?
Posted: 11/1/2009 5:33:51 PM | Maybe this is just me, but when I favorite a woman, what I'm thinking is, "This is a potentially interesting gal who I may wish to contact at some point in the future". I don't think "I must contact this woman immediately."
I try to message one or two women at time so my favorites. If/when the ones I'm currently most interested don't work out I might look at my favorites again I see if I want to message any of them. | |
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| What prevents someone who has favorited your profile from contacting you?
Posted: 11/1/2009 6:41:42 PM | Hi KZ…All in all it’s a good profile…not sure if that’s why you’re here. In answer to your question about guys marking you as a fave….It doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t have balls.
He might be interested but not have time to contact you today. He’s waiting till he gets back from that out of town meeting next week. OR….He might be inundated with ladies writing to him, but you happened to catch his eye. He didn’t want to lose track of you. Or….he’s shy and is afraid of being rejected so he hopes you’ll say hi first. Lots of reasons for marking you as a fave and not contacting you.
ONLY 1 person knows for sure. That’s HIM.
If you’re very interested….make contact first. If you’re so-so interested, make contact ‘cause if you fave him, he may not check his faves regularly…some people do, others don’t. Do say when you contact him that you noticed or were flattered he marked you as a fave. You can put “I noticed….” in the subject line.
Anyway, back to your profile…
1) I’d move the kids LOWER in the profile. Also, it helps if you give some idea of # of children and ages ‘cause there is a big diff between 5 and 15.
2) If you’re open to dating men with kids…it’s good to mention that.
3) I’d take out some of your more mundane interests…nighttime, laughing, etc. Too many makes you look A.D.D.
4) The 2nd paragraph is really hard to read….group the like info together and break it up into separate paragraphs if you can. I.E. put the music together in a separate paragraph.
5) Nix the “I’m a fighter”….instead, say something like you’re a nurse and at times you have to fight to save lives…it’s very different as you well know.
6) I like the 1st date… “There will come a day when someone walks into my life and makes me realize why it never worked with anyone else. I have no doubt.”….but I’m guessing it’s too heavy for most men. Even though you say “no expectations” in the line before….ending on this sentence is heavy. If you want to include it, I’d include it IN the profile, NOT in the 1st date. Make sense?
7) The opening line has the same difficulty….the “I’ve been doing this long enuf”….spells you’ve been here forever and struck out forever. A better opening would be NOT to mention how long you’ve been doing this….simply say….”The first 5 minutes of meeting someone tells you far more than the photos and profile and emails. “ That way you spin it POSITIVE vs. negative.
Hope that helps. Best to you. DenverSky5280  | |
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| What prevents someone who has favorited your profile from contacting you?
Posted: 11/1/2009 6:59:02 PM | Thank you all for your feedback.
As far as limits set on people who can email me - I know that a long distance relationship would be very hard for me and it's not what I'm seeking so I will keep that restriction in place.
I almost feel as if I'm being put on hold in case someone's first choice didn't work out. Not very flattering to think of it that way.
DenverSky - you have some very valid points. Thank you. I'll see about changing it up a bit. | |
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| What prevents someone who has favorited your profile from contacting you?
Posted: 11/1/2009 8:03:41 PM |
As far as limits set on people who can email me - I know that a long distance relationship would be very hard for me and it's not what I'm seeking so I will keep that restriction in place.
*weeps bitter tears*
Yeah - you know it's OT for this forum, but the advice is true. If you can't message someone, you favorite them and hope they write. It's also a "ploy" from shyguys. | |
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