| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:04:30 PM | | Hey everyone !! I been on this site since I think 2005 and for the past 3 and a half yrs I been off and on sending messages back and forth with this one guy. He is older then me and lives not far from me but back then we never really pushed the issue over meeting. Just rencently in the past 2 and a half weeks we finally exchanged numbers and been writting a good bit here. He calls me :) just to see whats up and how my day has been and has me laughing up a storm to his awesome sense of humor. We had been talkin bout meetin up once I got a sitter for my kids.And on holloween I texted him and he was doing laundry at a laundrymat not far from me. lol I'm a very shy woman and I decided to drive by there and try to be sneeky and sneek me a peek at this fine man. haha he caught me, he so spotted me. so I got out and we talked a few and he asked for a hug we talked more and before I could get in the car to leave again he asked for another hug. I left and texted him sayin I was glad I met him and he said he was too and that I was a cutie and it was cute that I was tryin to be clever to sneek a peek lol. He's a sexy fire fighter and I like what I see and his approach to me, my question is how do I fully make it known that I do without takin it to far cause I surely don't wanna mess anything up that could possibly happen. I really like this guy, and what little I have told yall does it seem like he really likes me as well? I havent dated in 2 yrs and I'm tryin not to come off to strong and also get my hopes up so please give me yall feed back I could use it thanks. | |
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| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:11:12 PM |
We had been talkin bout meetin up once I got a sitter for my kids.
the ball is in your court. You have kids, he has to work off your schedule. So get a sitter, call him and set up a date, meeting, whatever it is you want to do. The more you drag out meeting eachother, the more it will fizzle out. | |
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| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:14:40 PM | | So true and thats the last thing I want is it to frizzle out. we just met the other day and it felt like he liked me with the smiles and the hugs he wanted and it felt good so i guess i better get busy gettin that sitter, thanks sweetie | |
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| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:24:50 PM | three years and he's just now showing enough interest to meet you? he was probably flirting with you behind the back of a wife, or a couple girlfriends, or all of the above.
whatever you do, make him wear a condom when you bang him, ok? four kids for a single, unattached mom who does not state she has a job or education are more than enough. | |
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| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:29:19 PM | We all tend to over complicate things when it happens to us!
If we look at your situation at its most basic level (which is what we can’t seem to do when it’s our life’s), this is what we see...
You like this guy and would now want to get to know him better. You see that there maybe could be a possible future for the two of you but, you don’t want to take it too fast.
Sure seems to me that now comes the period of time where you two go on a date, talk about your thought and feelings about him and NOT ask him how HE feels about you and tell him what would like to live with him.
Then you take it from there nice and slow! | |
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| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:31:55 PM |
whatever you do, make him wear a condom when you bang him, ok? four kids for a single, unattached mom who does not state she has a job or education are more than enough.
and if the guy accepts this, then it doenst even matter anyway | |
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| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:46:08 PM | Hey Cristina,
Call him and ask him to buy you a cup of coffee. Be playful. Have fun.
The guy is playing it cool. So just play it smart. And remember the more he's laughing and being playful with you, the faster you'll get what you want.
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| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:57:14 PM | how do I fully make it known that I do without takin it to far cause I surely don't wanna mess anything up that could possibly happen.
Just be available without appearing too eager. If he really likes you, he'll ask you out.
whatever you do, make him wear a condom when you bang him, ok? four kids for a single, unattached mom who does not state she has a job or education are more than enough.
And for godsakes follow davidpiano's advice here.
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| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:07:30 PM |
It's impossible to have the control that this statement implies you want.
It will either happen or not.
Relax and don't try to manipulate the minutia.
This is as good as it gets, IMO. I'll just add to this by saying emailing that long, for me, way past my interest level. Plus you have met. Just realize, and I'm saying it straight that he's more than likely been emailing other ladies besides you during that 3 or whatever years. It's not a gender thing at all, you may have been too.
Forget about screwing anything up, there's nothing to screw up, you've talked for awhile met briefly, he's cute, you're cute. Okay so go ahead get the sitter and make plans to go do something. Don't overthink it, because if you do you're programming yourself to take the blame if it goes south. It's called self-fulfilling prophecy, and that's not a cliche it's a real phenomenon.
