| Another form letter..
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:37:44 PM | Does it seem there is a certain lack of.. call it basic courtesy. Ya write to someone..
they read the message.. they view your profile.. and then.. nothin.
Now.. I can accept a note saying "Thanks for your interest. Good luck in your search."
But just to let it hang..(waaaay past a couple days for time to 'think about it')..
I dunno.. it just seems.. ignorant.
Does this bother you..? Obviously.. it *does* bother me..
Sooo.. I propose a standard follow-up message be developed.. (evil grin).
Feel free to add options you think would improve POF..:
Dear ____
A message was sent you two weeks ago. You read it..
but seem incapable of forming a reply.. Let us help you..
Please check the appropriate excuse for not replying (check all that apply):
( ) Becasue I'm such a desireable catch, I get so many messages I don't have any time to reply.
( ) I'm just seeing how many fools I can hook by my profile..
( ) I can reply to messages sent to me..? How do I do that..?
( ) If they wanted a reply, why didn't they say so..?
( ) Toi khong noi ting Anh.. No hables Angleses.. Je ne parle pas d'Anglais.. | |
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| Another form letter..
Posted: 11/2/2009 1:13:02 AM | OK, there was a thread a couple of weeks ago about the difference between an 'excuse' and a 'reason'. Your form letter provides a lot of excuses. Here is the reason for not replying:
I am not interested.
You say that you can accept a simple thanks but no thanks. Perhaps you can, but there are many who can't and will reply to that with insults, whining and demands for further reasons. There seem to be many threads on this topic. | |
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| Another form letter..
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:24:10 PM | So basically, if I'm not interested.. who cares how they feel..?
and, of course, since it might inconvenience me to get a second messaage from those 'many who can't
and will reply to that with insults, whining and demands for further reasons. " I'll just not respond at all..
After all.. it's not like there was a *real* person writing me.. | |
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| Another form letter..
Posted: 11/2/2009 9:36:05 PM | Well, arguments aside. I do find it odd that people chose to ignore other people on a site designed to get people to talk and be friends. Even if your not interested in the person immediately based on looks (because we know you are not going to turn down an attractive person based on them being totally different from you), you could still be polite and friendly about it.
If I were to hold the door open for you at a public place, are you going to walk right past me without so much as a thank you because you aren't interested in me? That kind of reaction is literally asking for slashed tires and such. | |
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| Another form letter..
Posted: 11/3/2009 3:16:53 AM | | really, if you're going to cry about this inane topic, I'd suggest posting it in the appropriate forum, where it can be summarily deleted for being redundant | |
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| Another form letter..
Posted: 11/3/2009 12:37:25 PM | > if you're going to cry about this inane topic, I'd suggest posting it in the appropriate forum, where it can be summarily deleted for being redundant..
Jeez.. so much for a lighter look at POF.. Guess I'll just sit here and watch
the pretty lead balloon plummet gracefully to earth..
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| Another form letter..
Posted: 11/3/2009 3:42:46 PM | | Op it isnt about not wanting to be nice, it is about how unnice some people act when you reply you arent interested...it is also about the number of emails you get a day...at one point I was spending more time interacting with people I wasnt interested in than men I was...it was so negative that I quit logging on...then I had men tell me that no reply is what they want that if i sent them a thanks but no...they get excited to see a reply from me only to find out that Im not interested...so yanno you cant win ..you cant make everyone happy. | |
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| Another form letter..
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:46:11 PM | | It is not that we do not want to reply to people who write to us. The problem is some men can't accept the "No" and think we are rude for saying so. Also, some are stalker and it is scary to keep communicating to someone who lurk and stalk you where ever you go and what you do.. Just not right. | |
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