| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/2/2009 9:36:50 PM | Hi Everyone,
Ok here goes. How do you know if a woman is out to get you for what you have and not for who you are. Do you care? Would you want someone to tell you that a woman is not so much interested in you, just in your money? I ask this since it looks like I know a woman who is doing this. I don't like what she is doing, but there is obviously no way that I can warn a guy what is going on. So do you guys think you can figure it out for yourself. Bye the way, she surfs all of the dating sites to find her prey. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:25:50 PM | I'm sure most men with money are astute enough to know when they're being used-- or not.
Some men enjoy playing the role of the generous boyfriend. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:02:43 PM | op,
a lot of people just don't care. if they're having fun and they like the looks...that's all it takes! i find it baffling, but i cannot foist my values on other people...lol as much as i'd like to do so!
people develop certain mindsets over the years... for better or for worse. did you see the thread about the cheating wealthy guy?! i can assure you that guy is quite happy with his lifestyle. he is beyond any normal type of thinking. he has gotten into a place in his mind where it doesn't even seem wrong...he most likely feels entitled by now. that's precisely why you see so many politicians, etc cheating, doing corrupt things, etc...over time, and little by little, they get so accustomed to it, it begins to seem normal to them...and they even get so carried away that they almost look down on the "little" people who don't get their paradigms. i've seen too much of it. not easy to explain it, but i know how these people think. it's literally almost like they're off on some lifelong manic high, but they don't see it that way...they mainly feel entitled...it's just a normal, expected perk to them.
same kind of mindset prevails in the types of guys who go for gold diggers. to them, she's a cute piece for now...and who cares if she's digging...they have the money & she makes them happy. ...but she's expendable and if she becomes a wife, she may face multiple affairs to keep her position...either that, or if she has a good lawyer, she will take him to the cleaners...on the other hand, these types didn't get where they are without having the ability to screw people financially, so the gal could end up with nada. then you have the shady lawyer with whom to deal ... he/she takes takes them all to cleaners! (good possibility of that, btw.)
so what else is new?!  | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:28:31 PM | I've always felt I have a decent radar for this.
And it doesn't have to be that the woman wants something materially. Could just be that she enjoys how she feels when we're together.
But when the conversations are only about her, her feelings, her needs and preferences, then it's easy to see that my role is just to provide whatever it is she likes. Has nothing to do with me as a person -- just me as how I enable her to feel.
Warning signs: When your thoughts, feelings, desires and reactions are never even a consideration ... then it ain't about you. It's about what you can provide. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 12:58:22 AM | | Do I care if a woman is out to get me for what I have? Absolutely, but some guys wouldn't care if she was hot enough. After all, there are online web sites out there that cater to these type of people. If a female friend knew something that that I didn't about a woman I was dating, then I would appreciate it if she passed me that info. With that said, I'm sure he can figure it out on his own, if he chooses to pay attention to the signs. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:08:54 AM | To each their own. Listen, everyone is in it for a reason. whether is be companionship, love or financial security.
Don't fault her for what she wants. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:12:03 AM | This is as old as a female question "does he want me just for my looks?"
I guess if he's divorcing her he's not taking half of her looks with him. That's the only difference. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:20:12 AM | | yeah, teenwolf, there's one called sugar daddies (or daddy). i know a guy on it who has hit on some pretty hot mamas! good site & caters to a very specific crowd. they're all getting what they want and they all know what the score it. they're all happy...and that's what counts! | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:24:11 AM | | miracles, no he won't get half of her looks...nor will she...they don't split until either he runs out of money or she loses her looks!! who knows, maybe they'll even last...but i'm not a wagering chick lol | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:27:09 AM | | Not all guys can tell. Some women really know how to play a guy ...by stringing him along ...telling him how much they like him ...want to see him again, etc. To me this is the worst kind. They play with your emotions and have no conscience. There are always signs along the way, but a guy who gets emotional involved with one might not see them. Sometimes it takes a comment from a friend to confirm their suspicions. There's also a big difference between playing a guy of modest means, who works hard for his money, as opposed to someone who has money to burn. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:58:00 AM | | The mercenary women are obvious and then you take it or leave it depending on if you're feeling pragmatic or romantic. It also matter just how much she needs. That woman who wants a mansion and a car, diamonds, trips abroad, she probably won't get anywhere with me even on a bad day. But if she's being all flirty and it's at the drive-thru wanting me to spring for the supersize, I just might play along as her sugardaddy. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:34:57 AM | Usually, They more focusing on your job,
the kind of car you 're driving.
How your house look like
They always want you to pay for everything: dinner, shopping, travel
They want to get married if they see you're very rich.
Some men dont care specially older men if they're very rich. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:11:47 AM | Financial security is fine to give someone if they have something more to offer other than sex in the relationship.
