| meeting before a common event?
Posted: 11/5/2009 12:36:55 AM | | I messaged a girl about a week ago after reading her profile, she seems like we'd get along well and I had an idea from her profile, we are both going to see the same concert in a few weeks. So I sent her a message saying first that her profile seemed really interesting and I thought it was cool she was going to the concert cause I was too. We sent a few messages back and forth talking about the concert generally smaller because I am new to this and I don't really know what to say on here or if she'd respond. Well today we were online at the same time and I asked if maybe we could meet for lunch to meet and see if we would get along and if we did we could maybe meet up at the concert(didn't ask to go together I thought that might be too forward)she is going with a friend as am I and I thought meeting at a concert first wouldn't be a great idea but then she went offline after reading it, she didn't delete it she just didn't answer, Now I am thinking she might just want to think things over which I could easily understand, but I was also worried I was acting to hastily so I sent her another message saying if that was too forward I gave her my e-mail and said if she had MSN we could talk since my internet isn't very good and that is easier for me to talk with. I also said I was very cool with her saying no and did not want to come off as creepy or pushy so if I did I was very sorry. Should I be panicking or am I still okay? this is the first time I've ever done anything like this so I don't know how forward is okay or too much? | |
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| meeting before a common event?
Posted: 11/5/2009 12:51:20 AM | It sounds like you are panicking already, and trying to rush in all sorts of directions at once. You asked about the meeting, you suggested a couple of different options. You didn't suggest anything creepy btw. Now wait for her to respond. It's her turn now.  If she is interested in you but she's not comfortable with either meeting option just yet, let's hope that she has enough communication skills to convey it.
It is also possible that she re-read your profile and noticed something she didn't notice before... | |
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| meeting before a common event?
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:02:00 AM | Don't panic about any girl you haven't met in real life yet... the only way to survive online dating. Girls flake, disappear or grow penises (?) all the time... just move on if this happens.
The multitude of options is a bit overwhelming.. you're best to pick one thing and go with that. Mind you I don't generally want to meet people I haven't chatted with on msn for a while... so maybe too much too soon. Mind you I'll slow things down if I'm really interested.
At this point the ball is in her court and not much more you can do here until/if she replies. | |
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| meeting before a common event?
Posted: 11/5/2009 2:10:33 AM | No panic,
But just maybe the friend she is going with at the concert is a guy and just does not want you to "bump" into her there.
That would put her in an awkward position now wouldn't it?
Let her know she can feel free to message you when she is ready.
Good luck and don't seek her out at this concert. JMO | |
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| meeting before a common event?
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:43:50 AM |
But just maybe the friend she is going with at the concert is a guy and just does not want you to "bump" into her there.
Thats what I was thinking.......
You haven't met yet and are a long way from making things exclusive so maybe it is a guy she is going with....
You have done enough for now and all you can do is await her reply. I hope she does reply and I hope you get to meet. But don't over react if this one doesn't work out. You will get used to it on here haha..
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| meeting before a common event?
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:07:16 AM | | Perhaps she was just being polite by emailing you back regarding the concert but she didn't have any interest in you. Then you wanted to meet and she realized that she shouldn't have been polite cuz now you think she's in to you. | |
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| meeting before a common event?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:04:57 AM | calm down!!!! there are so many possible "maybe's" here!!!!
if she doesn't get back with u-u have nothing really invested in it...just slow it down-i like to go in with no expectations..... | |
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| meeting before a common event?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:11:43 AM |
I was also worried I was acting to hastily so I sent her another message
You were doing fine until you sent this message where you start sounding desperate...
Try and be a little more "cool" next time. | |
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