| What's not working?
Posted: 11/2/2009 1:23:38 AM | Hey -- just curious here . . . things started out rather well, but in the last month it seems no one is looking. I've written to several men with no result, which maybe is normal, except it's been a month now. Is there the proverbial spinach in my teeth? Take a look and tell me what you think. Thanks.  | |
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| What's not working?
Posted: 11/2/2009 3:19:55 AM | I am by no means an expert on this subject but I will try to help you the best that I can. So here goes!
1. It all starts with your primary profile picture. You have about 5 seconds to catch a mans visual interest. So find the best photo that you can of yourself. Try to be perfectly in the center of the photo and try to look as happy as you possibly can. Happiness is contageous.
2. The rest of your 7 photos should be different in theme. Try to get different angles of yourself for the men to view. It helps a great deal if you are in a different situation or scenarios in each of the 8 photos. This greatly helps potential suitors write an introductory email for you. For example if you are horseback riding in one photo and surfing in another the men can email you and comment on you in your photo. Example would be " Hey iamhappyheart that is a nice horse you have there or hey that wave is giant that you are surfing. The combination of photos might get you an email like " wow you look like an adventurous person. You surf and horseback ride!
3. Now the hard part! Getting a man to read your text. You have about 10 seconds of attention span to start with so your first line better be unique and well written. Try to pretend you are having a conversation with the man of your dreams. Do not to have a conversation with yourself as most female users do on this site. Visualize yourself being on the perfect first date with this perfect man. What would you say to him? What sort of conversation would unfold between the both of you.
4. What does a man want? A man wants to know what it is about you that will enrich his life. As you and him journey on your the same path in life how will you both benefit from each other intellectually, spiritually, emotionally ect. Emails, texting, phoneing and dates are an investment of precious time, energy and resources. These are things men are driven strongly by. A man needs to know what it is that you need to be happy. He will then be able to make a judgement call if he can deliver those things.
5. Change up your pictures every few weeks if you find results are not desireable. Rewrite your profile and try new approaches if you find the pool has dried up. Often you get a new batch of emails by simply going in a new direction. Keep adding and subtracting content until you get a smooth flow. And most important, always be true and honest about what you write. By being truthfull and genuine you project a clear picture of who you are. You are basically setting the stage to meet the person you are truly seeking.
6. The most powerfull tool this site offers is high volumes of people. Every individual person in the world has a number. X people out of X people will think you are amazeing. Some people have a better ratio than others. What you need to do is maximize your ratio with the tools I have listed. Then start sending out tons of introductory emails to potential suitors. Get some practice interacting with men so that you can polish up your skills for the prize catch. It's hard work and effort to make this online dateing thing work and if you give it an honest effort it will produce results.
I have many more tools and technical ways to work the numbers but this is a rather long winded post so I will post more as you have progressed. Good luck. | |
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| What's not working?
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:57:33 AM | | Your goal says you only want "Friends" which implies no possibility for a romantic relationship. If that's all you want, perhaps your current friends are all you need? | |
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| What's not working?
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:25:38 PM | [Your goal says you only want "Friends" which implies no possibility for a romantic relationship. If that's all you want, perhaps your current friends are all you need?]
True. I didn't think of it that way -- I was thinking more that if you can't be friends, then you can't be more than that. I hadn't seen it from that perspective. Thanks! | |
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| What's not working?
Posted: 11/4/2009 12:23:26 AM | singlebyfate: WOW. Good advice, thanks.
I've changed up my text a bit and dropped off several of my "likes" -- I got to looking at it and realized that that list is several conversations worth of stuff, so I need to keep most of it in my pocket for now. I changed up my pix (I'll be adding more as well). Let me know if you see anything specific that is too much or too little. :)
Thanks so much!!  | |
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