| How to date??
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:38:15 AM | I am a single parent and would love some tips on how to keep a guys attention while chatting. I can not afford to get a sitter every weekend or sporadically to go n dates. I think this is the road block I run into because I meet a lot of nice guys, bit between work and parenting I have very little time for actual dating. This seems to deter the men.
Any helpful hints?? | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:39:48 AM | | sorry for typo's thought I got them all | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:36:16 AM | Hate to break it to you but if you cant afford a sitter even sporadically, you cant afford to date.
Even if you got a friend to babysit for free, how would you afford coffee, or dinner, or whatever your date was. | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:51:38 AM | The only thing I could say is stick to chatting online, if you have an hour to spare. You kind of answered your own dilemma with your thread.
With all this on your plate, how did you think that you did have time for dating? | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:46:45 AM | | Brings me back to the days when my kids were younger. I never could date when they were small. Without the money to pay for sitters and no time to devote, seemed like the small opportunities to find a guy were a bit dysfunctional. I ended up waiting. It does get easier. Good luck to you. | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:07:28 AM | Wait till your kids are older and save your money in the meantime.
You are almost UNdateable with your finances and dependents. Men in your age pool have better prospects. Harsh.. no.. the truth is the truth.
Sorry your spermdonor didnt work out. I know you didnt plan for it to be this way. | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/3/2009 3:46:55 PM | You may not be able to date in the conventional sense, BUT you could always agree to meet that guy at church, or a park, or anywhere you would take your child.
Bring a friend so they can accompany you in case things turn sour, this way you have safety.
This way if he is understanding he will be agree to meet you and get to know you.
If he doesn't then move onto the next guy.
It's harder but not impossible to date without the funds for a baby sitter. | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:43:59 PM | | A friend of mine has her significant other come over after the kids fall asleep to watch a movie, hang out, etc...but he has to leave after. No overnight visits to confuse the kids. That might be an option for you. The only downer is you kinda have to trust a guy before you get to this point since he'll know where you live so in the early stages of dating this wouldn't work. I have honestly never taken my son to a sitter unless it was his mother or her parents to watch him for the night so I can go out. If I had to pay for a sitter(not sure what that costs) I'd probably date less too. I'd say if you have family nearby that can help, that'd be the way to go. If not, it's probably gonna get tough till you get past the "early" dating stage and feel comfortable having him around your place. | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:23:54 PM | How about trading off with another friend.. even if they are married.. maybe they would like a night out with a free babysitter?
And you know what.. dates don't HAVE to cost you anything.. pack a picnic, go for a walk, go to the library.. heck go grocery shopping.. you'd be surprised what you can learn from someone by how they grocery shop.. sit on a park bench & people watch..
Too many people are focused on spending money these days in the wrong way.. dating doesn't have to cost a fortune.. Even if you can get the kids over to a friends place for a play date.. meet at your place or his for a dinner or coffee.. | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:01:08 AM | | I have a free night pool with some of my other single parent friends. We have a "favor service" where we watch each others children if we have a date or just need a break. And you don't have to have a bunch of money to date. Use your imagination and think outside the box. If the date is someone you know, maybe you can make them dinner. | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/4/2009 9:51:58 AM | | Other parents whether single or otherwise, and even single people, are willing to look after your children occasionally so that you can get out. With others, you can swap babysitting. Think outside the box and make yourself more dateable. | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:01:12 PM | | Well, to be honest; I do not date guys who are full time single parents due to the fact that they don't have time. I didn't date at all when my kids were younger. They are now grown up and I am dating all over the place LOL Maybe you should wait until your kids are older. | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:03:03 PM |
Well, to be honest; I do not date guys who are full time single parents due to the fact that they don't have time. I didn't date at all when my kids were younger. They are now grown up and I am dating all over the place LOL Maybe you should wait until your kids are older.
Well said. | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:15:03 PM | | Hey, if you date single moms, they'll generally be hotter, hornier and smarter than the women without kids you'd be able to date. | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/4/2009 8:15:22 PM | | truthfully ive gotten that also , alot men telling me i cant ever go out / that im too busy to start a relationship with them...and so on mind they all seem ok with trying/attempting to bed me in the few outings i do go on...its kinda depressing to think that ill have to wait till my children are grown to have a meaningful relationship...so hopefully someone has another option? | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:01:14 AM |
Hey, if you date single moms, they'll generally be hotter, hornier and smarter than the women without kids you'd be able to date. Oh, is this because single mothers are desperate?  | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/5/2009 1:44:31 PM | No, because there are fewer guys who will go out with them, and because single moms usually want to date single dads. I'm a single dad. When you're in your 30s, it's the opposite of high school. Guys have all the control.  | |
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| How to date??
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:27:44 PM |
No, because there are fewer guys who will go out with them, and because single moms usually want to date single dads. Odd... I've only had one man not wish to be with me due to my having children... and my preference is to date a man without children and that doesn't want any of his own since this is so much simpler than having a melded family unit...
Guess it's all in perception... | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 12:10:34 AM | | thank you for the encouragement | |
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Posted: 11/20/2009 6:03:59 PM | I ran into something like this , from the other angle,
the idea about finding a friend with kids and treading off ,
sound s good , but what ever don 't make the put pressure
on the guy about time restiction s, make sure you plan ahead,
we all know you children are very important to you , and would
never come between you, but if you make a discission to start
dating make sure you make him feel important too ! | |
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