| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:46:37 PM | | I am really generally laid back and simple. I like to have a good meal, watch the news and my first priorities are getting money to take care of myself. I guesss I have had to take on family responsibilities alot so I have grown up early in life, alos I have been hurt/lied to/ and just chose the wrong guy. My question is I am introverted and don't trust easy, and I am not into partying.....I feel hum drum, maybe it's a faze. BUt how many guys like quiet, deep thinking girl....vs. outgoing and bubbly? | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:53:48 PM | How are you coming across?
Many times you may come across as a woman who'll bite the head off any guy that appoaches.
Saw it at a bar once, two heavy girls were friendly, a thin, attractive brunette gave off the "don't talk to me or I'll rip your balls off" vibe. 3 hours later she stormed out, got into her car, peeled out and left. We asked the bartender what that was about and she said "She was upset that the heavy girls were getting attention but she wasn't"
Every guy there said the SAME thing "I thought she was hot. I wanted to talk to her but she gave off such a **** vibe I did not want to have my head bitten off"
After a while in a place, go up to a group and ask what thier impression on seeing you.
Anyway to answer your question.. men like both types of women. | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:09:27 PM | Such girls are a prize.
Easy to amuse and to be with.
Less drama too.
So don't worry about it. | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:15:58 PM |
BUt how many guys like quiet, deep thinking girl....vs. outgoing and bubbly?
Frankly, IMO the major relationship obstacle/s would be your trust issues. I've been with BOTH types of women and gotten along well regardless. However, I've also dated women with trust issues and it was a major deal breaker. Being an honest, non-cheating guy, there's nothing more frustrating than being accused of lying and cheating.
The point is, there are plenty of men who would love to have a quiet, deep thinking girl in their lives. However, if you don't possess the ability to trust, then you're always going to have relationship problems. | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:22:50 PM | Most guys of course in your age group do need a party girl. But there are way to many other variables in a equasion. You may think that guys who want to have a stable relationship do not need it and it is correct but they are looking for someother trials.
I do believe if a woman recognizes that she ws hurt/lied before one way or another it will go on a surface. And we afraid to deal with those time of women.
One of the factors that made me to get married to my lady is that I never senced that all those lies/games/bs were in her past. May be some minor cases... She was a clean page.
Many women who has bad past may subconsioasly (sp) to assume that the nest guy will do it (even if they believe thay do no com accross this way). But we guys sence stuf too | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:23:59 PM | That sounds like kind of a generic question that doesn't mean much to you specifically. How many guys prefer it, to an outgoing bubbly personality? I'm sure there are some that do. Don't see how that helps you though. Are you going to transform into a different person if the answer was that every guy in the world wants an outgoing girl?
Nothing wrong with being introverted, that you're not into partying, quiet, or deep-thinking. Its not like you're saying you're mean or **** for example. Don't trust easily is a bad sign though. Try and be a little more approachable.
I notice in your small list here of interests there is no mention of sharing any of those activities with someone else. Wouldn't you like to share some of your activities with someone? Watch the news and eat a good meal with good company? Try and focus on that. Hell, ask someone if they want to watch the news with you. I'd laugh and say yes. | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:24:20 PM | | Some guys do like a more quiet woman! Not all guys are wanting to go out and party hearty since, that may very well be who they were a long time ago. | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:54:39 PM | | Lol, i have been reading a book on introverts. I went out on dates with both types and I tend to lean towards the introverts, outgoing and bubbly tends to want everyone involved in their life including dates in a way too "accessible", where introverts you have to have some special key to be allowed to get close to them, and once you get passed that wall they are extremely passionate,. just in my experience, i tend to like mystery. | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:05:14 PM | Introversion as a natural function of your personality can be quite a wonderful puzzle to unlock.
Introversion because you've shut yourself down emotionally, psychologically and/or energetically is a train wreck waiting to happen. | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:08:12 PM | You can be both and still dazzle him. But you have something else going for you and that is that you are responsible with your stash and depend on no one. Guys also like independent women, not needy ones.
