| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:17:19 PM | Hello ladies. I had a question that I hope you all could shed some light on. While on Facebook, I recently noticed that several of the women on my friends list had hyphenated names. Their followed by their husbands name. I was just curious to know whether this is a growing trend or not, and if so what are the reasons you would or would not take your man's last name? Thank you for your time.
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:20:03 PM | I think it's common for women to do that on facebook mainly because they may be hoping to reconnect with old school friends, or other people from the past, who knew them by their maiden name.
A lot of these people likely aren't going around using a hyphenated name in real life. Just on their facebook profile. | |
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:23:10 PM | I don't know about facebook, but when you wait to get married until you're in your 30s, you're already an established person in your own right with a work and credit history and your own identity. Why should I give that up to become a brand new person no one knows?
For me last marriage, I told my (now) ex if he wanted me to take his name, he could take mine and we'd both change. He opted not to, so I kept mine. | |
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:42:17 PM | I haven't paid much attention to whether it's a trend or not, but I do know it's kind of a pain in the butt to change your name on everything. It's not like you can just start using another name...Social Security, driver's license, passport, insurance, voter/vehicle registrations, banking information, taxes, bills, credit cards etc.
Personally, I'd do it if it was important to the man for whatever reason (unless he had a really doofy last name!), but I think it's important to realize that it's not just a matter of signing a marriage license. I wouldn't want to hyphenate names, because it would get really long and annoying to spell out all the time.
People less lazy than I would probably have different reasons, though ;) | |
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:45:05 PM |
While on Facebook, I recently noticed that several of the women on my friends list had hyphenated names. Their followed by their husbands name.
I know several women on FB that did this. They actually dropped their maiden name after marrying, but they included it in their FB name so old friends could find them. | |
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:49:42 PM | I have no desire to take someone else's name. I just don't think it's necessary. Like others have pointed out, I have already established myself in my life and career . Why would I want to start over/add confusion/have to clarify? What if he has a terrible last name? The feminist in me cringes too. I do not become another person or the property of someone else if I choose to marry...
Of course, if kids are in the cards, I could see where it would be kinda nice for the kids for all of us to have the same name
Truth be told, I don't feel too strongly about it either way. If my husband felt strongly that we have the same name for the sake of any children we might have, I'd cave. | |
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:00:53 PM | If I ever marry, I will follow tradition and take my husband's last name for the reason I mentioned (tradition) and to make it not confusing for future children should any come along.
I don't follow trends and think they are nonsense.
Just because a woman takes her husband's last name it doesn't negatively affect her status in the workforce or regarding her education. That has already been established. It doesn't change a woman's identity either as that was formed at the time of birth.
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:08:04 PM | | If you dont want to take a man's last name.....dont marry him...when you get married you become one...now..i kept my married name...for business purposes....the hyphenated name is because they built a business or client base with probably thie maiden name...it's less confusing to drop it...easier to add one more. If i fell back to my maiden name...no one would know who i was...and too much trouble to change legally... | |
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:20:34 PM | I've been having a lot a conversations with friends about this recently, and the general theme has been "Why should *I* have to give up part of my identity just because I want to get married?" There's really no reason to besides tradition. A male friend once told me that he would feel disrespected if his wife didn't take his name, which I just found ridiculous and hypocritical.
That said, I'm sort of torn as to what I would do in that situation because I'm not a huge fan of my own last name and it's waaay too long to hyphenate. But on the other hand, I've gotten some cool nicknames over the years that just won't make sense at all if I change it. In any case, I do believe we're going to see a lot more hyphenates and retained maiden names in the future | |
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:24:38 PM | | Having our own established and born-with identity would be the first and foremost reason...and if I recall from one of my classes in university...Oh yes, the name change started because long ago the husband actually "bought" the wife....like a possession/ownership....I don't think I'll be questioning the prof on that one!! | |
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:34:06 PM | | I'll be keeping my last name for professional purposes. If I had a job where my last name didn't matter too much, I'd change it in a heartbeat. I like the tradition (even though I'm insanely attached to my last name and everything it stands for)! | |
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:45:11 PM | Hi OP...
Maybe turn the question around by asking ...
"What are the reasons, as a man, you would or would not take your woman's last name?"
Perhaps outside the context of what has been considered tradition, you may be able to shed additional light onto your own inquiry.
Just food for thought. Hope it helps. | |
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:50:15 PM | Women do this all over the place, not just on Facebook. It is a thing where they don't want to stay with tradition but don't want to break it neither. So they will add the hyphen and add the married name.
Where my parents are from, it is a custom to put the child born with the last name of the father first and the mother's name last following the hyphen. | |
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:18:14 PM | I did not change my last name when I was married. I have four degrees and am established in my career - and really didn't see the point. If he wanted to have the same last name, he was welcome to change his own. I also didn't like his last name all that much honestly, it was easily and always misspelled and I didn't want to deal with that. I also didn't want to change my id, etc...
A name is a person's identity, I don't see the point in changing my identity simply because I was married. :P
In Quebec - it is not the 'done thing' to change one's name after marriage. I agree and find it a modern viewpoint. I don't think a man should feel insulted if a woman doesn't change her name...if he does, she should feel insulted he doesn't take her own.
"A rose by any other name is just as sweet..." Cheers! | |
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:23:09 PM | | I'm old fashion when it comes to marriage. It is a pain in the ass to change everything like someone stated, but nonetheless, I would still do it. I won't even keep my maiden name. I still have my X last night and I don't even like him. | |
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| Are more woman opting to not take their husbands last name?
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:07:36 PM | | Well I plan on keeping my last name if I ever get marry. One part is that I am way too lazy to go thru all the paper work to change every thing to his last name. The other reason is I would probably forget it when signing my name-old habits. Plus, why should I have to be the one to change my name? If a name change is soooooooo important to a guy-he can change his. Odd huh? | |
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