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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:06:35 AM | Not used the forums before so thought I'd say hi and see if the profile is ok 
If there is a catagory for new members then please tell me where because I may have missed it...Oh and Im not normally so wicked looking..it was halloween guys, although maybe goes more with my "black" humour. | |
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| I'm not new to the site, but....
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:16:27 AM | Hi there,
Your second and fourth pictures are both lovely, nice smile and clear headshot - although the halloween shot is good it looks very little like you normally do.
You've put that you're looking for friends. Some people truly are but I can't tell from your description if that's true or if you're actually hoping to meet someone to date. If it's friends that's fine but I'd add a short paragraph to your description explaining both your 'separated' status and what you're looking for specifically.
Hi Im 5.5 blonde
Both these things are already evident at the top of your profile, no need to repeat them :)
....ps I dont do religion..so leave it out!!!
Cut this. If you're not interested in someone religious then you'll be able to see from their profile and can reject them accordingly. Putting this out there just sounds judgmental and at odds with the good temper of the rest of your description.
You have just one block of text at the moment - I'd split it into at least two, one about yourself and one about what you're looking for. The more information you manage about yourself the better, so long as it's interesting stuff, but it sounds like you have a lot of personality so that shouldn't be difficult for you.
Your first date could be considered suggestive, or at the least indecisive. What would you like to do for fun on a first date?
Hope that helps a bit.
Good luck :) | |
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| I'm not new to the site, but....
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:28:56 AM | Hi Solstice…Love you as a blonde…I’d make your Halloween photo #3 or 4 and label it as such.
A few more suggestions…
1) You come across as a “Hi, let’s party” girl. If that’s not what you want, tone it down a notch.
2) The “as much as possible, what did you have in mind” as the 1st date is COME ON DOWN BABE in a big, bold way. If you’re attracting a lot of pervs, that may be why. If you’re attracting a lot of guys who are shallower than you’d like, that may be why.
3) Lovely cleavage is what I remember most about your profile….even more than your sense of humor.
4) If you’ve got it, flaunt it, but a hint not a handful works just fine. Guys have imaginations….and you gotta give em something to look forward to…and to work towards. Guys love challenges and love to win. Letting it all hang out takes away a lot of fun.
5) Get 1 full body photo, and get photos of you in all kinds of garb….in most of your photos you’ve got the same low cleavage blouse on.
6) Nix the negativity about religion…your religious preference is covered above.
7) ADD more…including 10 to 15 interests. They’re searchable and give conversation openers as well as tell him more about you.
8) Also….Add SPECIFICS about what you like to do for fun, what you like best about your job, how you came to have Rescue dogs. Your RESCUE dogs would be a good place to begin your profile because it’s unique, touchy-feely, and says a lot about you as a person.
9) Add something about how many kids you have and their ages. He’ll be wondering if you have 4 kids ages 2 to 10 or 1 child age 10. Big diff. If you don’t say, he’s likely not to ask.
10) You’ve got a good start…now add to it with more in your profile AND some “less is more” photos. You’re a lovely looking woman, so don’t sell yourself short. Lots of cleavage makes it look like you’re trying too hard or it’s been a long time since you went fishing and caught something.
Hope that helps. Best to you. DenverSky5280  | |
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| I'm not new to the site, but....
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:52:50 AM | Hi Denver..
thanks for the input.
The thing with the pics is I'm living in spain..mostly I don't wear a lot of high necked tops so they depict me as I am...
Do you really think many men look beyond the pics and read a word intensive profile anyway? | |
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| I'm not new to the site, but....
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:18:08 AM | Hi Solstice….lucky you to be in SPAIN! High-necked tops?? Only if you’re gonna put on the button down shoes and give the guy a history ‘lesson’. You can “Crop” your photos a bit or go with a slightly less deep V-neck plunge on the chest (or pull it up a bit for the photo shoot).
In answer to your question….YES…photos and profiles BOTH count. The discriminating guy is looking for a profile where the lady shines in BOTH.
The Photo gets you in the door to the dance.
Good photo? Enter now. Check out the other photos.
Read the profile. Is this lady someone you want to dance with?
In other words…The Profile lets you stay at the dance.
Ya gotta win BOTH challenges…Photo challenge, Profile challenge.
You’re ATTRACTIVE and ARTICULATE…so let BOTH work for you. It will yield better results than just one workin for ya. You're not aiming for Word Intensive...you're aiming for Word INVENTIVE. Best to you. DenverSky5280 | |
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| I'm not new to the site, but....
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:32:03 AM | Full body pics would help, and the pic of you with the black hair is scary.
Visit Seville for Flamenco dancers and nightlife, it's a great city with a lot of history you might meet someone local.
Hope this helps. | |
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| I'm not new to the site, but....
Posted: 11/3/2009 10:47:57 AM | I am not sure if you have changed out photos but I did not find them to be too revealing.
The “separated“ status would hurt you in my mind. You might add a comment as to when a divorce will be final.
Your about me section really should have a bit more meat to it.
You ask in post #5 “Do you really think many men look beyond the pics and read a word intensive profile anyway?”
I don’t know about all guys, but I am pretty sure that those out for more than a booty call do read the profile!!! I know that I do.
You ask in post #8 “Do you not think a guy requiring full body pics is kinda shallow?”
No! they are not shallow. They simply want to know what you look like.
Good luck to you,
Ron | |
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| I'm not new to the site, but....
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:22:07 AM | | It is shallow to 'need' a full body pic, but if you don't have one, by the time someone you're talking to sees one they might take off, which just waste your time and theirs. | |
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