Also, good that you don't trust easy. Not such a bad thing to be cautious. | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:09:01 PM | | Quiet and deep thinking are doable, hum drum is not. Outgoing and bubbly can be tranquilized if need be. The critical factor to consider is whether with enough affection you could be induced to spasms of momentary happiness. | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:14:47 PM | To be blunt, since I'm ALWAYS honest... You wont find many american BOYS in your age pool are are into a quiet deep thinking girl. Frankly.. I'd seek out 3 or 4 therapy sessions for your trust issues since they are YOUR issues.. and NOT something that a new guy should have to work through just to get to know you. Fix what's wrong with you first.. THEN you'll be a more whole person.
Figure out "you" first. Otherwise no man will ever be able to.
Oh.. your current main pic isnt very flattering.. Sort of looks a little weird. Put up either of the ones with the striped top as your main pic.. I happen to like the last one. It really compliments your face and shows off a feminine look with your long hair | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:27:19 PM | | Hi, I don't think the issue is how you appear to others (especially guys) but how you appear to yourself. Seems like you are pulling yourself together, going to school so you can support your family. You need to take care of that to be able to feel good about yourself and life you will lead. Doing all that and trying to juggle a needy relationship with the wrong person will set you back in more ways than one! You need to get your degree and the income you need so you can get to that good place and feel like the person you were meant to be in this life. Trust and security walk hand in hand, the better you know yourself, the better you will be able to trust more openly. Only then when you have those things that complement you, a successful career and a fulfilling home life, then guys will sense that you are more a finished work than a work-in-progress, you will radiate a kind of beauty that only accomplishment and positive self-esteem brings. It will only positively enhance your introspection, because it is the real you. More power to you, because you are doing the RIGHT thing, not what is easy. | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:07:44 PM | How you described yourself is not how I'd describe you. I think I mentioned ages ago that I did quite like you (though disagree on point matter for some of your views), meaning I do quite like your personality for what it's worth, but the picture you just gave I don't think is quite you, or like I said at least not how I'd describe you as a personality type (though there aren't really types per se).
Your personality does suit you well, and you are very attractive, not for the weak willed mind you, but certainly very attractive. Don't worry about it. I picture you hooking up with the kind of feller that other women are jealous of you for, but they're not a dime a dozen.
For actual guy advice I'd say go for the crowd looking for classy ladies. Upmarket venues and stuff. And try not to select who you'll date cerebrally, do it by obsession, you'd have a much better time with someone who argues with you incessantly than you would with someone who looks right, you'd think about them more. Just make sure they're someone worth obsessing over at the start, typically by where you meet them. Don't get conned by going for appearances, only date someone with some character substance. Plus otherwise they won't be able to handle you anyway. | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:08:05 PM | It has to do with finding compatible personalities...I dont like being the one that has to entertain all of the time or being completely responsible for the conversation....
You also have to be aware that not all guys are going to chase you like the guy above said about the bar with the more outgoing, yet less attractive ladies getting more attention.... | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:23:59 PM | I would have no problem with a woman like you (if I was 30 years younger, that is!). You seem like a nice person who has your priorities in order. As they say, there is someone for everybody.
I realize you didn't ask for a profile review but after reading it I must say that it is THE MOST ho-hum profile I've ever seen! It's fairly dripping with apathy. Please liven it up a little bit!
Best of luck! | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:33:53 PM | | I like both introverted and extroverted women. Usually I can get to know an introverted women better because she seems to know herself better and is usuallya deeper thinker with debth to her thoughts. Dont discredit yourself for who you are, you have a lot to offer someone thats into your type. Also introverts when they cut loose are fun to party with. | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:53:13 PM | I'm introverted, but I never thought of it as a possible problem. I like both introverted and extraverted people, but I'm more in sync with introverted. I just assumed it goes both ways.
But yeah, get help and get past the old hurt. That can get in a way of developing a healthy relationship. | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:54:19 PM | I would love to send you a message, but I am one year too old, lol, can you open up your restrictions for a bit so I can send you a private message? (I'm not trying to hit on you, lol)
Beth | |
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| A question about personality
Posted: 11/5/2009 9:52:15 PM | | Heck Beth.. put your message our here for all the rest of us to pick apart like you pick apart others.. comeon.. man up.. or.. woman up.. stand in the spotlight for review like the rest of us. | |
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