| What's the point?
Posted: 11/3/2009 12:50:16 PM | I haven't posted much lately but something happened recently and I can use some feedback/comments...
Would you go out with someone you had nothing in common with? What if this person seems to hate everything you like?
For example: This guy hates dogs and I have a dog who I love. This guy hates the movies I enjoy. Our political beliefs are polar opposite. We don't like the same food.
Now, obvisouly I'm not going to date him, but why on earth would he want to date me? What's the point if you already know you have nothing in common.
This guy shot himself in the foot by also calling me a 'dork' yesterday...but I'll save that for another thread,another time... | |
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| What's the point?
Posted: 11/3/2009 12:53:35 PM | | My only thought was the guy thinks you are hot and that is why he asked you out. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 12:57:37 PM | This is an easy answer:
Cus he is attracted to you.
Guys date differently than women.
Women look for qualities in a guy and factor in looks as part of the package.
Guys see a hot girl and figure we'll work around all the rest.
Goes without saying that we are shallow and not as good at choosing as women are.
But that is how we are. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 12:59:12 PM |
.My only thought was the guy thinks you are hot and that is why he asked you out.
I never thought of that.
I couldn't spend time with someone (no matter how good looking they were) if we didn't get along.
This guy and I just don't seem to get along, but he still wants to go out. I just think its weird.
This thread might get deleted so sorry if people don't like my question. It just baffled me... | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 1:03:05 PM | Yep, I agree, ya made his weenie waggle, and that's about all there is to that.
Come on, tell about the "dork" comment! Please? | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 1:03:14 PM | For a nerd like me, a dork is a term of affection.... but not for everyone....
I think that different hobbies are okay, but different attitudes, personalities and outlooks on life, a little harder to get around.
And poster above is right. Attraction is a very strong magnet that often overrides everything, even reason. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 1:10:23 PM |
I couldn't spend time with someone (no matter how good looking they were) if we didn't get along.
I agree. Now in RL, it is more than likely going to be the physical attraction that catches my initial interest but if it turns out we have nothing in common, I am going to lose interest very fast. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 1:10:46 PM |
.Come on, tell about the "dork" comment! Please?
I am a dork. I know I'm a dork. I like dorky things. I'm a SciFi geek. I know the square rt of Pi. I'm fine with that.
I met this guy Friday. He phones me on Saturday afternoon and was like "what are you doing?" and I was like "watching A Haunting on the Discovery Channel. There's a marathon on because it Halloween"
He says "you're such a dork".
I don't think he knows me well enough to call me names - even if he's just kidding around.
Yesterday he texted me "hey loser!"...I just think he has a mean sense of humor... | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 1:10:58 PM | I couldn't spend time with someone (no matter how good looking they were) if we didn't get along. Guys are different. He probably doesn't see it as not getting along; he might view it as "opposites attract" or that your interests might complement his.
This guy and I just don't seem to get along, but he still wants to go out. I just think its weird. Ok you and he don't "click". Even though that's a cliche, tell him that's how you feel and that it's not negotiable. Tell him that you really want a guy in your life who likes dogs and has similar political views.
What's weird is I've been told by some women on this site that she had no interest in me because we had nothing in common, but she had listed several interests on her profile that are on mine.
I met this guy Friday. He phones me on Saturday afternoon and was like "what are you doing?" and I was like "watching A Haunting on the Discovery Channel. There's a marathon on because it Halloween" He says "you're such a dork". Sounds like he's using C0cky and Funny on you. That's reason enough to dismiss him. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 1:31:02 PM |
I just think he has a mean sense of humor...
Yeesh, I think you're right! "Dork" can be seen as cute, and may be meant that way too, but "loser"... that's just a vicious word. I almost never use it, myself, and tend to shy away from people who do employ it on anything resembling a regular basis. Good thing you were already getting it that there wasn't going to be anything there.
And he thinks he's going to get some with that approach... ha ha! It might work on an insecure 19-year-old, but most grown women are not going to get the urge to try to please someone who talks to us that way, or even to speak to that person again. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 1:43:55 PM |
Yesterday he texted me "hey loser!"...I just think he has a mean sense of humor... wtf? I hope you told him that he wasn't texting himself and to fo. Sarcastic jerk that I wouldn't give the time of day to. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 1:57:41 PM | | I'm wondering why you cant figure it out... | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 1:59:33 PM | Add me to the "you're good looking and the rest wasn't important" list. Unfortunately I think this is more common than not - I assume you are one of the most attractive women he's encountered and he's not going to pass it up. Lucky you! lol
I had a guy ask me out again because I was so blunt about how uninterested I was when he asked me out the first time - he told me it was because he respected the honesty and it was refreshing so I got more attractive. What can ya do? People are just weird. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 2:08:59 PM |
What's the point if you already know you have nothing in common.