But if they are just too lazy to hold down a job and want to be taken care of, she better be so hot it fries your retina. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:21:49 AM |
To each their own. Listen, everyone is in it for a reason. whether is be companionship, love or financial security.
Don't fault her for what she wants.
A comprehensive application of your logic to life in general would provide an easy justification for pretty much any and all unethical behavior. Hey, everyone is in it for a reason, don't fault Bernie Madoff for wanting to make off with billions of ill-gotten dollars!
Taking advantage of someone cannot be so easily justified. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:59:20 AM | | OP, I think it’s not your business to get into that. First, you can be wrong about this woman. Second, most men are pretty good about figuring out women’s intentions. Some of them even see golddiggers when none of them are around. And the guys who don’t care are not interested in what you would say. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 10:20:31 AM |
How do you know if a woman is out to get you for what you have and not for who you are. Do you care? Would you want someone to tell you that a woman is not so much interested in you, just in your money?
When shit is dry in the field, it doesn't too stink. Op was trying to turn the shit over and let it stink around the field. You are a woman and should know there are male gold diggers. I found many women who are more better off than men from the forums. You ask men the stupid questions. Are you trying to tell them you aren't a gold digger and to interest them? Another idiot! BTW, on the forums, there are also many ugly illterate unkempt ones who enjoy talking about gold diggers. They don't know that gold diggers won't dig trash... | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 10:32:35 AM |
How do you know if a woman is out to get you for what you have and not for who you are.
If a woman is very materialistic and superficial, it's very hard to hide and there will be many obvious signs.
Do you care?
This is the more interesting question because it depends. There is really nothing wrong in wanting things and going after what you want and if the woman has the "assets" to get it, good for her. It's more a question of whether or not that's ALL she is looking to get out of the relationship. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:05:18 AM |
BTW, on the forums, there are also many ugly illterate unkempt ones who enjoy talking about gold diggers. They don't know that gold diggers won't dig trash...
Sorry, I am illiterate! | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:29:30 AM | Bag? Are women in england still desiring making babies at 55?? I mean "Undecided/Open" to a man is saying.. SHE WANTS MORE BABIES..
the whole golddigger thread is being covered as we speak in another forum.. check my posting history and you'll see this mornings current comment.
guys CAN figure it out these days.. We are hyper sensitive to it. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:04:35 PM | Most guys do know this.
And if the guy is a desperate spaz he will accept it.
Guys with lots of money can always rent love.
Ever see that show "Who Want's to Marry a Millionaire?"
Or "Millionaire Matchmaker"?
Combine money with shallow people.....
and everything is negotiable. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:20:38 PM | Stray Cat nailed it... Gold diggers will always have suckers who are too distracted by their hot bodies to see their wallet getting thinner.
The thing is... gold diggers don't go after average Joes. But its always the average Joes on here complaining about them. Actual gold diggers are out in 5 star hotel bars, on millionaire matchmaker sites, sneaking into exclusive clubs or trolling expensive shopping centres.
A gal who wants a guy to ask her out on a date and pay for it... IS NOT A GOLD DIGGER. You're just a cheap **stard. The 'traditional' courting behavior has been around for a looong time and is not about to go away anytime soon. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:21:20 PM | How do you know if a woman is out to get you for what you have and not for who you are. It's really readily apparent in several ways. She'll look for the guy to come up with EVERY entertainment idea; if the guy's ideas are not grandiose enough for her lifestyle; if she seems reticent on making financial contributions for the things she seems to expect out of life (seeking the guy to finance her lifestyle); if she only dates guys who wear certain clothes-drive certain types of cars-live in certain neighborhoods-have nice furniture; etc.
Do you care? Not really; women like this are not part of my life.
Would you want someone to tell you that a woman is not so much interested in you, just in your money? Sure; it makes my decision real easy to make; she's NOT going to be in my life.
I ask this since it looks like I know a woman who is doing this. Sounds like she goes around trolling for suckers. If a guy can't use his common sense and BS radar to see what makes this woman tick, he's got no one else to blame for his misery but himself.
A gal who wants a guy to ask her out on a date and pay for it... IS NOT A GOLD DIGGER. She's not necessarily a gold digger per se, but she might be one; she's definitely a woman without an enlightened attitude about dating in the 21st century, that's certain. | |
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| Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk
Posted: 11/3/2009 3:09:38 PM | | who wouldn't be able to see that. Look at alot of unattractive millionaires for example, they say things like when i was in highschool "nobody" like me and now they are getting playboy bunnies. Personally I think alot of people just suck up the fact that the men or women they are with only wants their money and security and buries it into the back of their mind. Anyway I already know that if I ever hit a different tax bracket every woman after that will only want cash. | |
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