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Posted: 11/5/2009 2:50:21 PM | | a new guy has been standing near me outside school while we wait for our kids to come out,at first i noticed him looking over at me alot,then he starting smiling at me,then saying hi,and now after many weeks he comes over and talks to me.we have a good laugh and get on well,from our convrsations ive learned hes a single parent too,and we seem to share similar views on things.now,im thinking its not an apropriate place to be hitting on women is it,so maybe that why hes just getting to know me at the moment.or am i just someone to chat to cause its boring waiting outside? its been on my mind this past week because i guess that im starting to rather like him and so im wondering(or call it dreaming if you will lol as us women tend to do. ) if im just imagining it.that he likes me a bit too that is. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 2:52:31 PM | | It's hard to tell, he sounds like the shy type if he's taken weeks of seeing you everyday to start talking to you. Is there much flirting going on, or just friendly banter? | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 2:53:56 PM | | well we both have children with us,so we just chat about stuff,he asks me about myself.questions and stuff. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 3:16:11 PM | Probably just small talk while waiting.
But you know what - ask him out for coffee...say something like "would you like to meet for a coffee tomorrow before we pick up the little ones?"....then maybe you can take it from there. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 3:21:42 PM | | Yes,I second the notion for coffee......... | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 3:27:28 PM | | aye ok..no harm in that is there,thankyou. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 3:34:39 PM | So another parent can't be friendly without being accused of hitting on you?
Can't another human being enjoy interacting with someone while standing around waiting without it having to turn into a romantic agenda?
What do you want to happen here? | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 3:42:55 PM | blimey landra lol calm down...
a.hes not hittng on me which is why im wandering if im imagining it in my own silly head
b.of course they can enjoy interacting with another human being without it turning into a romantic agenda
c.unfortunatly for me i may be liking him a bit more than he is liking me at the mo,which is why ive asked for mens perspectives.id quite like him to ask me out for a coffie actually,but dont want to ruin whatever it is,be it friendship,which is developing here.by him thinking IM hitting on him outside school.
i think i will just go with the flow and what will be will be.life will bring my way whatever it chooses. :) thanks for the opinions guys. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 3:44:31 PM | Could be just small talk... or not! When my kids were in elementary school I picked them up and would wait for them, with the other parents - the majority of which were women. There were always conversations going on. Most of which were just biding-the-time small talk. However, on 2 separate occasions there were women that I was interested in. So I would try to establish a deeper conversational rapport & "covertly" get their background. After all, an elementary school lobby didn't seem like a proper venue to openly try to pickup women!
My point is, that it's entirely possible that he is interested in you and he's just trying to ease his way in - feel you out, so to speak. Especially if there are other parents close by. That being said, he may also just be a very outgoing person who sees your kind & welcoming face and just wants to talk. Who knows!??
I'm with the others on this one. Tell him you really enjoy talking to him ask if he'd like to grab a cup of coffee sometime. No harm there, right?
Good luck!
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aye ok..no harm in that is there,thankyou.
i think i will just go with the flow and what will be will be.life will bring my way whatever it chooses. :) thanks for the opinions guys.
Awe come on now, I sure hope you don't lead your whole life like this. You got one negative response and you're changing your mind!? Come on Girl, nothing ventured, nothing gained. You can sit on the sidelines and let opportunities pass by, or you can get in the game. So, get in the game and ask the guy out for coffee!
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awe i wasnt giving up honest lol i will do it.and i have a week off work next week so no excuses lol
Great! Be sure to let us know how it goes.
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Posted: 11/5/2009 4:02:55 PM | | awe i wasnt giving up honest lol i will do it.and i have a week off work next week so no excuses lol | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 4:08:14 PM | does he like me?
Hey, why don't you pass him a note with a box for yes and a box for no with the question listed...Be sure to pass him a pen.
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Posted: 11/5/2009 4:15:49 PM | | If he liked you he'd ask you for coffee himself. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 4:56:13 PM | xfallenstarx, you have a few different options here:
1) Next time he comes over to talk to you, draw close to him and stick your tongue in his ear.
That's probably a bit too forward. Nevermind. How about this one...
2) Next time he comes over to you, wink at him. (Please check local laws to make sure this is still legal.)
3) Next time he comes over to you, slip him your phone number and say, "I can't tell if you're flirting with me or not. But if you are, I rather like it and think you'd best give me a call before these busybodies around here start to gossip."
4) Ask him what his favorite local coffee shop is. When he answers, say, "That's perfect. When shall we meet there and talk? I'm not letting you pay for my coffee unless you make me laugh, so bring good jokes."
As a single father, I can tell you that it's pretty uncomfortable to see hot mamas at school when picking up my son. There's this thought that it's a dangerous place to get a reputation as a hound dog, even if your intentions are perfectly innocent. There are a few gorgeous women with kids my son's age and no rings. But the last thing I want going around my kid's school is..... well, you know.
CONCLUSION: On schoolgrounds, women should be making the bold moves. He's given you The Signal, but you have to make The Move.
Disclaimer: This opinion may be worth exactly what you paid for it. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 5:01:43 PM |
(or call it dreaming if you will lol as us women tend to do. )
Yes, I am a woman. No, I don't dream about the man that makes convo with me while I am waiting to pick up my son. You stand corrected. Sounds like something a giddy teen girl would say. In fact, all of it sounds like something a teen girl would say.
Anyhoo, would it kill you to ask him out for coffee at least an hour before the children come out of school? Don't sleep on it, he might start making eyes at another single mom.
Just saying..... | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 5:07:52 PM | | If it has been going on a few weeks, he is probably being friendly. That is how I would take it. I do not dream "liek most women" . I either am interested in someone or I am not. And if I am which is rare, I will just say so. I do not have time to be in LaLa land wondering wtf is going on with people. Nuff said. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:53:24 PM | | You mentioned your starting to like him. You dont know if he likes you the same way or is being friendly. Asking him out for coffee wont reveal anything but only confirm how you feel about him. If after the coffee meet, let it alone and let him take the ball now. This will give him a green light to ask you out if hes intrested. If he doesnt hes still friendly with you and talk is talk and coffee is coffee. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 8:20:29 PM | | I agree with the notion to ask him for coffee, just because he hasn't asked you doesn't mean he isn't interested, there is no way to know for sure until you ask, some guys really are just shy and find it hard, especially from the awkwardness of each of you being with your children while you wait. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 8:51:19 PM | Landra
So another parent can't be friendly without being accused of hitting on you?
Can't another human being enjoy interacting with someone while standing around waiting without it having to turn into a romantic agenda?
What do you want to happen here?
LOL, not in my world!!! If a man has been checking me out for weeks, gets up the nerve to come over and talk to me, and makes conversation every day and makes a point of letting me know he's a single parent, he's definitely hitting on me.
In the real world, guys who aren't interested in me don't go to that much trouble to get close to me...and men like me and I like them, so I know how to recognize the vibe.
But then again, I am outgoing and friendly and have never had a problem attracting men. So OP, honey, he likes you! Before the kids come out and the bell rings, tell him you'd love to have a glass of wine sometime and really get to know him when you both have time and don't have the children to worry about. Don't be shy, it gets you nowhere.
Go for it, life is short!!!
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Posted: 11/6/2009 5:10:50 AM | | Life is too short to keep wondering! If you like him, then ask him out for coffee. Maybe suggest going bowling with your kids. It's safe but you can still get to know him better and see where he stands. He has already started the ball rolling by coming and talking to you. Now you just need to help him out a little. If nothing comes of it, then no harm done because you have made a new friend. | |
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