| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:15:13 PM | To start off with I dont believe in one night stands.
I have been out with 9 women from pof and they all wanted sex on the first date, a few within the first hour of the first date.
I am only human, I have the same desires as others, but I want to have feelings for the peson first.
Even the women I have just talked to on here, which has been quite a few have always talked about just one thing in their emails to me, sex.
Maybe I am differnt than most, and no I am not being funny, but I want more out of any realtionship than just sex. | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:05:12 AM | | The men on here are just as bad or worse. It is nice to hear from a man who wants more out of this site than to get laid! Thank you. | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:31:27 AM | Sex has become but one more fast fix to bring happiness and thrills into people's lives. Living in the fast paced world that we do everything anymore seems to be about a fast fix. Getting there fast, eating fast, cheap fast jokes, fast jokes in entertainment, and sex to somehow mask all of the rest. Perhaps it is not a sign of the characteristics of men or women alone but a sign of the culture in which we have come to live. | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:50:22 AM | You have a point there. Everything in our lives today has gotten "fast". There is no real communication anymore between individuals. Everything is done "faster" - email, text messaging. Next thing you know, sex may happen electronically too. I guess that would make it possible to avoid STDs  | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:57:16 AM | | maybe, because it just feels good. who doesnt want to feel good? especially what is going on today and in society today. sex does relieve stress and provides a different outlet for some. if 2 consenting adults who are single and not involved and happen to meet on a singles web site happen to talk and want to go that route what is such the big deal? that activity just may be what the 2 people need to get back on track, get their confidence back and it may in return put a little extra spring in their step and smile on their face and help them in other phases of their life, work, etc. sex can be a great tool for some and a good thing. it doesnt always have to have a negative tone to it. | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/3/2009 2:18:59 PM | | Sex is a part of a healthy relationship. The question is related to men and women that want to have sex with someone on the first date. One way to look at sex on the first date is the absence of interest in other as a person or potential friend, instead they have been reduced to being a provider of sex. | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/3/2009 2:36:42 PM | I like to wait awhile before having sex...I want to make sure there is a deep level of communication with my partner...some common ground......I want to know that my partner will, at least be around for awhile... Sex is so beautiful and so goood...why not wait and make it "extra special!"  | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/3/2009 2:59:30 PM | | To answer the original question, I think that people, most people in fact, equate sex with intimacy. They don't understand that you can have one without the other. So in looking for that intimacy they feel the only way to get it is to have sex. | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:07:34 PM | | Where are these people you speak of because I have not met them? I have met some really nice woman on here and besides I would not judge anyone on here anyway, who am I to say ? Why do people want sex so fast? Maybe they want to live like there is no tomorrow! | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:50:50 PM | I believe that the sex portion of a relationship is the most difficult part of dating in that we have to decide when that should fit into the equation. It would seem to me that when you hit that level of a relationship which is way beyond friends, there ought to be commitment to the extent that this person is "THE ONE" for you. Ideally, marriage is part of this level, but if there are extenuating circumstances, such as financial considerations or other matters which would result in problems, IMHO the commitment each gives the other would be as binding as the piece of paper from a marriage. It's the commitment and not the paper that makes a marriage.
But as I said, legal marriage is the ideal in my opinion. I would not have said this a few years ago when I trusted that people could commit to each other a lot more than I do now, but I have come to realize that if someone will not marry you, there can be some things you don't know that you'd better find out and be sure about.
Too soon for sex and you end up with a "friends with benefits" scenario. This is probably the category where people who want sex so fast would fall into. It could even be a "strangers with benefits" kind of thing as well where people are using POF much like their own private sex club where people go from person to person without any emotional bonding just for recreation.
I also think that the attitude of the times plays a big part in this. Everything we see in the movies, read about, and hear in music has sexual overtones if not graphic depictions of sex where there is no restraint. Ever watch "The History of Sex" on one of the documentary channels? It's very interesting how ancient people regarded sex and how much more they participated in it than we do even today.
People expect a lot from the sex act, but forget that it takes a lot more than the physical side of it to make it great. | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/4/2009 9:45:49 AM | | I hope that even in these hard times people are not using sex as a "fix" for how they are feeling about everything else in their lives. There are two private sex clubs and swingers clubs right here in Cincinnati. Maybe that is good place to go for a "fix". But they are not in Hamilton County... | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:16:24 AM |
I have been out with 9 women from pof and they all wanted sex on the first date,....
WOW, I gotta try harder to meet some women from here then!! lol | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:03:47 AM | In simple terms, without pulling out the character disorder 101 manuals ...
Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Some are running from a past relationship ... "bang, bang" ... he/she shot me down 
Just want to feel good for the moment ... as was said above, an attempted "fast fix"
Some just like the pleasure of it without having to extend any emotion or intimacy
Again, if that is the concent like CEO says, well, so be it (for those folks!)
(Religious upbringing may affect the "not so fast" others)
Some just like sex and want nothing more (so they say or think) ... my opinion is
that some of these folks have never really learned to love in an intimate way and
extend it with sex ... or they fear it.
... may find out how "empty" their lives feel some day and then realize why ... JMO!
Some don't know anything else but sex ... they think that going to work, paying
the bills, going out to dinner, cleaning the house, washing the car and sex is all there is ... they have never allowed themselves to "know" a man or woman ... they either never
learned how or it scares the bajeeeeeezus out of them
Some use it to avoid the "come hither/run away from getting emotionally or intimately
involved" syndrome.
Okay, enough, Crok! 
May we all get all the sex we want or need without being selfless or selfish!!! | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:47:30 AM | Hi flathunter,
you can amend your profile so that you screen out people who only want to hookup by clicking on "Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex" and "Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter". That way, your profile will be seen by others who have similar values and you'll save yourself a lot of time! Good luck,  | |
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| Why do so many people want sex so fast?
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:38:42 AM |
Hey crok, are you gettin kingrock and I mixed up?
ahhhhh geeez, give a girl a break .... I hadn't had my coffee, yet!
Sorry, sweets ... | |
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