| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:59:29 PM |  I'm sooo lonely these days. I feel like im going to shrivel up and die. Im always alone and I cry alot. I joined this particular site to try and meet new people...but its not working out for me.I wasnt always this way. I dont know what has happened to me. Has anyone else on here ever felt this kind of despair. Men and Women? | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:39:15 PM | Cheer up. The only way you can die from a lonley heart is if you let it get to you. I've had a broken heart more times than I like to think about but I know i'll find true love one day and so will you.
--internet hug--- | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:10:51 PM | WHAT ......... OP you look cute as a button.
Just pick up that bottom lip and smile.
I was married most of my life and ...... well - will no doubt be totally alone from here on out.
BUT YOU ........ you are a youngin and have lots of time to find your guy.
Go look in the mirror.
Pretend you are talking to some guy and say "you lucky dog". | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:59:17 PM | You aren't providing enough information for anyone to know why you might be feeling as you are OP.
Are you reclusive (i.e. shutting people out)? Have you just had a change in your life circumstances?
I note that your profile shows you drink more than 3 times a week. Do you know that alcohol is a depressant?
Why not give us some background as to why you might be feeling the way you are? | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:05:01 PM | I feel like im going to shrivel up and die. Im always alone and I cry alot. How long have you been feeling this way, OP?
I'm sooo lonely these days.
Could be you were feeling the standard loneliness that happens to everyone - before the change in season, and daylight savings time change - but, since the shorter days (hence less daylight), and entering the holiday season, has exacerbated your feelings of despair?
I wasnt always this way. I dont know what has happened to me.
You state, in your profile, that you drink often. How long has that been going on? And, can you pin point when it started?
It sounds like it was maybe loneliness and 'minor' depression that most everybody experiences, but has since moved into moderate to severe depression. Not sure, until you respond, if the drinking often is what could be the catalyst, or maybe your attempt to self-medicate... or, maybe both?
** :deer: ... "20 Questions"... ** | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:48:20 PM | Ok.. I looked at your profile.. and your pictures. You have ALL the parts in place to be having a full life. but you arent.
Move back home with your parents.. TELL them how you are feeling
then go get some serious mental health help.
I'm sincere and serious here.. I cant see a DAMN reason for you to be this way based upon your outward presentation here.
Go re-cocoon with family and get serious mental health help. | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/3/2009 10:00:44 PM | It is certainly possible to despair to the point of death, so don't do it.
The thing about being grown up is, your emotions operate in the world that has different expectations of you than when you were a child. As a child, the worse you felt and the more miserable you seemed the more certain it was someone would notice and help. You could sulk, and if that didn't bring help, escalate to something more pathetic, maybe wail and sob, lay down on the floor, things like that to show how miserable you felt. The worse you could make yourself feel, the greater your expression of it and the more obvious your need. That means the worse you feel the more pressure you put on people to help you.
As an adult you are expected to ask for the help you may need. To dwell on a bad feeling making it worse and worse, that doesn't bring help anymore. You should be able to recognize when you get stuck emotionally, that maybe you need medical help for depression, or to talk with a friend, or counsel of another sort. Long before you would die of loneliness or heartbreak you would have decided to get some help for yourself from available sources. | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:24:54 PM |
I joined this particular site to try and meet new people...but its not working out for me.I wasnt always this way. I dont know what has happened to me. Has anyone else on here ever felt this kind of despair. Men and Women?
There is one lucky young man out there that is just waiting for you and no one else.
You are only missing one piece of the puzzle. patience | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:47:35 PM | | Hasn't killed me yet. If I am not dating anyone I go do the things I enjoy and keep my mind busy. Depression on the other hand is bad but the drugs can make it worse. I just got over being lonely and don't care any more so it doesn't depress me like it used to. I can now get rejected one night and be on another first date the next night and I don't allow it to phase me. You can't or the next person you meet will see you as a depressed person and move on. Look at every new person like they could be the one and if they aren't just move on to the next one. Sleeping with someone makes it worse so I like to wait a few weeks to make sure it is going somewhere. | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:56:50 AM | Sure it is! When the spirit loses its will to live, the body follows. But you're not alone, butterflykiss7. We're all there with you.
Get out and exercise. The hills of California look beautiful! Run, bike-ride. It releases such wonderful endorphins that make you feel warm inside. Exercising is the best kind of self-love there is. It's taking care of the temple God gave you, your own wonderful body. And, who knows, you're young and attractive (extremely attractive, I might add)--you'll most likely meet a cool, cute guy in your travels! Or maybe make a new female friend. Or maybe a sibling or relative. Or their child. There are all kinds of human beings to bond with, maybe not all in a sexual sense, but a love sense.
You're not alone! Love is all around you, there for the taking. All you have to do is take it! But you've got to get out from behind this computer and explore the world outside. Have fun and good luck! | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:02:52 AM |
There is one lucky young man out there that is just waiting for you and no one else.
