| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:03:13 AM | | ok I know I am fussy but isn't everyone??? ppl say I am good looking but to honest i don't feel like I get a lot of offers from good looking men. and I would like to meet someone who is really fit and will be a good provider. Is this asking too much? | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:17:24 AM | Ya got to read the forums more, there are no nice guys, and if there are you don't like them anyway.
No the truth is that it is just plain hard to meet the person that does it for you, why I don't know. Perhaps our expectations are too high, or unrealistic, it seems that a long time ago of a galaxy far far away people had little problems finding the right person even though they had little to choose from. Are we more deluded about what we deserve? Did they just settle and still find happiness? Who can say, but I'm sure that if you give it time you will meet the right guy for you. | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:58:51 AM | Men outnumber women here 100:1 easily.
Now take into consideration that the majority of those are worthless piles of you know what and the chance a guy you actually like will grab your attention is slim to none. The stories you hear about "how I em't my match on POF" are few and far between and quite simply, are rare.
Try real life, its better. | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:15:30 AM | Oh I see...
Fit and rich .... oh also nice and good looking too.... 
Have you ever asked yourself ? What do you have to offer to a guy like that?
"That" guy... good looking/rich/hard working/fit/good sperm count etc etc.... is on high demand ....
You're the one to chase him, not the other way around...
Or keep on waiting, waste another 37 years...
your choice.. | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:36:03 AM | | No offense OP, but I wouldn’t touch you with a ten foot pole! I see exactly what Wazhiz sees. Your profile shows the personality of a good looking car with no engine and the emotional depth of a shot glass. If you want nice, you’re going to have to use more than your looks. | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:11:24 AM | Wow. Hello superficial.
You don't get a lot of offers because you sound like you are superficial and more attracted to what a man can do for you rather then who a man is. | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:34:48 AM | | So Charlie, between this thread and the one you started yesterday are you noticing the recurring theme yet? Your profile needs an overhaul. I'd be loathe to make specific suggestions because I sense you are indeed what you appear to be, a superficial gold digger. But others here will help you apply a disguise that might work if you post in the profile review forum. | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:35:19 AM | I consider myself a "nice man" and just the way your question is worded would put me off (without even seeing your profile).
ok I know I am fussy but isn't everyone???
No, they are not, some people are realistic.
ppl say I am good looking but to honest i don't feel like I get a lot of offers from good looking men
Maybe they are being polite? Is looks all that you want in men?
and I would like to meet someone who is really fit and will be a good provider. Is this asking too much?
Oh right, a "good provider"...I (and I suspect many men) interpret that as "gold-digger". Since many women are after good-looking, fit men with money, you may well be asking too much...especially on here. The gold-digging women of the world will have found most such men before they arrived here! | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:37:01 AM | | You don't offer what they want. It works both ways. You have your preferences, and they have theirs. When you go looking and the ones you like don't like you back, they are looking for something you don't have. It's just like how you aren't interested in the men who lack certain things. For the women who do meet the men's preferences, those men are easy to find. | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:56:01 AM |
i don't feel like I get a lot of offers from good looking men. and I would like to meet someone who is really fit and will be a good provider.
What a shock.. you want a fit, good looking, wealthy, professional.
I agree with the post above, you shouldn't settle. Somewhere out there is that dream guy just dying to get his hands on an uneducated woman working in "sales" .... | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:01:11 AM |
ok I know I am fussy but isn't everyone???
You're no different from anyone else.
ppl say I am good looking
People generally don't tell you what their true opinions are if it makes you/them feel bad, at least not to your face. It's too bad PoF got rid of the image rating feature - it would've provided a more honest opinion of what others think of you. However, there are other sites that you can use for that. Try hotornot.com.
but to honest i don't feel like I get a lot of offers from good looking men
Perhaps that should clue you in on where you stand. Then again, there may be other reasons. For instance, your profile doesn't exactly make you stand out. Perhaps you need to visit the profile review forum.
and I would like to meet someone who is really fit and will be a good provider. Is this asking too much?
Sorry but you are in a competition with hundreds and thousands of other women for the same guys. What makes you more desireable over the other women? Your profile doesn't reflect it. | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:11:02 AM | OP -- Imma hand it to you straight. I am an Asian girl too. I was US born n bred but I have spent a long deal studying & working in Asia as well.
Anyhow, oftentimes I hear this broad generalization that "Asian girls are materialistic and are only concerned with looks and money". I don't know you but based on this thread alone, you seem to perpetuate that very stereotype.
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:11:06 AM | I've been wondering about that same thing. Where are all the nice men out there ?? True, I would like a guy that was stable, fit, and had no financial troubles. Wouldn't every girl want that. But, there has to be love, honesty, and respect also.
Out of all the millions of men out there, you would think there would be a few. | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:21:08 AM | What are you doing to find a fit, nice man that will be a good provider? That's the question that comes to my mind as there are probably dozens of men that are fit and good providers but they aren't going to go up to every woman and ask, "Hi, I'm a fit, nice man that will be a good provider, do you want me?"
Just another perspective to this and I do agree that the profile review may be worth doing but don't forget that some people can appear to be one thing but really be something else that you may have to work out how you want to handle those cases. | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:45:29 AM |
Anyhow, oftentimes I hear this broad generalization that "Asian girls are materialistic and are only concerned with looks and money".
From what I've seen from working a bit in Asia, but also with Asian colleagues, this is mostly not true. Certainly, "they" are no more concerned with stuff like that than any other women.
It's programmed into a woman to seek out a man with something to offer. Of course, this may change, as some day she wants a man who can provide security (money) or who is well built and "runs marathons" if you know what I mean. And of course men are just horn dogs and you all know what we're looking for and what we're willing to do to get it...
What I'm saying, OP, is that it's completely okay for you to want to find a good looking guy who makes good money. But, don't be so out front with that. It will scare off men who might otherwise like you for your personality or whatever. Remember, good looking guys with good jobs are going to be gaurded because they might suspect women are out to get them. Be more subtle with what you're looking for and see if your prospects improve. | |
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| why is it so hard to meet a nice man?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:53:42 AM | | It's really not a bad trait to be somewhat picky! And u are good looking. Ur not asking too much but did u read my replies in ur other forum? | |
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