| My stipulation...too harsh? "Also, is my pic too "sexy"?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:40:04 PM | Be honest with me here, brutally so if necessary, but do you think my "No horny talk" stipulation (in regards to what people would send me in e-mails is harsh or a turn off that would discourage otherwise nice guys from messaging me? Perhaps they would think a little casual flirting would get me all huffed up?
Also, do you think the picture of me in my "sexy" outfit (I actually wore that shopping with a gal pal) might be too much, or perhaps makes me look like a hypocrite. Inititially I had that as my main pic. I think it's cute (maybe a lil sexy )but not too revealing, however I was getting a lot of messages asking for more pics like that (PMed) or things like "I'd like to see more of that little body"...seriously, I won't respond to that. This was both before I changed my main profile pic and added the "no horny/pervy talk" stipulation...
I was thinking possibly taking down the picture, and the stipulation then posting a less sexy full body shot. Good idea, or am I just being a little paranoid?
Any advice would be helpful!
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| My stipulation...too harsh? Also, is my pic too sexy?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:47:35 PM | Personally I think you're being paranoid. None of your pictures are overly anything, especially compared to some of the pics other people post.
Furthermore, short of taking all your pics down entirely, and even that doesn't really work - men will always send bonehead messages like that regardless of what you wear. Some don't bother to read profiles, or will find that stuff tempting and message you because of it - don't sweat these people. | |
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| My stipulation...too harsh? Also, is my pic too sexy?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:54:36 PM | Hmm, In my opinion its good, your quite gorgeous in your photos so that should attract people to your profile and at least get people to read your profile.
This quote here "NO HORNY TALK BTW. I just don't talk too sexy or do sexy stuff with guys I don't really care about, so please spare me."
Could most certainly be changed to sound better. When you say "I just don't talk too sexy or do sexy stuff with guys I don't really care about" It sounds a little conceited, not what your saying of course its just the way you phrased it of course! I also think you could of said the "NO HORNY TALK BTW" a bit better.
Perhaps say something such as "No sexual talk please, I don't feel comfortable talking to people I just met in such a manner"
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| My stipulation...too harsh? Also, is my pic too sexy?
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:30:40 PM | Thanks for both of your replies! I think I'll take a good hard at my profile and do a bit of editting when I get the time...and I'm not exhausted. Taking a little peak at it, I realize I might have another problem...coming off a little blah. I'm being honest when I say that I don't get out much, but I do have a sense of humor and a fun side that I'd like to incorporate more into my profile.
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| My stipulation...too harsh? Also, is my pic too sexy?
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:08:42 PM | Your pictures are fine. Gravity is a bit wonky for you, as you seem to be on your side half the time. Crop the pics and repost in landscape format.
As for the stipulation, as a guy, my first reaction reading that was "Whoa! That woman has issues!" You probably don't have, but the negativity is never a good thing. A positive attitude is always a good thing to have, at least from all the profiles asking for a sense of humor. Try rewriting your sentence in a more positive light:
"When writing me, please tell me your hobbies and interests. If I care about you, THEN we can talk about how you'd like to smear Cheeze Whiz on my stomach with a rutabega, and then lick it all off while humming Imogen Heep's "Hide and Seek".
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| My stipulation...too harsh? Also, is my pic too sexy?
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:27:16 PM | Hey ya Emily!
I will toss in my two cents too... ok, maybe 3.5 of them.
You pictures made me get a crick in my neck. Thanks! I am old and maybe since you are looking for the young guys that will work for you, but OMG you killed me. Thanks, Now where is my bed.... Shit!
:-)
Try and get your pictures rotated so the "normal" person can see how pretty you are! I can't even tell if that is really a nose piercing you have or not. It may be one.. or just a boogar you have goin on. Not sure as we can't see. (and I think they are nice BTW, just show us what you have goin on. Get it?)
You smoke often and drink often... JUST my kinda girl, cept you are 100 years too young for me. The smoking thing will probably nix some guys, but I am sure you get that one already. Drinking >3 times a week? At your age (and mine) I have no issues with. The issue with that one? You MIGHT be sending the wrong impression. Just a thought that popped into the 3 remaining brain cells.
For the ignorant out in POF land, can you explain your profession to us? Loss Prevention? I lost my cat? I lost my cell phone!! OMG!! What am I going to do NOW! Most guys your age won't have a freakin clue.
You have zero Interests listed. These are search-able and help find matches for you. Use them as they are your friend!
Your profile text reads to me that you are pretty unapproachable. Like oh man... I am going to send her an email and get the "unread/deleted" thing. I mean not like I have EVER gotten one of them before.
Talk about you in a positive manner, not negative. I.e. Lose the "I live with my parents thing". I have 2 girls that are close to your age that STILL live with me too! You have your $hit together and are going to skewl. Run with that one ok? Tell the boys WHY you are interested in nursing.
Split your profile up into logical paragraphs. Talk about you... talk about him. And only use positive qualities for you and your dream man.
Last point - the HORNY TALK is just what you are going to get when you are cute hun. There is somewhere on POF a "click WHOOPS you are blocked forever" button. Use it and use it often. Sad days.
I have never found it cuz no women want to talk "horny" to me.
Cheers sugar!
PS one last thing. I would kill your age limitations you have. I have none. Which means, 22 year old girls can contact me (which I am still waing for) ... and 122 year old BROADS can as well (which I have gotte a few of). It goes back to the "read/deleted" thing or "click/block/you-make-me-want-to barf" button.
Find that damn button and good fishin' hun! Or catch the bad ones and use them for bait!
I wish you the very best!!
