| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:00:28 PM | I have had not one,But two seperate occasions with different women get absolutly pissed off at me for not wanting to have sex.Now with that being said ill always go down and give oral,In fact id rather give oral than sex!I mean why get mad because i wouldnt slide in,Im still going down everyday and pleasing her multiple times.So why get pissed if you're still getting yours?
Anyone else ever had someone react like this? | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:24:27 PM | | Oral sex is nice. Most people like it. But what the woman wants from intercourse is the closeness. Holding you, and feeling you inside of her. When she does not get that. She might feel that you don't want her. It can get depressing on her end. | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:31:00 PM | If you have a penis, being disinterested in sex (for any reason) is evil. I mean, weren't we put on this earth to service a woman's every desire? To not do so is surely a sin against nature. Eating her out when you're not in the mood is the height of selfishness. Can you think of no one but yourself?   | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:33:47 PM | RE: "I work around 65+ hours a week plus have full custody of a 4 y/o girl."
That'd tire any one. But I wonder if there isn't more going on. Oral sex IS sex...penetration is how you make babies. With one 4 year old to care for is it possible that you are preventing another? Also consider "passive agressiveness". By denying a woman her pleasure (if she desires penetration) you are hurting her in ways that go deeper than "giving her hers", so to speak. Just tossing out some thoughts. | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:38:28 PM | | You're male. Women like to believe that men want sex and only sex all the time. It makes them feel superior. They are the ones who have the right to say "no," not you. By not wanting sex occasionally, you undercut their security, and they feel they have the right to blast you for it. | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:09:00 PM | Isn't providing oral sex that gets a woman off multiple times more work then slipping um the wiener?
I mean really if you are tired, doesn't that extra work of tongue action make you even more tired? Ohhhh yeah it say "talented tongue" errr I don't have the heart to misspell it sorry op...
The gal who said that women like the slip of the wiener is because it is extremely intimately close, as close as you can get to any one, well besides being preggers, and giving birth...
Men and women apparently have a different way of thinking things... IT WOULD APPEAR men seem to think that "getting there's" is all it is about, while it is more of an emotional connection...
I mean really if a woman just wanted to get hers, she could crack out a vibrator, and it has as intense power as a tongue, if not more the RPMs just can't be replicated by the tongue.. | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:14:16 PM | | I always look at oral sex as an appetizer to having the real thing. I`m sure there are a majority of women who feel the same way.Can`t blame them for getting upset or mad with you...It`s amazing a man your age feels this way... | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:20:10 PM | | Yep have the same problem, except that I will even give them what they want, and then they get mad if I go too long and don't fininh. You just can't win on this one, I do sometimes get the feeling that if we don't act like dogs all of the time, and finish in three minutes they feel that there is something wrong with us. I'm more than happy to please a woman for as long as she likes but I'm not always really in the mood, so it is just about pleasing her and some how this is selfish too. | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:57:18 PM | soflnighteagle:
Ya, now see, THAT is natuaral... and look how things have been taken out of context by media and warped thinking. Some days your're good to go, some days we aren't. But it should "all come out in the wash". Over time sexuality (like everything else in life) evens out to "just fine". | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:57:50 PM | Sometimes, just recieving oral is dandy.
Sometimes, just giving him oral is dandy.
But sometimes, we want penetration no matter how much oral you give us.
As someone else said........if she isn't content......you're not sexually compatible.
and we all know what happens when that happens..... | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:23:16 PM | It is easy for a woman to feel like she is not desirable when her man doesn't want sex; this can be complicated by her perception (from society) that all guys want sex all the time..and a skewed perception of self (also from society , but also from her own self-image), and by communication (or lack thereof). It is easy for both men and women to get caught up in stress , work, issues,kids, etc and have no real desire for sex (that actually has nothing to do with their desire for their partner). It is also easy for both men and women to take this personally (more women ime) and as a sign that their man does not find them desirable.
I would suggest you sit down and openly talk about it. Make sure she understands this and is looking at it with proper perspective. And, also make sure that you actually are compatible..because if one has a higher drive than the other , it can certainly become an issue (that exacerbates itself). | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 9:21:07 PM | Good answer Ependa.