Whatever your expectations are, toss them. If you have any, you're looking way too far ahead. This is just someone that you'd be interested in going out with, nothing more, nothing less.
Go with the expectation of spending some relaxed enjoyable time out. Be in the moment, enjoy it for just that and if you both want to do it again, then great. If not, don't guilt yourself "damn, I knew it, I screwed it up". Get that out of your head, if you have a great time out, enjoy it for that. Whatever does or doesn't happen, as the post I referred to, it's gonna happen anyway.
The thing IMO that you want to focus on is do you really ENJOY spending time with this person, there are so many threads about we had a great date, a hug, a kiss...said yes, let's do it again and they disappear off the face of the earth. Why?
Not saying that will happen, but it may. If you can't accept that, then..just saying perhaps you're not ready to date. Doesn't matter that the venue you "met" was the internet, it could happen in any circumstance in which you met.
Whoah...added a lot. It's a maternal thing, a woman thing.
I wish you the best, as another mother of 4, mine grown...no sitter needed, I remember those days and being that mom that you are. I empathize, I understand and relate.
If you need an ear, my inbox is open, I have no restrictions, so drop me a note if you'd like to.
I wish you the best, go have a great date and enjoy a night out. I'm sure you deserve it. Be good to you, always.  | |
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| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:08:52 PM | I wouldn't have let a strange guy hug me as he is putting it into the
physical area much too soon and testing you out to see if you have any
boundaries about him doing intimate things with you which you obviously
do not have.
He knows you like him if you checked him out. Leave the rest up to him.
He wants sex. Not that there's anything wrong with that if you want it too.
Three years of emails? | |
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| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:19:35 PM |
I wouldn't have let a strange guy hug me as he is putting it into the
physical area much too soon
strange?...where do you get that he was strange?
testing you out to see if you have any
boundaries about him doing intimate things with you which you obviously
do not have.
your saying because he hugged her, now all of a sudden she has opened her self up sexually to him?..are you freaking kidding me?...
please tell me that all women are not as paranoid as you.
He wants sex.
newsflash....any guy that DATES a women wants sex out of her. That is WHY he is dating her. Why else would he date her?...to continue to be attracted to her and NOT have sex?...of COURSE he wants sex..hence why he might date her to get it.
so if I have your logic correct...the minute I hug a women I am the following..
1. strange
2. I just want sex
3. I was testing her to check her "boundries"
all this from a hug?...really? | |
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| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:36:38 PM |
a hug is a hug theres nothing wrong with a hug. He knows where I stand over the sex issue. To be honest so far he has respected that and has not said one thing out of the way to me.lol a hug doesnt mean he wants sex from me!! he knows my boundaries and he doesnt want to step over them and i like him for that.
I wanna thank broncsbuff for sayin what u did cause lol i didnt know u can get all that for just a hug too hehe and its not strange.
Question what do u do when a friend or family member hugs u i guess thats over stepping ur boundaries and they testing u too no its just a hug | |
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| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:38:12 PM | wow.. your post sounds like you are 18... or less
Your profile says 29
It's already messed up.. just from how you are handling it. how you present it to the world AND presented to the guy.
He wants a bootycall.. and you are volunteering for JUST SEX. | |
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| Can u tell if he likes me just by this ..give me ur feed back
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:40:13 PM |
I wouldn't have let a strange guy hug me as he is putting it into the
physical area much too soon and testing you out to see if you have any
boundaries about him doing intimate things with you which you obviously
do not have.
He knows you like him if you checked him out. Leave the rest up to him.
He wants sex. Not that there's anything wrong with that if you want it too.
Three years of emails?
She's right...I thought I was direct, but yeah the physical familiarity, intimacy thing..not even saying sex...but yeah, first date wonders...reaching over touching. Kills interest, for me, it's too familiar, and way too intimate.
Three years of emails...he's right on. There's noone who's maintained any interest emailing for 3 years. Again, I repeat...you're not the only one he's been emailing for 3 years. Or meeting, or hugging....you don't even know what else.
It's a reality check, endorse it. | |
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