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Posted: 11/5/2009 4:32:41 PM | well i am started talking to this girl. we are suppose to meet tommorow night. we both are pretty much on the same page about just having some fun . she wants me to bring some drinks over for the two of us. but here is the thing. i have never really been good at the having a fling thing. i was just wanting to hear some advise as to how to approach this without it being ackward. of course i have always been a little shy. i could use some help | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 4:35:35 PM | | Well..if she just wants a fling...do you really want a girl like that...who will be her fling saturday night....meet her at a bar...dont go to her home the first meeting...she could be setting you up for something...no respectable girl will invite a man to her house on the first meeting... | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 4:41:35 PM | he wants me to bring some drinks over for the two of us. i have never really been good at the having a fling thing.
If she asks for cash upfront, it's a bad sign. And illegal.
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Posted: 11/5/2009 4:56:16 PM | | I'm confused. You're both on the same page about "having a good time" and yet you've never been good at the "fling thing". May i ask what you have in mind when you tell a girl that "i only want to have a good time"? | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 5:06:32 PM | | well i have had a "good time" befor but only in a relationship. just never really had the fling with some girl i hardly know | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 5:08:23 PM | | I'm confused as well. Your banana is distracting me. Seriously, are you just about getting laid with a stranger the first time you meet? Yet you've never been good at the "fling thing"? Think about what you really want. And be very careful. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 5:10:36 PM | If you just want a "good time" no strings attached, go for it. If you want the strings too, don't go for it.
Having just a "fling" is pretty much the same mechanically as it is in a relationship, so I'm not sure what advice you really need? Are you just wanting us to tell you that it's ok to have a FWB? Sure, fill your boots if that's your thing. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 5:33:50 PM | | Be sure to bring your full-body condoms. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:14:27 PM | | Penicillan. And be careful. Gawd. I would rather stroke my own kitty than end up at the vet. Sigh. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:24:50 PM | | I am a vet, and help kitties who have had strokes, may I help? | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:26:12 PM |
i have never really been good at the having a fling thing.
Well, that is something you are going to have to figure out by tomorrow night.
You might have a horny and ticked off girl on your hands...and she might have a knife... | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:58:03 PM | Someone is getting laid tomorrow night.............
If you both want to get your nasty on; fine. However, it's your first meeting and she's inviting you over her place to get laid? I would be very weary about this girl.
Make sure she's not setting you up for some crazy shiat! | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:09:04 PM | | sorry your going over to her house, when she answers the door kiss her. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:16:39 PM | when she answers the door kiss her.
recommend you check for mouth sores first... | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:34:36 PM | Maybe she's just looking to get pregnant and plans on getting child support out of you later. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:49:50 PM | First of all, forget all the haters on here who frown upon one night flings. There's nothing wrong with it at all as long as both parties are on the same page and there's no confusion about this. It's a personl choice... that's all. As for the advice... first just be sure there's no miscommunication as to what's going down. Be clear on what her intentions are and be clear communicating yours. Next, make sure ou have protection. No need for unwanted visitors or unwanted offspring. Next, make sure a friend knows where you are. Text a buddy or someone with the address just in case some weird shit goes down... ya never know. Then... have fun man. Nothing wrong with having fun as long as its not at the expense of anyone's emotions. Cheers!  | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 8:16:21 PM | First of all, forget all the haters on here who frown upon one night flings
I don't think that they are just being "haters" .
People need to realistically look at the facts. When someone wants something, sometimes they ignore the facts. (especially if those facts get in the way of what the person wants)
So, what are the non-judgemental facts? Girls can usually get sex when they want it. They have friends, co-workers, etc that they could cozy up to. There are bars and clubs where people get drunk. A lot of people go to those clubs just to get laid.
Do you agree so far? That if a lady wants casual sex, she can probably get it?
Why would she contact someone on the internet? Wouldn't it be much easier to get someone local, where she can see how attracted she is in person? Even better, she can go out dancing with friends, and pick out a guy within the comfort of other people to protect her.
Warning: If something seems too good to be true, often it is. Maybe this girl sells sex as her job. Maybe she looks on POF for lonely guys so she can charge them when they show up. Your add says that you don't know anyone, you just moved here. You show up, her boyfriend knocks you out and steals your wallet, etc.
Otherwise, it could be possible that she just likes sex with as many men as possible, so she's already had all of the guys at the local pubs and is now searching for fresh meat on the net. Either way, you would be smart to be suspicious and careful.
******* edit to below:
It's not just me saying that, most of the other posters were saying similiar, just using different wording. The OP is a big boy, but he's already stated that he's never done this before.
Why are you so defensive that people are trying to warn him? He posted for advice, should everyone just say "congrats" and that's it?
People could have really been scary and mentioned it could be a guy waiting to get him...you know, a guy interested in drugging him... whatever.
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Posted: 11/5/2009 8:28:47 PM | SOME women can get sex when they want it, just like SOME men can get sex when they want it. SOME can't... wouldn't you agree? Maybe this girl is on POF because she doesn't have much of a network of friends or because she isn't what most men her her circle seem to find attractive. This isn't to say that you aren't correct... you very well may be... but he's a big boy capable of his own decisions.
OP- if you choose to proceed, then proceed. Just do it wih caution. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 8:46:35 PM | LOL - nope.
AND, NO, I don't agree that SOME women can get sex. I think that MOST, almost all women can get sex. All it takes is enough people being drunk enough, and the girl looking for sex not being picky.
I don't think that it's as easy for the same amount of men, I think that there is no comparison.
There are some very good looking men that may always get some, but it really is a lot easier for women.
Obviously, you don't agree and that offends you | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 9:19:53 PM | | a lot of sexually frustrated women would disagree. From personal experience I can say its only easier for women in the sense that they aren't expected to initiate contact. If the man is confident, attractive, and adept at conversing with females... its not difficult. Never has been for me. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 9:41:54 PM |
a lot of sexually frustrated women would disagree
hum... maybe you didn't notice where I wrote ** Drunk enough and ** not picky
So, these "sexually frustrated" ladies that you know. They couldn't go to a local bar, buy drinks, or just wait until last call, and then go up to each guy until one is interested? I've seen it happen. I've also been told by my brother and his friends that many times a guy does things they are ashamed of later.
I didn't say that women could have sex with their dream guy any time they wanted. | |
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