Op: Basically, you've got two problems, possibly three.
First off, you could be denying her what she wants for herself. If the shoe was on the other foot, a woman just giving oral, there would certainly be times that would disappoint a man, wouldn't you think?
Secondly, I think especially for women, they're led to believe pleasing a man is a no-brainer. That is to say, if a man doesn't please a woman, he blames the woman. If a women doesn't please a man she blames herself. (It's such a given that a woman is there to please a man that not allowing that requires a reality check ... like, huh, what just happened here?)
Call that the altruism factor. Women get very happy pleasing a guy. So, you're taking that away from her, too.
Problem three: Nah, that's unfair. Nevermind. Good question, dude. | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 9:39:21 PM | | SCD,Its got nothing to do with my age,Out of the 7 days of the week we sex at least 6 days out of the week.Sometimes 3-4 times a day,but shes wanting it like 7 days a week 6-7 times a day! Ive told her i simply cant go that much from all the hours i work and raising a lil one.So i figured as long as i was still pleasing her she would be ok with this,Instead she calls me selfish and says i dont give it up! | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 12:10:05 AM | You're 25, even though you work a long week and take care of your child, it really isn't normal for you to be disinterested in sex and realistically, if you have the energy to go down, tell her you want her but damn, she is going to have to be on top.
You might want to check with a doctor and make sure there aren't any physical issues you are unaware of that is affecting your sex drive. You could have things you should add or eliminate from your diet that would give you more energy or the lethargy and lack of sex drive could be related to a physical condition. If this is the second relationship this has affected sounds like you need to fix it or find someone that has a low libido. | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 12:56:26 AM | OP -- I've been in relationships where they've dumped me for NOT having sex with them. Yes...I said NOT having sex.
I wanted to get to know them better before that step, and they "claimed" this is what they wanted too...but in the end, they were just animals. And all talk, no substance. Pretense.
Or if I HAD sex with them, they've dumped me because I wasn't puttin' out "enough".
It happens. Women just like to live in denial where in their world, sex is just "nice" but never a factor in a relationship...
Yea right... | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 1:06:53 AM |
Its got nothing to do with my age,Out of the 7 days of the week we sex at least 6 days out of the week.Sometimes 3-4 times a day,but shes wanting it like 7 days a week 6-7 times a day! Ive told her i simply cant go that much from all the hours i work and raising a lil one.So i figured as long as i was still pleasing her she would be ok with this,Instead she calls me selfish and says i dont give it up!
Complaining about not getting pounded one day out of 7 especially when she had days where she got it four times is her being a nympho. Give the guy a break, give it a day to recharge so he isn't shooting dust. | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:29:00 AM | SCD,Its got nothing to do with my age,Out of the 7 days of the week we sex at least 6 days out of the week.Sometimes 3-4 times a day,but shes wanting it like 7 days a week 6-7 times a day! Ive told her i simply cant go that much from all the hours i work and raising a lil one.So i figured as long as i was still pleasing her she would be ok with this,Instead she calls me selfish and says i dont give it up! .
Your woman has quite an appetite...If she`s really that hungry have you thought about purchasing a "pocket rocket" for her as well...?
This gal sounds like she`s quite a woman! Don`t complain my friend.. Keep on pounding her into submission,which is what she`s looking for...
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:18:49 AM | | My initial thought is - you are young - things will change for you when you develop and mature. On that note too much of the same thing all the time is very boring - you have to spice things up or don't bother. If you are not sexually compatible and she is not willing to wait for you to grow into yourself and multitask your life - then find someone who can cope with you the way you are! | |
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| Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:21:39 AM |
SCD,Its got nothing to do with my age,Out of the 7 days of the week we sex at least 6 days out of the week.Sometimes 3-4 times a day,but shes wanting it like 7 days a week 6-7 times a day! Ive told her i simply cant go that much from all the hours i work and raising a lil one.So i figured as long as i was still pleasing her she would be ok with this,Instead she calls me selfish and says i dont give it up!
Sorry, gonna have to call bull$hit on this one!!
Unless these 3 - 4 times a day are only lasting 5 minutes......and she just isn't "getting hers"..... | |
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