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Posted: 11/2/2009 11:30:28 AM | How can I Improve my orgasm?
I masturbate alot, and frankly i'm getting a little bored. My orgasm doesn't feel like it used to, and i'm finding it harder and harder to arouse myself. Are there any suggestions out there for some masturbation tips and techniques? | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 11:37:35 AM | Myself, if I needed that information I’m sure I could find it at the library or a dvd somewhere. However, seeing as you posted this to absolute strangers on a dating site, I am sure you will be getting lots of emails to help you out.
Good luck with that!
p.s. great advertising!
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Posted: 11/2/2009 11:39:47 AM | Asking more of a female side then MALES..Just a question obviously, people arent very mature point up above! | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 11:41:38 AM |
Asking more of a female side then MALES..
Oh you'll get PLENTY OF FEEDBACK from everyone......hold on, BumbleLove! | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 11:47:09 AM | | OMG ya'll are silly | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 11:53:17 AM | | Why not buy a BOB? | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 11:56:55 AM | | Get a partner. Let him do it for you. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 12:08:49 PM | | I was going to ask if your taking your time idea but then I realized it is already taking longer. Maybe fantasize about a forbiden lover? | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 12:19:34 PM | | Get a good man that melts your butter....that's all... | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 12:24:03 PM | If this gal wasn't getting enough e-mails before,
this post will put her over the top...
try nipple stimulation, bob with more settings/fixtures, sensitivity cream or shower massager -i have known a few females who say a shower massager is the only way they can fully achieve
do you work out? -try jogging or going to the gym and get an exercise routine going... | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 12:25:14 PM | You're 23?! At 23 there were only two things better than some quality time alone: pizza, and the real thing.
Try mixing it up a little. Use your imagination and rub it with something different. Horseradish maybe.
Just sayin' | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 1:05:34 PM | try in the bath tub...
you lay on your back and shift yourself under the the running water....works everytime the hard part is finding the position | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 1:18:34 PM | often heard having another lady friend over thats higher in libido can show you a trick or 2 and you dont even have to go all the way with each other
start typing in various erotics into google search videos and find what floats your interests.
strip clubs are another good one. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 1:45:06 PM | How do you masturbate? Try varying it a bit. If you usually use only your hand, try a toy or two. If you're using toys, vary that. If you're only masturbating with clitoral stimulation, then try using a dildo inside--I find this often makes my vibrator-powered orgasms more intense.
There are a lot of different vibrators out there with different materials, types of vibrations, etc. Experiment with those types, try starting with something weaker, moving to something stronger. Try a pulsing vibrator instead. Experiment with G-spot stimulators and butt plugs. Get a pair of clothes pins of nipple clamps. Vary the place (move to the bath, for instance, or get crazy in the kitchen).
Read some erotica if you haven't been doing that--there are some great books out, or you can check out literotica.com or some similar site. Look at some porn and see if you can find something new that turns you on that you'd never thought of before.
Another possibility: I will occasionally go through periods where masturbating just doesn't do it for me, and even if I do make myself come, it's really not at all satisfying--my body just wants sex or nothing at all (but preferably sex). It could be that masturbation simply isn't working for you at the moment. But I would definitely try playing around with different toys and erotic stimulation before reaching that conclusion.
Also: Women's sexuality doesn't really start settling in until around age 30 or so. You're still at the beginning of this journey. Have fun with it! Experiment, try new things, see if something you'd always assumed was gross or weird might actually turn you on. There's a world of stimuli out there--something will turn out to be awesome for you. Enjoy! | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 2:16:14 PM | | You are experiencing the exact same thing you would with a man only all by yourself. At first when you masturbated, the earth moved. It was fantastic and you never thought you could be so happy. But then after a while your hand started taking it for granted that any time it wanted, down your pants it goes. It stopped doing the little things that made you feel special. You started to resent the routine and being taken for granted but you didn't say anything. You switched hands trying to spice things up, but that didn't work. It got so every time you wanted sex you became watchful, expecting disappointment. You just lay there letting your hand do whatever it wanted. But it didn't even notice. It went ahead like always and after your orgasm it fell asleep, not even hearing your discontented sigh. You stopped wearing rings, stopped doing your nails, stopped using expensive hand lotion, but your hand didn't get the hint. Now it's more like a chore and you are frustrated because you know it could be so much better. You want the old magic back. It's time for you to talk to the hand. You have to assert your needs as a healthy woman with needs, and get your hand to realize the rut it is stuck in, so to speak. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 2:24:20 PM | Have you thought about investing in some erotic literature???
Food for fantasy. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 2:37:25 PM |
OMG ya'll are silly this from a woman that complained men are emailing her about her boobs... | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 4:01:30 PM | Alot??
alot might be your problem.
Try taking a break........you can de-sensitize that thing ya know! | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 4:04:13 PM | | Ask your friends for assistance. Surely someone will help you. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 4:04:18 PM | Go to the library, get the book
She Comes First by Ian Kerner. It should help you out. When you are done, read He Comes Next. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 4:35:10 PM |
How can I Improve my orgasm?
I masturbate alot, and frankly i'm getting a little bored. My orgasm doesn't feel like it used to, and i'm finding it harder and harder to arouse myself. Are there any suggestions out there for some masturbation tips and techniques?
Assuming that this isnt a joke I will say I have the same problem. It seems that we have some things in common, Motorcycles, speed , sexuality/sensuality, ETC... If we lived closer I would suggest that we meet and see if we cant solve our problem together but since you are so far away I would suggest that you look at my profile and follow some of the links to my erotic stories. According to the feed back I am getting they work wonders on a fading sex drive. I have been in a situation for a few years where I didnt have a woman in my life that I was having sexual intimacy with so I just wrote about my desires. Hope you enjoy them. Good Luck with your life,
Bob
PS if you like them write me and I will send you more. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 4:50:03 PM | | Hitachi Magic Wand and its attachments. Have fun... | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 4:54:37 PM | Well, without asking you to be really graphic, can you give us some idea of wha tyou currently do?
i.e. toys, fantasizing, etc?
Easy suggestion is go to an adult store and see what's on the shelves that makes you curious. Sometimes it beats buying toys online.
And... for me, masturbation gets boring when my fantasies are boring. In other words, it's the mental part that's letting me down, not the vibrating part.
So...indulging in some erotica might help you discover new things that float ur boat and fuel fantasies.
I like Ellora's Cave Publishing. They have some really good erotica books. I like Jaid Black and Shayla Black as authors (don't think they are related, just a coincidence really).
Also there is free erotica all over the internet. Quality greatly varies of course.
And there is nothign wrong with taking a break. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 5:00:59 PM |
You are experiencing the exact same thing you would with a man only all by yourself. At first when you masturbated, the earth moved. It was fantastic and you never thought you could be so happy. But then after a while your hand started taking it for granted that any time it wanted, down your pants it goes. It stopped doing the little things that made you feel special. You started to resent the routine and being taken for granted but you didn't say anything. You switched hands trying to spice things up, but that didn't work. It got so every time you wanted sex you became watchful, expecting disappointment. You just lay there letting your hand do whatever it wanted. But it didn't even notice. It went ahead like always and after your orgasm it fell asleep, not even hearing your discontented sigh. You stopped wearing rings, stopped doing your nails, stopped using expensive hand lotion, but your hand didn't get the hint. Now it's more like a chore and you are frustrated because you know it could be so much better. You want the old magic back. It's time for you to talk to the hand. You have to assert your needs as a healthy woman with needs, and get your hand to realize the rut it is stuck in, so to speak.
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