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Posted: 11/3/2009 7:01:55 PM | Hey, I'm curious about what I've done wrong in my profile and what I've done right. I've been around this site a while and in the months I've only had one person that would talk to me pretty much. I'm starting to get tired of putting so much effort in to my opening messages and not getting a a response.
Can some one tell me what might help me? What changed to my profile and such should I make? I'm starting to wonder if it's my profile pictures? Since I'll go a month or longer with out so much as being viewed. Are they bad pictures? If so what should I do differently? Or am I just that unpleasant to look at? lol
Thanks for any tips or information negative or positive! | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 7:56:27 PM | Well I was about ready to just pass by but I clicked your profile and saw you are a fellow Nebraskan. You go a whole month without being viewed? Look I don't a hell of lot about this myself but if you are not being viewed then your main profile pic is the problem, that much I do know. It is like the headline in an ad, it's what stops the reader and make them want to read the ad. Same thing with a profile main pic. So try a different pic is about all I can suggest. There are some people who are knowledgeable about profiles and hopefully one will jump in here and help you out a lot more than I can. As pathetic as my pics and profile is I get a lot of views and an steady but not overwhelming stream of emails. I never email anyone first. So if I can do it you can too.
One last thing, when I first glanced at your main pic, the first thought that jumped into my mind was this guy is a football player. Personally I do not think your main pic is that bad but it's what determines how many times you are viewed. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 8:35:49 PM | Pictures.
Primary photo is a frown from 10 feet away. Use your third photo, even though you've lost weight since then.
The pictures I see make me think you're one of those guys reminiscing to the good old days. You play paintball with a bunch of friends - bring a camera, have someone take an action shot - or a still shot of you laying on the ground with a bright yellow splatter over your heart.
First line - don't apologize for out of date photos. Simply get new ones.
You probably don't need to talk details about how much you can bench, squat, leg press, etc. Let her show her curiosity on a date.
Get rid of negative tones -- slacking with your lifting ethics, not liking romantically themed movies, backing off the MMORPGs...
You've lost a bunch of weight, which is excellent. You don't need to stress that in your profile nor mention that you intend to lose more. Simply say that you are training to join the army. You may also want to suggest a timeline if you do join. Are you expecting 5 year stint, career all the way, or what? It's great you have a fallback plan, but it's a setup for failure. Simply say that you aspire to be a law enforcer, either civilian or MP after serving your country.
Skip the first sentence in the "Date" section. Dating is a learning experience whether it's your 1st or 1000th one. If going to the movies is a first date, I recommend doing something before/afterwards so that, when the date is over, you aren't saying goodbye to a stranger. The first date is one of those dates you find out who it is you are actually dating! You can't do that in a theatre, and it's very unlikely you'll score a first date online at somebody's home. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 9:05:09 PM | | Thanks for the tips, really appreciate it! And yeah I would have to agree with what you said. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 9:14:19 PM | Agree on the comments about the pictures. Change your 3rd pic to your main pic until you can get a new one of you smiling (congrats on the weight loss).
Profiles are really pretty easy. The first sentence in the about me section should be the one thing that is most interesting or unique about you. Any woman who clicks on your profile may only read that first line unless you catch her interest. Make that first line a good one.
Then you should have at least 3 paragraphs - 1) about you, 2) about the kind of girl you're looking for, and 3) what you might do together/what kind of relationship you're looking for.
So far all you have is about you. Cut out some of the paintball stuff (leave some but right now there's too much), cut the weight-lifting stuff (maybe you'll meet a girl who likes to lift weights or swoon over weight-lifters, but is that what you're looking for? If not, then why is it even in there?), the car stuff is ok because the last sentence about it being a guy thing is kinda sweet.
Give it another try, you're getting closer. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2009 9:47:44 PM | Sorry mate but your profile is terrible. It looks more like you're advertising for guy friends not a GF! First, change all the pics. You look unapproachable and a bit menacing in the first two; arms folded, testosterone-fuelled. Replace all pics with natural looking ones..the best are action shots, no need to be full-on..eg eating out, washing your car.. everyday things.
You talk way too much about your hobbies. The paintball one is more acceptable because it demonstrates group activities with others. But babbling on about the rest is just self-indulgent and excludes your viewer. You must cater your profile to your audience..you think girls wanna hear about all that? C'mon, get your head into gear. I suggest removing one of the other hobbies. Instead, tell us who you are. Illustrate personal qualities with 1/2 examples..explain why you want to enlist in the army, or become a police officer or MP, so we know what makes you tick. State what type of girl you're looking for.
For the "first date" part, I think people usually take that to mean first meet. I'm not worried about the movie idea (though others are), make sure to include a coffee/meal afterward so you can sit in talk. Getcherselves into the movie first! If you do it the other way round, you might not get on...which means adios, no movie. At least if the date fizzles, it wasn't a total waste.
I've trimmed your profile down as follows:
"About 6 months ago a group of my co-workers suggested playing a paintball game and it caught on very fast. Now about 7 of us play paintball together and bring friends and random people who paintball along and have games. Most of us live in the country so there is a lot of space to play woods ball.
I'm thinking of getting back in to weight lifting since its a beneficial and fun hobby. Bench press was probably always my favorite lift followed by the leg press!
I generally prefer action or comedy movies I like when they have a romantic interest though I usually don't like it to be the main focus of the movie! I also enjoy playing PC games MMOs more specifically!
I have recently taken interest in Muscle cars and bought a 1981 Z28 T-top Camaro that's in excellent condition. Its probably a guy thing, just feels great to have a nice car.
Well right now I'm trying to get in shape and lose a bit more weight and hope to enlist in the army. After that I wish to go to college and get an associates in Criminal Law. Then I hope to become a police officer or possibly an MP. But whether I'll make all or any of these goals is not known to me... I mean I can't see in to the future after all.
Music: Well I like Johnny Cash, Johnny Horton, Walter Brennan, System of a Down... About the only music I dislike is rap, otherwise I enjoy most all music.
For me I would be more than satisfied simply watching a movie together, I know its kind of corny but it seems like a good choice seeing as it gives you more to talk about" (add more here about a coffee/meal). | |
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