| | Is porn ruining real live sex?Page 1 of 10 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10) | I've read an interesting piece:
The latest to take porn to task for ruining modern ****ing is Salon's Mary Elizabeth Williams. She writes,
"Convenience, ubiquity, and the goal-oriented, money-shot, male-centric perspective of most porn (hint: women don't need to see that much fellatio) have changed us. Much has been written on how porn's transformation into the modern sexual lingua franca affects women – the pressure to be bush-shaved and adept at pole dancing didn't come from Oprah or Martha Stewart. But porn has changed men too – what we expect of them, what they demand of themselves. And the problem is that thinking you can learn to make to love to a woman from watching porn is like thinking you can learn to drive from watching "The Fast and the Furious."
Her point is that dudes who watch too much Ron Jeremy think that women want to be jackhammered — or, more upsettingly, that they enjoy a man "withdrawing his member at key moments to thump it on" them.
http://jezebel.com/5395261/do-we-need-to-be-told-how-to-have-sex
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| Is porn ruining real live sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:11:19 PM | It is ruining sex for those that watch porn to *learn how*....and there are many people who watch it just for that reason. The unrealistic depictions sometimes amaze me. I end up thinking - wow my mouth would be completely numb after that or I would totally be bleeding after that....ewwww. That's a complete different end of the spectrum than what I look at/watch.
Porn has its place and purpose. Like anything else, it should be enjoyed in moderation.
Since porn is geared towards men and their fantasies (or perceived fantasies) it should be used as such- works of imagination only and not documented fact on what a woman does or should enjoy. Remember- the actors and actresses are being paid to participate in a *dramatic* role.
I think that those who take porn as more than what it is have deeper issues on relating to the opposite sex. It's not the porn in and of itself ruining real live sex; it's when it is mixed with an already warped viewpoint or intimacy issues.
But, that's just my two cents..... | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 7:20:05 PM | Never saw Ron Jeremy jackhammer anything- his oxygen debt would be overwhelming by the fourth stroke. And the withdrawal is just a prolonging ploy, at least that's my guess.
When I get bored, and that happens alot, lol, I wander into porn sites, and regardless of the media form, have been doing so since I was a teenager.
My perspective: porn has influenced me momentarily, kinda like this sixth game of the World Series, but the lasting effect of each will be about the same- Nada. There are certainly demons to fault for sexual mismatches, deficiencies, insecurities and errors in perception, but the porn industry is not among them. As for Ms. Williams article, well, sex sells, and Salon can be expected to push causes that appeal to its readership. Whenever I observe a woman discussing how a man thinks, or the reverse, I am always bemused by the arrogance and presumption. Granted, a porn clip may impact a sub-adult, lol, i.e., a very young and inexperienced one, but I think that washes off with the first post-coital shower.
Her website title, "Do we need to be told how to have sex?", certainly has some superficial appeal, and the answer is most assuredly that we could all benefit from some education and instruction. imho But that has little to do with the mechanics of coitus, and alot to do with mutuality and respect for each other. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 7:23:22 PM | | I dont' think porn ever "becomes boring" which is why it is perennially popular. The question is, I think, as one poster mentioned, a question of moderation. Of HAVING SEX as much as just watching it. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 7:32:51 PM | | if you watch enough porn, your own sex life and the situations that you find yourself in can never compare to that of the porn scenes. porn scenes are outragiously sexy or out of the ordinary. they are illusions. if you think your own sex life should be more like a porn scene then you need help. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 7:33:09 PM | It only becomes boring when I have enough good sex. Most porn is boring, some is very stimulating. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 7:38:23 PM | | Porns for kids...it's a learning experience for the...ones who like to" hit and run.." most of what hasent ran past them too quickly..and if you satisfy the man you are with...he has no need for porn...remember that.... | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:21:14 PM | | mmm no diseases aids herpes is ruing real live sex sorry i'd rather beat my meat then have my****fall off from some weird virus shiznazzle you just don't know these days anymore | |
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| Is porn ruining real live sex?
