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Posted: 11/5/2009 1:47:41 AM | So at school, I met this girl and we became pretty good friends. We would sometimes go over to my place and make out and stuff, which I guess you could say she was my first real kiss. She wanted to go further but I stopped her....Anyways recently shes been always talking about this guy she's been seeing for 3 months and I never make out with her no more...and it's pretty rough for me. It's almost like she wants to make me jealous.
I think I might stop talking to her if this continues...the thing is that we still hang out everyday at school... | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 1:57:09 AM | Have you guys defined yourselves? She seems to consider you make out friends. It sounds like you like her more than a friend - does she know this? At her age it's possible to rejection of "more" (sex?) could mean to her you don't find her attractive. Women aren't used to being turned down for sexual activities and aren't nearly as cool about it as guys.
If you haven't defined yourself or talked about your interest in her you need to do so... or she'll move on and be gone forever. Maybe she secretly holds a flame? If you decide you are both just friends then you'll have to get used to the boy talk... that's what friends do. If you can't handle it, it's best for both if you do move on. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 2:01:15 AM | Well I rejected her because I think I'm waiting till marrage....and other personal views...
I told her you made me sad, then she said I know just build a bridge and get over it...its wierd though cause it seems that shes really close to me, but I think I might tell her today that I can't handle this stuff anymore and take a break from her. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 2:17:17 AM | She wanted to go further.
You didn't.
She has been seeing someone 3 months?
I don't think she would be good GF material for anyone.
She has a BF and tried to get in your pants. I think that's a bit telling. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 2:21:17 AM | | They technically were not going out then, but recently its official....yea good call though she's kinda strange in that way! | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 3:59:43 AM | | You sound like a sincere guy who doesn't take sex "lightly", you don't fool around, maybe you're looking for commitment. This woman you describe seems kind of flighty, not serious minded. I think you're going to get hurt if you pursue this, it's a dead end, you're not on the same wave length. Unfortunately, you will see her at school. I know how that goes when you're attracted to someone and you see them at work or school, it's not easy. All you can do is be friendly but not too friendly. "Hello" and "goodbye". | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:08:31 AM | Well, did you honestly think that she would be home pining for you after you turned her down? You aren't really clear on when you were making out with her, before or after she was talking about a guy she's been seeing.
Anyways recently shes been always talking about this guy she's been seeing for 3 months
That is contradicting the true meaning of what you want to say and not being clear about. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:53:17 AM |
Women aren't used to being turned down for sexual activities and aren't nearly as cool about it as guys.
Someone please carve this in granite somewhere. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:11:53 AM | | Yes she is upset that she wasnt able to have her way with you,some women try to control(this seems like one of them) and if they dont get what they want, sort of like a spoiled kid, they will try to rub it your face. Ignore her, let her find someone without a back bone, problem is they usually tire of spineless men. Look for someone you like that treats you the way you treat them. Dont take crap from anyone. If you want to be treated well, you treat them well also. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 9:44:05 AM | | Sounds like your strong morals saved you from a bit of drama. Hang onto those gems. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 10:20:04 AM | It's good that you have morals, nothing wrong with that at all., but if she was doing what she thought you'd like and you turned her down, she may think you were judging her badly. I wonder how you communicated this to her. Did you make it clear you liked her and wanted to get to know her better before getting too involved physically? She might feel rejected otherwise.
It sounds like she's moved on now. If you're really keen, you may be able to change her mind but you'd have to be sincere. If you choose to try and get her to be your girlfriend, then you both need to be clear that this means something and isn't a game. Maybe you felt that she was just playing around in the past and you needed more commitment. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 1:24:03 PM | | Well I never had sex before too, and she was moving too fast. I think I'm about to tell her I don't wanna hang with her anymore...for now. It's gonna hurt me though I know it...espically seeing her everyday.. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 3:18:18 PM | | I guess I should also say I get nautious around her or when I'm gonna see her for some reason... probably due to when we were making out then we stopped... | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:54:48 PM | oh honey...she has moved on sice she thought u weren't interested...but the whole-she's been seeing this guy for 3 monthes but still tries to make out with u? thats not really cool.....
stick to ur guns-dont change unless its something u want to do....
and honestly-it sounds like ur better off not getting urself involved-it stinks like drama!!!!! | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 11:30:39 PM | | I would tell her straight out, "get lost" and another choice word with that… Particularly if she has a new BF, and she is willing to make him jealous by making out with you. Then reverse the situation by trying to make you jealous of him in turn. Dude, she is NOT a good friend to you if she treats you like a dirtbag that she can pick up and discard at will. If her BF finds out you were messing with her, you might land yourself in some hot water. Some women are so screwed up as they would like nothing more than to have 2 guys fighting each other over her. It’s like some kind of kinky power trip. Hey, you're young and wouldn’t see the red flag warning or the writing on the wall... I'd stay away from her as far as possible if you're not looking for trouble. Hell, I’d run. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 12:21:06 AM | You stood on your morals, and turned her down, OP. Good for you! -- although, maybe now seeing her with the other guy she kept talking to you about, you now think maybe you shouldn't have? Don't go there.
What's up with sitting there and listening to her carry on about the other guy, and for 3 months at that???
Hormones can get into heavy battles with Morals, and too often win. I don't think you know, or knew, this girl anywhere near as well as you thought you did. I think your sub-conscience, and gut, did though... otherwise, you would have caved.
Maybe you feel nauseous about the whole thing now, because consciousness is now catching up with your gut.
You can find ways to avoid her, and bumping into her, in school. Tell ALL of your mutual friends that you don't want to hear one word about her business. If they don't respect it, and try to gossip to you about her anyway? Drop them.
In time you'll heal from this... hang in there...  | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 4:06:38 AM | | I guess I'll tell her I don't want to be friends anymore for the time being...thanks everyone! | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 11:05:19 AM | No no no....
Wait man. :( I'm sad because I think you deleted your profile.
What you should do is, be really smooth and casual and unaffected by this (at least outwardly). Maintain your friendship and increase the tension, make it seem as if she's not worth getting in your pants yet and that you too have others on the side.
With that being said, I agree with the people on this forum... don't fall for her. Why? Because you are the type who wants true love, and she apparently is not. Pursue other women. But don't burn a bridge. When you're older you might be more open minded and the two of you may be better friends or something else later on if you play your cards right (which you shouldn't bank on because of law of probability).
You can actively pursue all sorts of girls if you aren't committed to one.
Just don't let anyone take you for a ride.
And don't settle for less than your best.
You sound really young, so you know, you got nothing to worry about.
And never burn a bridge.
Sometimes the people you don't end up with, end up to be your greatest friends.
Plus... they can always play matchmaker with one of their friends.
Cheers, little bro. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 11:44:03 AM | When games are played there is usually a loser. Who do you want to be???
She is playing with you and you hang around for the next round.
Legally as an adult at 19 you can make choices in life. So choose . | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 11:46:00 AM | You wouldn't go any further with her, so she found someone she liked who would. He is now her boyfriend, and you are not.
This is why you don't make out with her any more. This is also why you're just a hang-out friend now.
If you wanted more, you should have said so when you had the chance.
she's been seeing this guy for 3 monthes but still tries to make out with u? thats not really cool.....
I didn't get that from the OP. He said they've stopped making out. It sounded like they stopped making out when she found another guy, but it's hard to tell. | |
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