| How long should we view a profile & what three things do you look for in a person and their profile?
Posted: 11/2/2009 9:50:35 AM | We all scan profiles for a few moments which will coincide with our preconceptions of people we have met, past and present.... But, what makes us decide to contact or ignore someone...?
In my case, I look for attractiveness, for sure, if I only look at picture profiles - but, then I know I'm not good looking.... So, I don't always look at just the photograph - plus, how many times have you seen the "iconic" picture in searches change completely when you visit someone's profile?
So, my three things are...
1 - Beauty - not just outer but also inner... is their cup half full? Sure, it helps if there is more than one blurred photograph to get a better opinion... The photograph helps grab my attention as does the tag-line ... giving me the desire to see more....
2 - Life and Laughter - I love humour and am pleased if I actually see it within a profile... so, length here really does matter - because it gives me a better perception and idea of the person... including compatibility.. a longer profile than one sentence shows the person has made an effort to express themselves.
3 - Open-mindedness and profile... How many times do people state they are looking for "anyone" then.... put a long list of restricting people who can contact them... meaning they are not just looking for "anyone"... isn't honesty a worthwhile trait anymore? I'd sooner see in a profile that they want someone over 6ft and know where I stand - about 5 inches short!
How long do I spend on a profile? In the first instance about 2-3 minutes... then, if someone views my profile, I return - and spend longer to see if there's some hope of a star in a universe of singletons.
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| How long should we view a profile & what three things do you look for in a person and their profile?
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:05:21 AM | Well OP how many minutes did you allow yourself on mine? 
Im love looking at profiles both male and female.
When man hunting i look for the following:
Pictures - The non blurry not over 5 years old variety, i also like a profile with more than one picture so that you stand a better chance of it not being a fake picture, pictures with your top off always work for me but im just a dirty old perv  .
Humour - A well written profile no matter of the length can show a persons humour and warmth of character, as i stated on a different thread i cant stand ones that have a massive list of dislikes its just so negative.
Honesty - Gonna contradict myself a little now from what i just posted, but if you dont like blonde gals for instance it is better to state your preferences, just keep it short  | |
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| How long should we view a profile & what three things do you look for in a person and their profile?
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:49:19 AM | If I am talking to the said person I will refer back to the profile several times, normally just for referance or simply to remind me what type of person they say they are.
I must say that probebly the first thing I look at is where in the country they are as I dont want a penpal I want a boyfriend.
The second is probebly their age because again I'd like somone around my own age NOT a toyboy/superstud.
And thirdly I look at what they are looking for because we have to be looking for the same or it just wouldnt work.
See hunni is very easily pleased 
Oh god yes and if they are married! Bit imperitive that one. | |
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| How long should we view a profile & what three things do you look for in a person and their profile?
Posted: 11/2/2009 1:02:24 PM | Interesting responses so far:
Loose end.....
1) A large chest
2) A smoker
3) A large chest
Should I be surprised here?
Gucci Girl....
Well OP how many minutes did you allow yourself on mine?
About 5 minutes because your profile was a longer one than normal... but for a first date - your expensive when it includes a flight to the USA - then a ride Central Park - by carriage!
Trixie - I have to agree, there are a lot of shallow people around - but, sadly - that's life - hence asking the opening question... That way it gives people a chance to "target"" their profile?
Swanky-lad - I used to consider age but... having been out with and having friends who (yes, they are daughters of my good friends) take me to "clubs" (that's discos to those of my generation) I do not see age as being a barrier ... for me at least. But, I respect your opinion and it is noted... may be as a relationship it would be an issue.
Adele G - two options I didn't consider... spelling (as some do write in Text Speak) and proximity... possibly because my ex was from the USA, I've never considered distance. Thank you... for raising both for my consideration and possibly for others - it seems elles-belles and hunnibelle (even though she's easily pleased) agree with you.
Mizphitz - interesting you point out that you seek out the photo as number one... though, I fully understand why some people don't place their photograph on here.
POSH... well, after meeting you and your family at the Stratford meet... and seeing your son "pull" his teacher (FOR A DANCE... READERS).... I find your comments appropriately amusing but... you're just a spring chicken too!
sjxx - You're just a minx!!
Billy GA - I won't ask to which number 4 was referring to .... but guess it to mean height!
Thanks you all.... so far - it's given me a great deal to think about - and all of it is respectfully appreciated | |
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| How long should we view a profile & what three things do you look for in a person and their profile?
Posted: 11/2/2009 2:21:53 PM | 1) A well written profile that gives me abit of an insight into the person and their personality - if it's funny an all that helps as i am attracted to a GSOH
2) Some form of physical attraction - as i state in my profile it isnt imperative however there does have to be some kind of mutal physical attraction; besides, what someone else may find unattractive i may beg to differ!
3) Where the person resides in the country. | |
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| How long should we view a profile & what three things do you look for in a person and their profile?
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:06:35 AM |
Looks are 100% the deal seal.
NOT. Looks are the start point - if they look OK, they're not averse to washing themselves and their clothes and don't dress like my gran I'll read further.
Then - do they have a sense of humour and a personality.
Then - have they mastered the rudiments of English and like books and film and some modern groovy beat combos.
The biggest turn off is airhead profiles full of all the usual cliches. | |
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| How long should we view a profile & what three things do you look for in a person and their profile?
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:20:46 AM | it's more a case of reading things that put me off
age, sex, location ..... (a/s/l) .... do people still use that, it used to drive everyone nuts ...
anything wishy washy is dismissed regardless of what she may look like .....
anyone who describes what they look like in a profile when they have photo's on there !
a two line profile that contains the phrase .. if you want to know just ask
the list is endless
basically anyone who shows signs of being a dumb-ass is | |
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| How long should we view a profile & what three things do you look for in a person and their profile?
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:47:26 AM | When I was looking the first thing would be the photo, do I find them attractive? And anyone who thinks me shallow is entitled to their own opinion but I don't see how you can date someone you're not attracted to. This doesn't mean they have to look like Brad Pitt, as most men think, we don't all find the guy attractive.
Humour and personality would be next, is this someone I could imagine spending time with?
And lastly - and I think this is the bit most people don't consider - who are they looking for, I can think they're the sexiest man alive but if they're looking for a buxom blond there's no point me even saying 'hi'.
Total time would depend on the profile. In some cases a few seconds - as that's how long it takes to read, 'If you want to know about me, ask'.
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| How long should we view a profile & what three things do you look for in a person and their profile?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:13:31 AM | The length of time I spend reading a profile depends on how much is written there, and whether I am immediately put off or not.
What do I notice first?
1) Looks: can I imagine them looking up at me from halfway down the bed without feeling nauseous?
2) Location: can we manage to get together without visiting airports?
3) Wit: Do they appear to have a higher IQ than my flip-flop, and does it come with a fully functioning sense of humour.
You'd think that wouldn't be a problem, eh? | |
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