| Im feel really bad
Posted: 11/3/2009 2:58:03 PM | Basically my girlfriend split up with me about 3 weeks ago. She said she didnt want to be in a relationship and eventually i accepted it.
Last week a girl who has liked me for a while asked me out and I said yes. I dunno why I did - maybe a rebound - but I dont like her because of the feelings I have for my ex.
I was talking to someone about this girl I am now going out with and one of my ex's friends overheard. To stop her finding out off someone else I told her - and she was just pi$$ed at me and said she never wants to speak to me again.
I have since ended things with the new girl because its not fair on her because I dont like her like that, I really miss my ex. I have a feeling that she likes me still but I dunno how to go about things. anyone any ideas?
today as I pulled up in my car she was walking down the road. As I got out and went towards the back of my car I caught her looking back at me. Moments later I caught her looking back again. | |
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| Im feel really bad
Posted: 11/3/2009 3:02:46 PM | | No, your ex doesn't like you. She doesn't like the thought that someone else might find you attractive and snatch you from under her nose. It's an ownership thing. She wants to own you just in case even though she doesn't like you all that much. She also wants to feel irreplaceable. People ARE irreplaceable, mind you, but it's not like dating someone new means replacing someone from the past. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 3:03:20 PM | How long were you going out with your ex?
During the 3 week hiatus, were you still texting/calling telling the ex how much you miss her while you were entertaining the other girl?
Those answers will tell you why she was mad. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 3:10:41 PM | about 6 months.
In the 3 weeks we had split up we text each other a little bit - usually initiated by her. I guess the opportunity came around with the new girl and I took it but I shouldnt have.
I didnt speak that much to my ex in this three weeks because I was giving her space and trying to move on. But now she knows about the new girl, she has just asked me never to call contact her again.
Should I let her know that things are now over with the new girl? | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 3:33:51 PM | Stop looking for signs your ex wants you back where there are none. She was probably throwing you the evil eye, but in your current state you'd think it was mushy gushy gazes. You're going to have to work through this loss...no bandaid rebound solutions, just time alone, friend fun, keeping busy, changing routines, etc...
good luck! | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 3:49:02 PM | Maybe it was one of those " See what you are missing" Looks.
"You are a jerk" looks. Who knows?
She broke up with you, but may be territorial and doesn't want you with someone else.
Or she just thinks you are strange to think she gives a rats azz.
What was the real purpose of telling her? She did break up with you and it was none of her business until you opened your mouth.
Were you trying to make her jealous?
Moments later I caught her looking back again.
Maybe a go to hell look...
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Posted: 11/3/2009 4:10:43 PM | First of all...if you didnt go flappin your jaws about the other girl....your ex wouldnt have found out.....that's your first problem...and..she doesnt want you...face it and move on...and as for her looking back...hey...most of us women do that to be aware of our surroundings...she was probably making sure you werent running after her.....stay single and get your head together... | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 4:29:57 PM | ferkrystsake, OP, this is your 4th thread about this girl.
Is the POF forum going to get a play-by-play description of your angst?
In one thread you said:
At first I was gutted, but since I have moved on and now agree it was for the best.
Apparently you haven't moved on and don't think it's for the best.
Give it one last shot--tell her you broke up with the other girl, that you're heartbroken, and you'd like to have another crack at the relationship.
If she has you back, then you're happy. If she doesn't you move on.
But before you post your next thread on "How do I move on?" do a thread search. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 4:36:49 PM | Fugit 'bout your ex, go bang the new girl and move on with your life, all your doing is wasting time with someone that thinks your a waste of time. She may not hate you or even dislike you for that matter, but she is sure she can do better in her mind. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 6:20:35 PM | This is thread number five about your and your ex. Should you text her? Should you try to get back with her? Is she looking at you funny?
Don't date anyone else. Just get over her already. She broke up with you. She doesn't want a relationship with you. She got mad and told you she never wants to speak to you again.
What part of all that is telling your crazy brain that she still wants you?
She doesn't.
Stop obsessing over everything the poor woman says and does. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 7:47:02 PM | This is one of those "I can have my cake and eat it, too" things. She is pissed that you were ready to take up with someone else after 3 weeks.
