| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:18:34 PM | i've read some women saying they will ask a man on a first meet to show his drivers license as an honesty test. i would not go for that. i have nothing to hide, but i do have a home to protect, and i don't know her well enough to be disclosing my address.
so my question is, what are some reasonable ways to verify that people are who they say they are, and what aren't? and on a side note, what lengths have people you've dated gone to to check you out? | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:24:07 PM | I have no idea if anyone that I dated has checked me out, googled me, background check or whatever.
I wouldn't care if they did. I get regular background checks for work. I have nothing to hide and if they happened to find something and not discuss it with me to clarify, then next.
As for the driver's license..well it's not like they can't find your address other ways so might as well make it easy for them lol | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:27:47 PM | I actually had one ask for my drivers license and social sec # to run a background check on a first meet. I am not joking and neither was she. And she was a 100 lbs heavier and ten years older then her pics showed. I knew when I saw her I was not interested in a real date and she wants personal info to run a background check. Can you say I was RUNNING for my car?
I had started dating one gal and had her older brother ask for the same thing to run a complete background check. He was supposed to be some security expert for a major corporation. Pretty creepy. This was at a Thanksgiving dinner. I thought he was kidding and started laughing. Uhhh he was not kidding....
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:28:14 PM | Hmmm....I have never had anyone question my sincerity on who I am and where I'm coming from. They know right away, I'm a straight-shooter and not here to play games or be played with.
What have I done? Let me think........nothing out of the norm. lol If I have to start playing Inspector Gadget to determine if a man is BSing me, I go with my instinct and I'm outtie.
If I happen to meet someone through a friend, I will ask about them/their character, but I don't stalk someone or anything so dramatic.........I would lose all interest if I had to do that! | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:30:17 PM | | Couldnt tell ya...but i am getting together for some beers on friday...{illness &travel permitting} with a guy from this sight ...i dont think we need to check id's...i think there may be some really cool people on the sight, but it depends on how you both approach each other...i think there are more people here who would be great friends to hang out with...and keep...rather than go on a "date" and risk a potential great friendship...so to your id...the women is probably layin down a few dates a week to need to keep up with who she was with and when..and if it really is you.... | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:30:37 PM | RE: "so my question is, what are some reasonable ways to verify that people are who they say they are, and what aren't? and on a side note, what lengths have people you've dated gone to to check you out?"
TIME would take care of most of the problem...dont' jump. Think. Wait. Ask intelligent questions. Then wait some more. The bottom feeders will make themselves known as a matter of course in time. You are already alone, so what is the rush? | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:33:39 PM | I've been googled and criminal background checked.
Nuthin to hide so didn't care.
Some girls are cautious.
Don't blame em.
No need to take it personally.
I've never checked out a girl.
Not dating for income.
The things that are important for me to know I can find out in conversation.
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:50:09 PM | well, davidpiano,
like reverse lookup on your phone # for one - or maybe her cousins a cop - maybe she "copped" your plates when you met....1001 ways, my friend.
Just be thankful that we don't want your addresses unless there's a reason you want us to have them.... | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:50:14 PM | | I agree. It is a first date & neither you or she should have to show a drivers license. Yes, it's kind of more scarey for a woman dating but wtf? You are showing her all your info & address & what if SHE turns out to be a psycho? I just think it's nonsence on both sides because either person could have a fake ID. You just meet at a very public place, seperate cars, & have a good time. Just because someone played you in the past, get over it or don't date, not sure what else to say. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:18:02 PM | | With ID theft running rampant, I would never disclose personal info like my last name, address or Social Security #. Liars will be exposed sooner or later. Nor would I ask a guy to show me his D/L. That's just creepy -- like I want to stalk him or rob him blind via cyberspace or something. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:50:13 PM | I googled a guy when I first started here....I was new and nervous! What I found confirmed things he had told me so I didn't think it was a big deal.
When I told him I had googled him he said "Oh, so you know I was arrested?" but that had not showed up on the google search! | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 8:35:04 PM | I don't know what some have done to check me out, though if they google me they are in for a treat. According to google I am older than my mother, lived places I have never been, and have a whole career I knew nothing about( I googled myself out of curiousity). Ah the technological age of wonders. Still I think I look pretty good for the 60-something google claims I am.
As for asking a date for a driver's license? Done that before as a joke(aka- I wanna know what I will be waking up to in the morning). I have had overprotective friends who asked my dates for info or ran them thru the local court system just in case.
In general I have a pretty good BS meter, so I trust my gut and go from there, the rest is paranoia and obsessive behavior. On a first meet it's a sign a bathroom escape is needed(don't let them see your license plates!). LOL | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 8:47:18 PM | | I would just be confused, the idea of lying about who I am never crossed my mind until this post, and even now I'm not sure why I would. If anyone asked me for my SSN# I would ask for theirs first, and then after I drained their bank account and destroyed their credit maybe they wouldn't think it such a good idea to give out such information. Maybe they would like my pin number too, also I've been check out by the FBI three times and the CIA twice would you like those reports? Maybe they would like some finger prints too, I know I'm in the data base. In my mind if you think everyone is telling lies, it is because you are. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 9:03:29 PM | so when you "google" someone all you need to do is type in the person's name in the search line?
I'm gonna try this on myself and see what I can find, just for kicks... brb!!
*ten minutes later*
interesting, found:
a 3 year old pdf file of a court case hearing date and trial verdict for a fighting a fine because my dog attacked another animal that roamed into my yard. This included my full address and phone number.
A link to my facebook page and myspace page.
Some pictures of me when I tried the google image search.
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 9:51:43 PM | Frankly.. they can do a colonoscopy to me.. I am indifferent to any person's desire to "check me out" I will stand on the witness stand and sit through ANY examination they desire.. I am PROUD of my life.. PROUD of my mistakes, and PROUD of my desires/dreams/plans for the future
I am very proud of my history... and my drive/desire for my future.. ASK me.. I WILL tell.. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/4/2009 11:54:39 PM | I always offer the photo of my drivers license and I will also offer my weapons permit as well as that verifies that I have no drug, violence or other felony convictions as you don't get one with even so much as a dui. I will send it BUT my permit number will be blurred out on my weapons permit, on my drivers license my address will be blurred as will be the drivers license number.
Usually if you just offer this for her it will set her mind at ease especially if you offer before she asks. I also tell her she only needs to give me her first name until she is feeling safe.
I don't blame women for a wanting to be safe as there are a lot of crazy people out there that want to hurt women, I don't want her to be scared out of her mind meeting me and I also give her the option of naming the place and even having a friend with her but not at our table as I draw the line there.
Be a man and put her mind at ease, you will have much better first dates. | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 1:04:00 AM | I don't know that I'd object to a quick look at the license if my age is the only issue in question. If a woman started jotting down the address or license number, then I'd have an issue!
But in my experience, age is the *least* of the deceptions. I'm way more interested in "Are you still married?" "Are you being stalked?" and "Are you emotionally stable?"
Alas, none of that stuff is going to show up on a government-issued ID.
I think it's never a bad idea, upon getting close enough to a person to learn their full name, to do a bit of a google search (web and news). Nice to know if someone has been involved in some significant business or social work -- or when they were last arrested. :) | |
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| from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:37:19 AM | | I can understand the need to see someone`s drivers license for both age and actual real name issues. There`s no harm in asking... Makes logical sense.I`ve done that before and have been asked as well. I see nothing wrong with someone asking me for my license. In today`s society it`s better not to take chances... | |
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