Posted: 11/4/2009 8:34:55 PM | Funny for me it was just the opposite. Live sex just killed porn for me... I've never recovered... Damn GF!!!    | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 9:11:22 PM | | Depends on which type of porn you're talking about IMO. Some of it is over the top ridiculous, purposely debasing etc (the kind I don't care for). While there is a lot that is perfectly "real" and great. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 9:36:52 PM |
or, more upsettingly, that they enjoy a man "withdrawing his member at key moments to thump it on" them.
There's something wrong with that? ~puzzled~ | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 9:50:39 PM | I wub porn, but Im also smart enough to know half of it is bullshyt. However men are not. So I do think men who use porn as a sex manual really do end up screwin things up. hahahahahahaha. I said screwin!! Giggle.
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:15:51 PM | I think it is funny that she refers specifically to the "thumping it on them" part - I've had men do this thinking it is teasing/tantilizing/a turn on... I'm sorry but having my clit slapped with your penis is not a turn on. Girl on girl porn is even more humorous - women don't kiss each other by touching the tips of their tongues or dry humping each other's crotches...
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Posted: 11/5/2009 3:54:03 AM | | I have wondered if porn changes what we consider normal sex. For instance, were some many guys always into anal sex or is the fact that it is now in every pron movie a factor in why it is almost considered normal now? Same can be said about oral sex, to take it another step is suddenly that started showing pegging in every porn movie would guys all start asking for that? Do we think girl on girl is hot because they show it in pron? I mean you do start to wonder what is normal and pleasing to the opposite sex, and I believe that porn is a poor representation of what normal is but do we even have any other meassuring stick. Is porn the reason all women want bigger and bigger boobs, and men want longer and longer d@#ks? It is a little hard to live up to the standards that the porn industry portrays, and I've wonder how much it influences how we behave in the bedroom, or pool, or bathroom or etc. etc. etc..... | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 4:14:54 AM | | If relationships are ruined by porn - then the relationship was not ment to be in the first place. Porn like anything else sex related should only be a tool for stimulation or entertainment if required - then the 'real' life relationships should be your priority. If that is not the case - therapy may be in order! | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 4:32:38 AM | | Saying porn ruins real live sex, is like saying McDonald’s is at fault for the increasing obesity rates. We seem quick to point a finger or place blame on a corporation, government or industry, for deficits which we find unappealing within ourselves or fellow citizens. What ever happened to personal responsibility? It’s my understanding porn could be a problem for men, who are compelled to masturbate while watching. So perhaps the question should be, “Is porn ruining our vision?”. lol | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 4:33:26 AM |
if you think your own sex life should be more like a porn scene then you need help.
Hahahah yep!! I agree with that!!
i learned everything i know about sex from watching porn.
I hope that was a joke!
I do like to watch porn as I think its a real turn on to watch other people having sex. Its an intamate act usually only shared in private so watching it seems somehow forbidden so then makes it all the more excitng!
However, some porn is just daft! And as a girl watching it I think "I soooooo wouldn't be enjoying that" so some can turn you off. The ones that turn me on the most tend to be amature porn. Not some huge boobed blonde bouncing up and down making all the right noises when actually you can tell she is acting and not enjoying it at all!
I have never had porn ruin a relationship - everything in moderation - and I find it a big turn on to watch it with a partner. | |
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| Is porn ruining real live sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:08:55 AM | Eh, I think it's an alright way to pick up a good few tricks of the trade (for both men and women). I wouldn't say it's "ruining" real life sex, unless a guy was completely re-enacting his favourite flick.
On another note - high five OP for checking out the gawker network! | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:09:53 AM | | Live sex shows are better than porn, but if you sit in the front row be careful about yawning. And bring a carrot for the donkey. They like that. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:38:58 AM | Thanks a lot.
Now I have this horrible vision in my head of Oprah, Martha Stewart and Ron Jeremy acting out a pornified version of a scene from The Fast and the Furious.
The Horror, the horror. | |
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