Sounds like if she says to jump, you say "how high". | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 7:57:36 PM | The best thing you can do is to find some really hot looking chick, I mean way better looking than the ex and flunt her around others that know her and if she is near by for her to see you happy with her. The best revenge is for you to be seen happy and living your life. Being someone better looking and better shape will make her feel someone better than her wants you and her loss.
Get laid and move on. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:06:44 PM | Don't contact her.
If one of her friends tells her she overheard you talking about the next girl you might be into, that's her problem to deal with, not yours. It's your life, she dropped you and she has no right to know what's going on in your life.
If she texts you again about whatever. Don't respond. Just don't. Period.  PERIOD. 
If for some reason she mad a rash dission in breaking up with you, let her stew in that thought and have her come back with some explainations. Until then, stop communications. It's the only way you're going to get past her.
That, and thinking of yourself and screw her feelings. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:08:51 PM | What do you mean you dont know how to go about things? Just tell her you miss her. How she reacts will tell you everything you need to know about how she feels about you and whether or not you should pursue things. Also, the whole looking back thing, in my opinion, means nothing. I hear it all the time but to be entirely honest if I look back at a guy it could be because I was looking at his clothes or curious about the tree behind him. I guess it could mean something but...dont use that as encouragement.
I know im young but I thought I would give you my perspective.
-Halley | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:15:47 PM | Gee. We're all adults here. The caliber and quality of men around here just makes me *swoon*
Fugit 'bout your ex, go bang the new girl and move on with your life, all your doing is wasting time with someone that thinks your a waste of time. She may not hate you or even dislike you for that matter, but she is sure she can do better in her mind.
Classy. And all talk. Pfft.
The best thing you can do is to find some really hot looking chick, I mean way better looking than the ex and flunt her around others that know her and if she is near by for her to see you happy with her. The best revenge is for you to be seen happy and living your life. Being someone better looking and better shape will make her feel someone better than her wants you and her loss.
Get laid and move on.
Pfft...yeah okay.
LOL - caveman advice cracks me right up.
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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:26:59 PM | Read petiunia's post again.
Saves me some typing...ugh.
Ehhh...have to be careful...stand up straight which would mean extracting a body part out of another one.
Accept it, (sidebar to urinating in the wind) she's your ex, she made herself your ex.
You're not ready to move on and will do nothing for anyone else except possibly a reject for a Jerry Springer show.
You're feeling bad because your girlfriend broke up with you. It happens, it'll be up to you to figure out why...way too many threads.
That's where you're stuck at..it's a hangup on your end. So you have 2 choices, figure it out...(not recommended...) or move on. You've already displayed you're not capable of moving on.
You're texting back and forth, read the posts, they're screaming cut it off.
I'm thinking do anything you need to, sacrifice your self respect, get her back. I'm thinking the two of you should be together, you both deserve each other. The other people who are possibly unaware of the "ex drama" that you have going on...take them out of the loop. And go be together, be miserable together, and quit dragging in other people into this.
You belong together...that's evident. And when the karma card cashes in....noone here will be anywhere around. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 5:47:52 PM | You got one thing right...breaking up with the next girl....I had a similar experience whenI was younger. I did the breaking up though and then hooked up with someone fairly quickly...all I ever thought about was the other girl and the mistake I made and it ended up destroying my mind...it just over whelmed me into shutting down to the world. You need to keep you mind busy so thoughts dont creep into your head.
I spent almost 4 years with the girl and ten months after I ended it...she wanted nothing to do with me....but i still stewed over it for years. Move along and get your self in a better frame of mind. She let you go...so you need ot let her go....put any spin on it you need to but you need to spin away...quickly.
good luck | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 11:47:28 AM | If she broke up with you and asked you to move on then she has no right to get angry with you when you do exactly as she suggests.
If she wants another chance with you, she will have to accept that you dated someone else while you were broken up and she must truly forgive you for it and never mention it again.
It's none of her business who you were seeing when the two of you were not together. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 1:55:14 PM | just be alone....eat alone....jerk-off alone....u dont need to be with anyone.....ur hands are probably mad at u too.....
thats it for me.... | |
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