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Posted: 11/4/2009 9:49:42 PM | So I have recently revamped my profile, and was wanting opinions on what I am missing because it felt pretty short, but didn't really know if shorter is good or bad. I don't want to give so much information that we have nothing to talk about, yet I don't want to give so little that they have no idea if they would be interested, so trying to find that balance.
Thanks for any help or suggestions!
Geoff | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:26:10 PM | Let me get this out of the way first.
You say you're old fashioned yet you're 'single' and have a 7-month old daughter and you're not with the baby's mother and you're already on here looking for another partner!?!?! OK, I'm done. Anyway....
Quit smoking. You want to be around to see your daughter graduate.
I love that you enjoy your work. That shows you are connected to the people you work with and have some stability and responsibility. Good traits in a partner.
Don't say how old your daughter is exactly and take her pictures off your gallery. Your viewers will do the math and wonder, as I did. The pictures will just feel like you're dangling her like chick-bait. If you're not looking for a new baby-momma, the pictures should not be here. You may, however, want to mention that you are fortunate in that you get to spend time with your daughter, or that there is no drama between you and her mom.
You may also want to expand on your interests and activities as your viewer will be looking to date YOU.
It would be helpful if you could describe who you are hoping to meet here. Using positive language only, what is she like? In the same vein, your Interests need to be expanded and more specific. Instead of the generic "music", how about "Classic Rock" or "Jazz" or "Opera" or whatever you listen to. You can't be a DeathMetal guy dating an Enya girl.
Change your email age settings to "any". And did I mention quit smoking? | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:48:27 PM | I'll put the quit smoking in a long term goal, lmao, but thanks for the helpful advice.
Yeah I guess to that extent about the single, 7 month old daughter, etc.. is a little contradictory in saying I am old fashion, maybe I should elaborate? By old fashion I mean, opening a door for a lady, paying for both of us instead of splitting the check sort of thing.
And thanks for the advice on having my daughter in it shows I am looking for a mother for her, that is definetley not my intentions, was just trying to show she is important in my life. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:54:15 PM | | How do you think I should word saying theres no baby momma drama without making it sound like I am still with the mother? I don't want to say negative things because she is a good mother, but not a good girlfriend. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:56:26 PM | | That didn't come out very well, I guess I am trying to say I don't want to say too many positive things to where a person would think I still have feelings for her, yet I don't want to say negative things either. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:56:48 PM | oh, that is so going to bite you on the ass here... EDIT: ^^ too funny!
Let me try.
"The proud Dad of a beautiful daughter, I get to see her often. She has two parents that adore her but work better separately. "
Whaddya think? | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:58:42 PM | Read my profile.
The most common phrasing is "I'm not looking for a mother to my kids..." but definitely talk about what woman you're looking for is like.
And quit smoking.
*giggle*
/message me if you want the name of a company that sells good electronic cigarettes. All the nicotine, none of the carcinogenic compounds. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2009 10:59:19 PM | Haha, thanks, sorry, I see the button now, was looking for it and apparently didn't look hard enough. I remembered something saying like once you post you can't delete it so figured they didn't allow editing, I am kind of new to the forums side of POF.
That sounds really good, thank you. :D
EDIT: (Hah! I did it!) Now I think I need more pictures since I took those off. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 2:07:43 AM | Ok, for some reason the edit button has disappeared now, maybe it disappears after a certain amount of time the post was made? Anyway, I have made quite a few changes, I know I still need more pictures to replace the ones I took off of my daughter and I, but need to wait a second to get those.
Thanks for the feedback so far, and any more help given. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:46:36 AM | It's coming along. I'd challenge you to rewrite a few of the paragraph starter-sentences without using 'I' - it's really hard to do, but won't sound so much like "It's all about meeee!" ... even though we know it is! For example:
I am not much of a partyer, I don't drink tons and live a pretty simple life.
could become
Past my partying phase, I now enjoy a glass or pint of something occassionally with good friends while a little rowdy conversation is the focus.
See the difference? | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 10:52:24 AM | | Yeah I know what you mean, was trying to leave them out when I was talking about what kind of a lady I am looking for, your right, not easy to do. I will go back and try for the other parts also. | |
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