You are usually very insightful Tracy. Now you understand why women say "he just didn't seem interested getting to know me" ... generally men just aren't that interested in some compatibility test. Initially it's mostly about looks, personality, etc.
Later, not having any common ground would obviously be an issue.... but for starters, you are an attractive woman and that's pretty much all we need to know to get started
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Posted: 11/3/2009 2:23:37 PM | I met this guy Friday. He phones me on Saturday afternoon and was like "what are you doing?" and I was like "watching A Haunting on the Discovery Channel. There's a marathon on because it Halloween"
OMG i LOVE that show!! it's sooooo scary. i guess i have more in common with you than he does, lol. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 3:14:05 PM | Why did you agree to go out with him if you knew you had nothing in common?
I'm just sayin ... | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 3:36:35 PM | I thought being called a dork was an endearing term. I'll have to remember to be momentarily pissed off the next time. 
I'm just kidding. No way he should be at liberty to call you names like that. I don't make it a habit of name calling even with close friends. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 3:40:21 PM | | The less you have in common the more it leans toward a booty call. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 3:51:30 PM | Sounds to me like this guy isn't taking things very seriously and it's just a game to him. He wants to see how far you'll let things go even though he is making it as difficult as possible. He got away with calling you a "dork"...so the next term he used was "loser"...I wouldn't be surprised if the next time he contacted you (assuming you haven't told him to take a flying leap yet) he calls you a b!tch/wh0re/slu...you get the idea. He is pushing the boundaries to see what you will allow him to get away with. Once you put your foot down, I'm sure he'll disappear and move on to the next woman.
And to answer the question of why would someone want to date a person they have nothing in common with and don't seem to get along with? Well...he probably isn't looking to "date"...he finds you physically attractive and probably just wants to get some action where he can.
Kick him to the curb.  | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 4:03:03 PM | | men are more focusing on looks, women always looking for something else i mean if they're looking for something serious. Thats why it looks like you're passing an exam when you go out in date with a women. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 5:32:24 PM |
Why did you agree to go out with him if you knew you had nothing in common?
I'm just sayin ... .
I never agreed to. I told him that we had absolutely nothing in common. He was like "so what?"
And I'm not trying to get attention - I just didn't get why someone would want to sit across a dinner table from someone when you pretty much hate everything they like. I wouldn't...It was like "oh, you have a dog? I hate dogs! They're so annoying!!" "Oh, you like The Grateful Dead? They suck!!" "I hate horror movies - they're stupid"
So it wasn't jsut that we had little in common (as sometimes opposites do attract) but he really hates things I love...
And "A Haunting" is an awesome show that still scares the crap outta me even though its been in reruns for 2 years...
Anyway, now I got a clearer picture as to his intentions - which were, shall we say, less then honorable.. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 5:43:50 PM | I'll mirror what Only This noted: though you are very attractive, he may have genuinely asked you out because you *are* different and he respects you.
The best example is a message board. What is the kiss of death (or at least one) for a message board? If all of the posters agree on everything. All you're left doing is saying, "I agree," to everything - and after a while that is just plain boring. When you date someone with different beliefs, then you get to learn quite a bit if you do one simple thing: listen with an open mind. Usually a person is willing to do that if they respect you.
It's easy to look at the world in general and say since sides are polarized on what seems like every issue, since they can't do anything together then that is always the case. Don't extend it to your personal life. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 6:26:44 PM | | A man who doesn't seem to care you have nothing in common probably doesn't want to date you. He probably just wants to sleep with you. If you want more than a one night stand, look elsewhere. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:12:37 PM | Five words - he wants to bang you.
Some women will have Goodbye Sex - kind of a consolation prize, an A for effort type of thing. He may be going for that. He may see you as a challenge. Some guys will argue over the Internet for dozens of posts because they have no other way of relating to people. He may be trying to wear your defenses down, or give you the Alcoholic's Rant. "Hey, baby, I can change." Whatever. Either bang him and forget him, or block his emails and move on. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:51:18 PM | Oh come on now.... how old are you OP ?
Jebus Krist!
Haven't you already figured that out ? Men don't care about your interests or your life/thoughts/wants/desires/passions, all they they need is "attraction"... even 19yr old teenagers know that these days...
The guy is right. "so what"- you don't need to have the same political views to have sex.... | |
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