Edit: I have NO clue how you spell boogar, boggar, bugger and I think you get my drift here. It's one of those things that ummm hang outta your nose when you really don't want them there. Never used that word before to be honest. Where is Tommy when I need him! | |
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| My stipulation...too harsh? Also, is my pic too sexy?
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:12:37 AM | Oh, xemilystrangex, you **really** do not want to give the SB license to be *brutally* honest. Other than referring to himself in the third person pretentious tense, the SB plays rougher than most kids.
The photo is not even PG-13. In fact, it's hardly Mature-- rather like the pervs messaging you, come to think of it.
Besides, the photo is struggling it's way through the cloud of Man Repellent liberally sprayed on your profile. Let's just clear the air a bit. Starting with this line:
"I don't know if I have the greatest people skills. So far no relationships have worked out, not that there have been many in my life."
One of the problems with not being any good at something, is that being able to tell IF you're good at something requires the same skills as being good at it in the first place. That line out of your profile says: "I am undesirable and a sh*tty girlfriend." I'm not sure if that's true, but if it is true, seriously, start lying, because a line like that has no place in a profile.
Not everyone knows that working "Loss Prevention" in retail basically means you're a mall cop looking for shoplifters (correct?), so you might want to clarify that.
Do not tell us you'll seem one-sided and closed off when we first meet you. Again, if that's true, start lying, or better yet, work on being less one-sided and closed off.
Drinking 3 or more times a week makes you sound like you might be a lush, which is a turn-off for pretty much anyone who is not a lush also. That, combined with the frequent smoking does about as much to help your relationship prospects as it does your health prognosis. If you're just talking about one, or say two, drinks on three occasions a week, you're being too honest again, and should be calling yourself a social drinker.
And in response to your original question, the "no horny talk" request, plus some other elements of the profile have you seeming cold enough to put frost on our keyboards. It's not going to make the perverts go away anyhow-- if anything, it will egg on the ones who get a kick out of making people feel uncomfortable. Just block the perverts.
We also get virtually no information on what you actually want in a guy, which leaves the reader puzzled as to whether you even know what you want. So tell us, because otherwise I have a one-eyed Albanian dwarf with a cleft palate and a chronic gambling problem who needs a girlfriend, if you know what I'm saying.
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| My stipulation...too harsh? Also, is my pic too sexy?
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:33:04 AM |
One of the problems with not being any good at something, is that being able to tell IF you're good at something requires the same skills as being good at it in the first place. That line out of your profile says: "I am undesirable and a sh*tty girlfriend." I'm not sure if that's true, but if it is true, seriously, start lying, because a line like that has no place in a profile.
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| My stipulation...too harsh? Also, is my pic too sexy?
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:40:53 PM | Once again, thanks to everyone for the advice. I'm definately going to revamp my profile. I see that I may come off as a little bit,cold, frosty though? I suppose it's a little bit difficult for me to express a lot of my personality...well...not in person. I mostly just wish to be as honest and forthcoming as possible, but perhaps the way I describe myself puts me in a more negative light. "Not having the best social skills"...perhaps shy, instead? Though, I don't even know if "shy" really describes my specific brand of social awkwardness. I'm going to have to put some consideration into it. I may have been in a touch of a down mood when I created my profile. I'm not sure, but when I looked over it I thought "Man, I seemed kinda like a downer" in some aspects. Also...obviously no relationships have worked out...why else would I be trolling the internet to meet people. Duh.
When I redo my profile, do I need to start a new post, or should I simply update this one? I'm assuming just update this one...? Didn't read the rules to be honest, just skimmed through the posts and I believe I grasp the purpose of this forum and what is appropriate.
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| My stipulation...too harsh? Also, is my pic too sexy?
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:46:18 PM | Hey Emily - Just bump this thread when you update your profile. That way we can be mean to you in one string vs. two!
It also happens to be one of the frickin rules I hate so much.
A good profile is much harder to write than pick apart. Take your time and use the stuff the posters have given you.
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| My stipulation...too harsh? Also, is my pic too sexy?
Posted: 11/4/2009 8:32:18 PM |
Your pictures are fine. Gravity is a bit wonky for you, as you seem to be on your side half the time. Crop the pics and repost in landscape format.
Negative! Don't you know the secret?
See, a while back the pics used to have the same pixel dimensions vertical and horizontal. But now there is more space for horizontal pics.
However, posting all of them like this is a tad boring.
OP, I think you need to redo your entire "About Me" section. It doesn't give a guy much to say in an email anyways. Take a look at the profile writing tips at the top of the forum. | |
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| My stipulation...too harsh? Also, is my pic too sexy?
Posted: 11/8/2009 6:27:38 PM | You might wanna try rotate some of your pictures clockwise once. I didn't enjoy turning my neck/head while looking at your picture. And the bunny costume creeps me out.
The content of the profile is good though. | |
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| My stipulation...too harsh? Also, is my pic too sexy?
Posted: 11/15/2009 2:56:14 PM | | That's a shame, Em. If I lived nearby we'd go out and I'd bring a camera. Of course, I wouldn't want you attracting other guys' attention so I'd have to conveniently "forget" to bring it. ;-) | |
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| My stipulation...too harsh? Also, is my pic too sexy?
Posted: 11/15/2009 4:22:14 PM | | My advice is use any of your other pics as your main one. You have a pretty face...but you cant even see your face in the one you have now...and I know this will sound bad and Im not trying to be critical, but since you asked...even tho you dont appear to be fat your stomach sticks out farther than your brests in that pic so its not very flattering. I am sure this is only because the way you are standing but you can choose a much better pic for your main one. You can still be sexy but with a more close up pic that shows your face. Blow a kiss or whatever..I would choose a different main pic for your profile tho. | |
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