| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:01:41 PM | I have just had the weirdest convosation and its left me feeling a bit 
A guy messeged me simply asking if I'd like to chat,scanned his profile he seemed ok, then he asked for my number saying we could txt I explained I dont have unlimited txt and I actually dont like handing my number out to anyone I kno nothing about. With that he promptly said "ok bye" now whats all that about? his profile distinctly says "genuine ladies only"
Just because I didnt imediatly hand over my mobile number he assumes I am not genuine bearing in mind it is almost midnight and there was only a minimal amount of convosation here would you have done the same or just handed out your number?
I would have been more than happy to have chatted to him here for a while then I'd have given him my number to continue another time but after just saying" hello" and "can we chat" I dont think so. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:05:57 PM | | am not to worried about giving out my mobile can always block then after if I want , but yes a bit odd this time of night and only just started chatting. think you did the right thing | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:19:23 PM | Never trust the profiles that in effect say 'trust me'- aka 'genuine people only'. As if anyone wants someone artificial haha 
Sounds like a number collector, he would probably have moved onto 'picture texting' pretty quickly. If a guy really is genuine (I hate that word) then he'd make at least a bit of an effort to email and talk online first.
And to answer your question, I only give out my number when meeting was on the cards. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:33:35 PM | Hunni, you know its a no no. You aren’t dumb, the agro from giving out your number to someone you don’t know can be really inconvenient. Stick to what you know best, and trust that instinct. I think the person is assuming you are gullible!
There has to be a period of time before you would give out your number but only when you feel comfortable enough to do so. So time like a week or two weeks is kinda irrelevant, I think. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:40:19 PM | You're right with trusting your instincts. If you think there's something fishy about a person, there usually is!
Isn't that what they call 'projecting'?
I mean he's the one with the issue but he made it feel like it was your fault. I think it's called that anyway, it's late and my brain is foggy... | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:44:51 PM | I only ever gave my number out to a guy who I was going to have a date with. NEVER would I give out my number after a few emails. Loads do tho and yes they are number collectors. Better things to do that answer texts all day and night!
Trust your instincts...women are great at that.
And I should get to bed, cos it won't be this when the alarm goes off! | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:48:22 PM | OP to nutters like that you don't.
Trust your judgement - and if you are guarded about your mobile, use Messenger or emails first - its easier to block and you can switch those off without them interfering with your life.
I'd say only give your mobile when you feel comfortable and want to or it's a bit useful (like just before a date). You never know and someone demanding it after a few messages is a bit suspect. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:50:36 PM | | Quite a few have my number off the site, and why? I send them jokes on most days. Its no problem to me, as chat to them rather then email and bond quicker. Ive never had no problem and if i do just delete and block there number ... Simples | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:52:41 PM | | I know this sounds pretty trivial and I am not parnoid about number giving but it was his inferance that it was me that had the problem and that I was 'nt the person who I said I was plus I was gutted coz he was so local to me too!! wacko wacko land strikes again bah! | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:07:11 PM | OP: If you're uncomfortable about it then, nope, don't meet 'em, don't give out your details.
Also, don't keep going on about the fella, if he's on this site - would you like it? | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:08:58 PM | Hunni, you came across a GAME player right there. I saw one of these asshats post about this same strategy.
Its basically putting the pressure on the woman who has obviously an interest in the guy (slightly in your case) and he puts the "number now or cya" routine.
You can see it in bars and clubs where players just go around fishing and using the time constraints method ("gotta go meet some friends excuse) and eventually out of the 10 or so numbers they got, they can get a quick screw or two from them.
You shouldn't worry about it and instead you should email everybody you know and tell them to inform others.
The more women that know how to counter this player shit, the better. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:11:59 PM | Someone who infers that you aren't who you say you are because you won't do what he wants (or tells you to) is using control freak techniques on you.
And if there's one thing worse than a control freak, it's a local control freak. When he said that you'd have been jsutified in getting either angry or very indignant and telling him what a creep he was and to go &&&& himself.