You are only missing one piece of the puzzle. patience
I doubt lack of a date and/or SO is the cause - it can't be. It's not THAT bad. I assume there's deeper stuff involved. | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/4/2009 2:27:24 PM | OP-
It seems you are in a funk. I looked at your profile and it seems you really feel good when your hair looks great! Go get your braids done, buy a new outfit, go out and be fabulous and get the compliments you need. You will be lonley if you don't go interact with people. Stop feeing down and do something about it. Force yourself to okay. It pays off in the end. | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/4/2009 3:39:17 PM | OP, I admire your honesty and applaud you for expressing yourself so openly. Even though it's just a virtual environment, it still takes some courage to step out and risk being put down, or worse, which does happen on this site.
Here's what I'd recommend:
1) Put the alcohol down. It's a downer. When you're down, you don't need to go lower.
2) Remember all of the things you've done that brought you joy, and start doing them again. Force yourself to engage in activities that divert your attention and keep your mind from dwelling on the negative.
3) Embrace your pain and love it and heal yourself. Whatever your spiritual or religious beliefs might be, lean heavily on them. It's time to wake back up to who you are.
You won't die from loneliness. But if you continue on a path of despair you could tend to take actions that could cause your demise. Happens every day. So you do need to make some new choices. And... YOU CAN. | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/4/2009 3:43:40 PM | OP, I tried to send you some additional thoughts, but your settings do not allow me to send to you due to how far apart we are. (You're in Cali; I'm in Michigan.) If you send me a message, I can reply to you and it will override that setting.
Hang in there, sister. You are absolutely beautiful physically. We just need to get that spark back alive in your heart and spirit so your inner beauty matches the outer beauty with which you've been blessed. And it can actually be easier, and happen faster, than you might believe possible. It all starts with making a few new, healthy choices. | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/4/2009 3:59:05 PM | | It is possible. I know people who have. An elderly woman who lived next door died of a stroke, and her husband just wasted away from missing her and he died about three months later of no known cause. He was in fine health until she died. It can work for you here, but may take some time. Try not to scare people off by seeming too lonely, or too needy. Be realistic, and honest, and open. To avoid depression-which is the result of the difference between expectations, and achievements-try to expect less. If you expect to live in a 40 room mansion, but end up in a one bedroom apartment, you will be depressed. If you expect to live in a studio apartment, or on the street, but end up in a one bedroom apartment, you will be happy. Forget the fairy tales. You can't change beasts into charming Princes, you'll never live in a castle, there is no such thing as 'happily ever after'...even people who stay together for a hundred years have their arguements, sad times, and such. Quit looking for perfection, and start seeking compatibility. | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:17:37 PM | seek professional help.... because if you are feeling alone and lonely ,and can be around others and still feel that way....you may be disconnecting yourself...
I have been there before and sometimes fixing a chemical imbablance is the only way to feel happy and fulfilled again.... not saying drugs is the answer ,but its hard to be in a place that you cant remember being in in the first place!
hmm nevermind ...my post sounded like gibberish | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:30:13 PM | You don't die from a broken heart you just wish you could.
I married th emanof my dreams and we were togetehr for over 30 years. I thought we had wonderful marriage. he didn't tell me any different til he had found a girlfriend.
It was like half my body, mind soul and life had been taken away from me. I cried for hours each and every day. My nights were torment because I dreamed of him. It was horible! Even with counseling and meidcatoin I spent two years crying for hours each day. And this threat ran though it all..alone...alone..alone.
I didn't die. And slowly it all starte to ge better but npot with out effort on my part.. I started college and got involved in couple things. I got counseling and medicaion.
I suggest you seek counseling and medication. Put an effort into getting the proper amount of rest , and exercise. Eat a well balanced diet. But do get help. it reallyhelps. | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:37:57 AM |
I'm sooo lonely these days. I feel like im going to shrivel up and die. Im always alone and I cry alot.
Since you are lonely, join a few groups whether it is church group, bowling league, singles group etc. That will help the loneliness.
You sound depressed to me and drinking makes it worse. You should see your doctor asap.
You are a good looking young woman with a good career, you just need to get out there. Before you know it, men will be tripping over each other to get to you. | |
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| Is it possible to die from loneliness? Or from a broken heart?
Posted: 11/5/2009 1:26:38 PM | I do not think is is possible to die from loneliness or a broken heart. But when I was about your age I felt the same despair. I am now nearly 62 and yes I am still lonely but not despairing. I am sometimes sad that I have not found a special man to be with. But perhaps if I had I would not have had the wonderful adventures that I have had in my life. You are so beautiful and well educated. I do not think it will be long until some great fellow comes along and wants to be with you. In the mean time go out and have some great adventures. Follow whatever passion you have, learn lots of things and have a great life. You never know you may meet your Mr. wonderful as you are doing that.
Good luck. | |
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