was just curious about something. When a man is really into a woman, is he more likely to want to wait a bit for sex, or do yall usually want it right away just like it would be with someone you only see as a FWB?

When a man is really into a woman, is he more likely to want to wait a bit for sex, or do yall usually want it right away

If he thinks you're worth it, he'll wait.

with people I feel an emotional connection with

Only in forums like these (where men are trying to impress women) do you find this stuff.

I can't really be into a woman who is viewing sex that way in the first place. The singling out of sex as a separate thing, devising a strategy based on the time and manner of genital deployment, and so on is alien to my view. People are about a lot of things and sexuality is right there mixed in, so to create an imaginary division between the sex of things and the rest indicates a fractured and odd interpretation of reality that makes relating at all problematic in case of romantic interest. I never wait for sex. Sex is there from the start at whatever level or stage it starts with, which is usually attraction and curiosity. She has to turn me on from the start or else we're talking as friends do, but for whom sexual interest is either absent or a mild and fleeting curiosity. The idea that men are horny and looking for women to screw, that happens, but also the other way around, and it also happens that when men and women socialize they have awareness of one another sexually no matter if they encourage that or just take it in stride as a feeling. People seem to place an undue and artificially separate emphasis on sex only when their view of sex is weird to begin with. To people who are more wholesome about their humanity, it's not a problem or a question.

You meet someone and then you'll like being with them or not, and in special cases that becomes a fully intimate relationship. At some point as things go along you're both feeling it and then is the time, but whether that happens sooner or later doesn't matter, or even if it never does happen, it isn't right so don't worry about it.

The habit of being sexually stunted until marriage comes from a practical application of morality to curb inconvenient pregnancy as well as other complications of indiscriminate sexual activity, like cooties, social mayhem and soiled clothing. From that you have your big deal about reserving sex until conditions match the ones set forth in the Big Book. Your wedding night is the first time. Before than, courtship, which is men and women trying to pair up for marriage. Then there is the reality of being human when the rules don't happen to work that well, so people have sex anyway on the sly, or frustrate themselves into mental illness being chaste and deprived.

Nope, can't go that way. If she is thinking of sex as something apart, and gaging my interest in her according to that idea, then I'm not interested. Otherwise, I couldn't know in advance generally if when I met a woman we would be in bed right off or if for us it would be a few weeks or months before nothing else to do seemed better at the moment.

You can have your world of seeking penises and guarded vaginae and negotiating the wait or give-in of sex. I prefer my world where when people meet the expectation and reality is a rapport of mutual interest and respect for each other and also for the art of relating well. Sex is more than intercourse. It's also how you walk along together. It's pervasive and belongs to happen in all its ways. To narrow it down and set it aside and treat it like a business transaction necessary but best left to lawyers hardly increases the joy of companionship.