Good escape.... | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 11:15:50 PM | | I have no worries giving my moby number out at all. I have made some good friends on here they have my number a select few have my home number. No ones ever been bad to me or crass, people phone just for a chat male and female | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/4/2009 11:45:17 PM | I dont have a problem giving out my number, but I wouldnt give my number out to any person who passes me by in the street who asks for it.
Same as on here, one email doesnt make anything...
I certainly wouldnt give it out to somebody who has stuff like genuine only...
It means their either worried about something [guilty conscience]
or their damaged goods in transit from one bad relationship going into another! | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/5/2009 12:05:48 AM |
Playing devils advocate...........
How would you have communicated pre-internet days ?
Did we trust people more then ?
Some people (myself included) prefer to 'chat' as in the original sense of the word and not 'type' and if someone is uncomfortable with that then move on elsewhere but thats the way I do things and I respect their way of doing things also.
Having said that I still excercise caution as I did when I used to jot my number down on a piece of paper down the pub years ago. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/5/2009 1:05:07 AM | | OP iv had a few like that before too i just think of it that i got away lucky, i dont have a set time for when i give my number out, i just follow my instints and mainly give it out when i get to the stage where i send them a message on POF and keep checking for a reply, that way i can double stalk them, works a treat | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:40:34 AM | Ive had a few like that too.In the first message sending me their mobile number and asking for mine,i say no im not giving it out.Then i get a message saying its better to get to know people that way as they dont like e-mails and then say why dont i trust them? why should i
Ive already had one stalker from here | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:04:16 AM | Hunnibelle, I don't know why you have so much trouble getting a date. as you mention in the forums, I think your profile is lovely!
Wishing you very good luck x | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:44:02 AM | | I never give my mobile number out to people who ask for it straight away. When I was new to internet dating sites I learned a sharp lesson after a guy wouldn't stop texting me all hours of the day and night checking up where I was and with who and we hadn't even met at that point. Which meant I had to change numbers to get rid of him. I now prefer to exchange emails for a while or actually meet someone in person before doing that. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:57:05 AM | | If you want to give out your number without having to change it if it all goes wrong, have your personal number for friends etc and get a different one for POF/dating sites, Asda were selling sims for 47p the other day, so it costs virtually nothing. | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:08:23 AM | I dont worry about giving mine out. Its just a phone number after all, they cant do too much damage with it. In fact I have just swapped numbers with someone on here after just a handful of messages. Am I worried? Nah even though I know she likes to cyber stalk her prey I think I am safe  | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:11:03 AM | It depends on the individual circumstances.
I have to feel comfortable with someone, regardless of how the contact has been conducted.
I have been known to give a woman my phone number whilst she's been cooking my breakfast..... | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:11:21 AM | I have just had the weirdest convosation and its left me feeling a bit
A guy messeged me simply asking if I'd like to chat,scanned his profile he seemed ok, then he asked for my number saying we could txt I explained I dont have unlimited txt and I actually dont like handing my number out to anyone I kno nothing about. With that he promptly said "ok bye" now whats all that about? his profile distinctly says "genuine ladies only"
I thought that almost every profile I have viewed which admittedley is not all of them, all say "genuine" , I've not come across one which says "Im a liar,cheat, and want to mess you about,and be a sh1t".
If a bloke had posted a similar question, this thread will be full of women saying "done to death","man up" etc, and I imagine a lot of the male forum posters would of said the same.
This place is full of freaks,fakes,weirdos,the mentally and emotionally un balanced, so why should we be surprised that a guy was trying too play you, and more power to you for not being played OP.
How long before I give my number out, now it would be only after I had met them, the sooner you meet the better, less expectations and imagination to spoil. :) | |
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| How soon do you give your number out?
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:17:40 AM | I prefer to test the water with a good few mails and some time on MSN, although admittedly it's been a while since I engaged in any sort of correspondence with new potential dates!
I'm funny about my phone number, don't know why. As someone else said, I would give it out when a meeting had been arranged. It would be a very long time before I gave out my landline.
It is all about instincts and going with it. | |
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