| If a Dream is Impossible..when do you stop chasing it?
Posted: 11/2/2009 1:55:15 PM | With the recent fall and rise of the economy it caused some not to be able to have quite that vacation....quite that ability to keep their cars, or quite able to chase that special someone of their dreams.....so whens it time to call quits?
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| If a Dream is Impossible..when do you stop chasing it?
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:46:28 PM | losing material possessions can be quite depressing, but damn losing people is just plain deflating...you can always get a car, house, boat, etc....i love my neighbor and shes poor as a church mouse...i'm crazy about jerry, and he can't retire for years yet...to give up on your dreams is to cripple yourself emotionally...your choice  | |
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| If a Dream is Impossible..when do you stop chasing it?
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:43:08 PM | | I think you have to be somewhat realistic with your dreams. I am pretty much convinced at this stage I am not going to play center field for the Detroit Tigers. I am also convinced that there are alot of women on this site who want someone to give them alot more materialistic goods than I am able to give. I accept that. There is also not very many women on this site who want to put up with a smoker like myself. Never quit reaching for the stars, just make sure you are standing on solid ground. | |
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| If a Dream is Impossible..when do you stop chasing it?
Posted: 11/7/2009 11:15:07 PM | If it is impossible, why waste your time?
When I was 10 I had a music instructor, who had teeny tiny little arms, I mean this man was not able to tie his own tie they were so short.
Each and everyone of his students at some point in learning would say, "I can't."
He pushed us and he was an incredible instructor, he knew exactly what each person had deep down inside and how far he could take them. Everytime anyone whined out in defeat, "I can't," he would whine back at them, "Can't and never could do nothin!"
For a long time, when it would leak out of one of us, and it always did, we would stare at him in confusion, wondering what he meant. Eventually, it sunk in..."Can't, and never could, do nothing (or anything)." Ahhhhh. BULLSHIT! Yes I can! I am not a loser. I am no quitter. I can DO what it takes to accomplish. I will show YOU!
Uh huh, we did and he just said, "And you always could. The only difference is now you believe it and you were willing to put the effort into it."
Accomplishing ANYTHING is only a matter of belief and doing what is required to do it. Nothing more. Nothing less. It is all in what you believe and are willing to do. You rarely ever then and still hardly ever now, see someone with his level of disability in such a public position. He was an instructor for the school district, for concert and marching band and private instruction. It was already clear that he had to believe, because he could play every single instrument and just holding some or getting them to his mouth was a major accomplishment. He wasn't good looking, mysterious, or even an artistic temperament. He was plain Joe normal with a wife, 2 cars, a 3 bedroom home and 2 children, with the black horn rimmed geek glasses of the 60's. Yet, inside, and what he did for us and many, many other children every single day made that man a giant. He not only taught impressionable children how to play and play well, he taught one of the most important lessons a child learns first outside of the home...character, discipline, work for results, belief, confidence, reality and the rewards of all of those.
Here I sit 40 years later and Mr. Dan Coates' lessons are as clear today as they ever were. It isn't the look of the package or the magical happening that makes you accomplished and great, as Hollywood, the media, movies and magazines teach us. It is digging down deep and determining to work beyond your limits, refusing to not accomplish, refusing to believe you have to lose because it is too hard. That is when you get the character and belief it takes to make dreams a reality. Believe in You. Ignore anyone who doesn't believe.
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| If a Dream is Impossible..when do you stop chasing it?
Posted: 11/8/2009 10:45:25 AM |
I think you have to be somewhat realistic with your dreams. I am pretty much convinced at this stage I am not going to play center field for the Detroit Tigers. I am also convinced that there are alot of women on this site who want someone to give them alot more materialistic goods than I am able to give. I accept that. There is also not very many women on this site who want to put up with a smoker like myself. Never quit reaching for the stars, just make sure you are standing on solid ground.
I think the term "realistic dream" is an oxymoron. Some dreams are more easily achievable than others, that is true. The only things that truly defines whether a dream is achievable or not is how hard you are willing to work for it, and if you're rigid in your definitions.
For example, you use the example of playing center field for the Tigers as being unlikely. Most likely you are correct, especially if you are not willing to quit smoking, get into shape and start practicing your game. Sometimes we work against ourselves. Also, would you be satisfied with playing one inning during spring training, or are you holding out for a starting position? If standing in one inning during spring training would make you happy, head down to Winter Park FL and see what happens. Billy Crystal got to play for the Yanks, remember?
I think you are mistaking "solid ground" for a negative self-image. When I smoked, I knew there were people who would not be interested in dating a smoker. I NEVER thought of it as "putting up with" me! It is simply a matter of personal preferences, and sometimes those don't mesh. Now, I no longer smoke and have health concerns, so I can't date a smoker. I do not think of smokers as "less than" or people who are "tolerated", I simply know that we have conflicting preferences/needs and leave it at that.
The "materialistic goods" statement is really off-putting. Take it from someone who has had money, and who has gone without, money does not solve problems. For every one thing it makes easier there seem to be two new problems that come along because of it. It has been my experience that the people who complain about this are, once again, not paying attention to preferences and needs.
For example: If you want to date a lady who has expressed an interest in going to the theater, be prepared to buy theater tickets. If you do not want to buy theater tickets, don't try to date the lady who wants to be at every performance. And shelf the "she can buy the tickets herself" bit, most of the women I know have no reservations about pitching in for pricier dates, or reciprocating later by treating their date to dinner , etc. If any guy is feeling taken advantage of in this area, they need to sit down and have a heart-to-heart with some woman in their life who can give them a spot "reality check". Maybe they have found a "gold digger", but more likely they are missing out on something and making themselves miserable for no good reason. JMO | |
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| If a Dream is Impossible..when do you stop chasing it?
Posted: 11/8/2009 4:18:37 PM | OH Golly.. ive run into this situation before.
A man who likes to Travel. I, myself am broke. So, travel would be nice.. but i cant afford to. So, he expects me to buy my own ticket. and i skip going.. opportunity lost.
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| If a Dream is Impossible..when do you stop chasing it?
Posted: 11/15/2009 3:52:53 PM | One thing I notice on some profiles is that women say they love to travel all the time, well, how many weeks per year do these people get off of work? I get 3 weeks a year, and have a ton more now with lay-off weeks, so did not even have to use my vacation time, but I actually got bills to pay, I took one great vacation this year. Some people act like they take 20-30 a year....
At this point, I really do not have any "dreams" that are realistic, only one I have is hitting the mega-millions so I can help a lot of people out, then retiring to a nice beach house and living the life of Charlie Harper on Two and a Half Men!! lol!!!
When it comes to the dream of meeting that someone special, I think I gave up on that long ago..... | |
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| If a Dream is Impossible..when do you stop chasing it?
Posted: 11/15/2009 7:52:59 PM | realdeal, na, don't give up. always comes when you least expect. funny, but i never noticed that women talk about their vacations, lol. i guess i notice when they are scantilly clad. ladies, cover up! LMAO. if you have something to share, share it with the right person. i know that sounds old fashioned, but i prefer a woman not showing off her assets...
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