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Posted: 11/3/2009 3:46:42 PM | | Ok I took a different approach to how to write my profile. Much to my surprise, more people have been responding to my emails. I got emails from 4 different women! Ive been using online dating places like this for 3 years and have never ever been that successful! But I do want some feedback on how my profile is doing so far. Before I was never even getting responses, so I must be doing something right | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 4:11:13 PM | I hate lists on profiles, but if that is working for you don’t change.
You really need to clean up your spelling and punctuation. Use a word processor and it will catch them all for you. I.e. Ive is I’ve, independant is independent, etc.
If I were you I would kill the last part about “What you aren’t looking for” as they are all negatives.
Your pictures a marginal at best as you don’t have one that really shows what you look like in the face. But again, if this is working for you… then by all means stick with it.
OH! Maybe that’s what I need to do with my pictures! Change them all so the ladies won’t be able to tell I am ugly!!
Thanks for the help with my profile buddy and good luck to you!
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Posted: 11/3/2009 7:38:59 PM | For me, a list feels lazy. But - in your case, as already mentioned, if it ain't broke, don't fix it.
A big toothy smiling head/shoulders shot would probably be even more helpful. You may also want to change occupation from Cook to Future Iron Chef, or even Culinary Student. That may give your viewer the idea that you're more than the "fries with that" guy. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:19:17 PM | OP- Listen to YGF as she knows her shit. That main pic is critical.
YGF - I think I am changing my pics to the vague as they seem to be working for OP.
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Posted: 11/3/2009 9:29:50 PM | Hi Silver…Your lists are easy to read and interesting and a huge leap above the teeming list masses. If it’s working…keep it.
You might want to Bold the headers of the lists to make it even more readable.
Here are the formatting commands that should help:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts469064.aspx
bold
italic
<u> underline </u>
quote it
And get those good photos….that should help even more than the formatting. Best to you. DenverSky5280  | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:10:19 AM | | Thanks everyone Ill take the advice. Changing my title for profession now | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:22:15 AM | Hey, if it's working for you then leave it! That said, the lists are bad. Now we are all different and there is no one right answer but Denversky likes lists. So do other people, but in general most people do not even bother to read lists. They are boring and convey no personality. Yours is no exception. I have only ever seen two list styled profiles that were really interesting and that was because everything that they listed was riveting!
Look at it this way, while some people like lists and some people don't, no one dislikes the conversational paragraph form profile, so why have those that dislike list styles skip your profile because they are turned off by lists? (And trust me, many people do) | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:46:03 AM | @Canam…actually I’m a one size fits none….some Lists I like, many I don’t. Ditto with paragraphs/prose.
Lists…GOOD Lists WORK. Bad Lists don’t.
Prose….GOOD Paragraphs work. Bad ones don’t.
The PROOF is in the results……if it’s attracting the kind of ladies you want to attract…you know it’s working. Humor helps both the Lists and the Listless...a BUNCH. DenverSky5280 | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:47:20 AM | Hey
The pics aren't bad, I just miss a close-up. Is there any way you can crop the second pic of you on the couch wearing a white shirt, so we can see your face a bit closer? You've got a nice smile in that one :)
Ye, lists are bad, but I kinda like yours! Especially the items that have explanations in brackets afterwards. And the others are right; leave the last one. If somebody responds that fits in that list you just reply a friendly "thanks, but no thanks" and leave it at that.
Also, majic is right: Cut and paste your entire profile into a word processor, fix the grammar and spelling, and cut and paste back. It's an easy fix.
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Posted: 11/4/2009 9:23:45 AM | | Ok so I removed the negative list. I actually was going to remove that I just never got around to it. I figured the whole point is to advertise what Im looking for not what im NOT looking for. I thought Id also add some more stuff in () next to some of the things on the list just to add some funny and witty to the profile | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 9:28:32 AM |
Canam…actually I’m a one size fits none….some Lists I like, many I don’t. Ditto with paragraphs/prose.
Well one size fits at least that size... I never said that you like all lists. Not all paragraph styled profiles are bad, but as a form of communication lists formats are frowned upon here. They are generally considered boring to read.
Lists…GOOD Lists WORK. Bad Lists don’t.
Actually no. Because of the extreme rarity of good lists (as I had said, in all my time I have only seen two) many people will not even bother to read a list to see if it's good.
Prose….GOOD Paragraphs work. Bad ones don’t.
But everyone will try a paragraph styled profile and if it's bad will dislike it or leave it, but that is dependent upon the content of the profile not the actual format.
My proof? You are the only person that I have ever read say that they like lists, yet I read people almost daily say that they hate lists, find them boring or that they are bad. Just because most people like or dislike something does not make it good or bad, but in this venue to automatically turn off a large number of potential readers is silly.
The reason that people do not like lists is that they do not and can not convey much personality. The same reason that people say "That person can make a grocery list sound exciting' is because lists are not interesting by their very nature. The purpose of a list is too effeciently deliver information quickly and accurately. The purpose of a profile is to give you a feel for the writer and a sense of who they are. That is extremely hard to do as the 'feel' does not come from a bullet point list of random facts, but from how the writer choses to express themselves in prose.
The difference is that of a moving funny story and a one-liner. You can't read between the lines in a one liner. You only get what ever surface idea that they wanted to convey.
Either way, our purpose as reviewers is to help people make their profile as interesting to people as possible. Unless they make clear that they are only interested in certain demographics only it is silly to point them in a direction that most readers say is bad and that they don't like, just because we may personally think it's good. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 11:05:33 AM | Miles and Denver, unless I am misreading things the two of you appear to be arguing about something I know you both agree on. The whole point of profile review is for the OP to be successful in his or her getting a good response rate from people of interest.
I personally am not a fan of the list format but if a particular profile is delivering the desired results. I say don’t change it. The old “If it ain’t broke don’t fix it” adage. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 2:25:41 PM | OP…the List debate is one that never ends. As Ron said “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”. Formats other than Lists and Paragraphs also work….but that’s a topic for another forum. DenverSky5280
p.s. – you still have a few typos…independent, I’ve, conversation, etc. As you know...spelling counts. | |
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