| "Openness" - Profile Review
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:22:59 AM | Hi everybody,
I'm new in this website (made the account a while ago but never used it till about a month ago) and new in my town, Irvine CA (which explains why I'm using the website..lol) and I am kind of confused on what I'm supposed to say on my profile.
See, I've been moving around from country to country and from city to city a lot in my life and I've learned to adapt to a lot of different things.
It's very hard to explain my issue without making it long. In short, I have no idea what I define myself as. I can be so many different things, each contradicting the other. From music, to colors, to taste in girls, to fields I'm interested in, to behavior, to values.
This may seem great but the problem is, as the website test suggested, my openness may result in my inability to find someone that really matches me. If someone is looking for something specific, they'd look for someone who is that specific thing only, not someone who can be that specific thing on demand. You get what I mean?
Please help. | |
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| Openness - Profile Review
Posted: 11/3/2009 3:02:49 AM | Overall, I think you're profile is pretty good. A few things I would change...
1. Change "wanna" to want to. Just do it for me.
2. Remove "I look better in person." It makes you sound like you are not confident with your appearance.
3. Remove the part about looking good for the date. Makes you sound arrogant about your appearance. If you don't like how your date looks, don't date her again - but don't try to dictate her dress before you meet her.
4. You might want to put a bit more about the type of girl you are looking for, or even some traits that you are looking for.
Good luck. | |
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| Openness - Profile Review
Posted: 11/3/2009 3:14:52 AM | Done as instructed, thanks a ton for the advice! 
But you didn't address my main issue. Number 4 is in fact my main problem. I have no clue what I'm looking for. :\ | |
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| Openness - Profile Review
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:18:37 AM | | Think about some traits that you admire in others...maybe honesty, sense of humor, love of cars, etc. Think about someone you once really liked. What traits did they have that you really liked? | |
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| Openness - Profile Review
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:41:59 AM | | Or put something to the effect that you're looking for a fellow chameleon...someone who is spontaneous and super adaptable to change...someone who can go with the flow.... | |
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| Openness - Profile Review
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:43:54 AM |
But you didn't address my main issue. Number 4 is in fact my main problem. I have no clue what I'm looking for.
This site never ceases to amaze. Did you just complain that a total stranger did not provide YOU with a clue? Oh my.
Allow me: Breasts. You're looking for a nice rack. Once you've digested that nugget come back and I'll give you another. We'll build your girl one clue at a time. If we do it all at once it will just mess you up even more. | |
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| Openness - Profile Review
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:09:52 AM | I'm trying to find out how to express that I'm an adaptive person, in a way that wouldn't be to my disadvantage. Look at my first post.
That of course is not a 'nugget' you can 'digest' but it certainly did 'mess you up' quite a bit.
Seriously kid, grow up. | |
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| Openness - Profile Review
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:31:08 AM |
I'm trying to find out how to express that I'm an adaptive person, in a way that wouldn't be to my disadvantage. Look at my first post.
I read your first post. You should disregard that silly test, having a wide array of interests is in no way a liability. You didn't have any trouble expressing this in that first post, you could almost cut chunks of that out and insert it into your profile as is. So what's the problem again?
It's the later post that I'm giving you a hard time about. You were clearly asking others to tell you what you are looking for. A separate issue, and clearly a ridiculous request. You're the only one who knows the answer to that. So skip the list of physical attributes or other concrete things. Re-read your own words in your first and build off of that.
You don't need any help, you're doing fine on your own. Trust your own instincts! | |
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| Openness - Profile Review
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:35:27 AM | You're 20, of course you don't know what you want yet. If you are looking for Long Term, the viewer that wants the same will want to see some stability and know that you're past all the partying. "Clubbing" may be fun, but someone looking to get serious may feel like that's for kids. But wait - you're 20! You should be out clubbing.
Maybe "Dating" may work better for you for now - it's a bit lighter and not as intimidating for some of the younger girls who feel like you may be looking for a wife right away? | |
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| Openness - Profile Review
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:49:21 AM | OP - I agree w/ pam ... perhaps list what type of girl you are looking for.
Example: "I find that I get along well with a girl who: Has a sense of humor, doesn't take herself too seriously, likes hiking and camping and isn't afraid to get her hands dirty at times."
You get the drift... | |
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