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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:02:39 PM | | so about 4 days ago I posted a thread in regards to a particular female in my class who I've had my eye on... well, I asked her out and she said yes... which is awesome... but I'm feeling a little bit weird about something and I don't know why. I crushes on 3 different girls right now ad its making me feel kinda man slutty... which I don't think it should because I'm nowhere near any kind of a commitment to any of them... but I still feel that way. I think part of it is just that I've never had simultaneous crushes like this... but still... should I feel this way? Is this man slutty from a female perspective? | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:08:36 PM | Crushes are just that, crushes.
No, not slutty or a "player" as men are usually called.
Just a normal 22 year old with raging hormones not sure what he wants... | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:25:04 PM | | You sound very normal to me. Congratulations on asking out the young lady and being accepted, have fun. Don't worry about your other "crushes". | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:53:29 PM | OP: Not at all. This is a time in your life that you should be dating, enjoying your life and having fun.
However, don't lead anyone on thinking they're the only one you're dating (if these crushes lead to more). | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:58:07 PM | | You are 22, that's what people do in your age. You have "crushes". It's normal. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:45:30 PM | | It's perfectly fine and healthy for you to date more than one girl at a time, as long as everyone knows it's just casual. That way you can get to know all the girls who interest you, and maybe one will become more special and just click with you. It isn't slutty unless you are sleeping with all of them (in my opinion) and not being up front and honest about that. If you sleep with them all and aren't honest about it, you will pi$$ them off and end up back where you started. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 11:26:35 PM | Well put lilac. I quite agree.
As for crushes I'm almost 54 amd still get them. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 12:29:32 AM | dannyboy congratulations!!
I have a crush on an entire baseball team right now' Yankees', and the cast of Tombstone.
Not slutty unless you are sleeping with them or playing with one and doing another.
Nah..crush on!!
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Posted: 11/6/2009 12:49:47 AM | Not a problem. As you get to know each of them more, one will probably pull ahead in your mind and the others will fall away naturally.
As everyone else said, as long as it's all above board.
Relax. Enjoy getting to know them. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 5:55:47 AM | That is like being on a diet and guilty for sampling the chocolate cake in the bakery.
Relax. No one is telling you that it is the beginning of the end of your life. Probably, afraid of getting serious. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 3:23:18 PM | | Crushing on multiple girls....that's normal. If you also had a crush on a dude or two, and maybe a sheep, that would be odd. Or not....whatever floats your boat! | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 9:14:18 PM | Ah the joys of being 22 again!
There is a word to explain liking more than one girl and going on a date with one of them... NORMAL!!!!!
What you are going through my friend is being surrounded by several attractive women and feeling as though you should just choose just one and hope to God you choose correctly and of course at the same time, she may be going through the same thing.
Live it up with going out with her! You are not to feel bad as they are only crushes! IF you two were dating and you still had a crush... then that would be another story. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 10:12:24 PM | Odd about having infatuations with several women at once? Nothing odd about it. Why on earth would you ever think it is odd? There's some programming in your noggin that likes what it likes, and makes you feel a certain attraction for certain females. You can't help that. Nobody can. And there's no reason why you should. And you will feel lots infatuations over the course of your life, while your married, single, whatever. You only become a dirt bag when you cheat on your committed S.O.
Full steam ahead. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 1:37:42 PM | that just means you have a conscience and you're thinking ahead, if all goes well with all the crushes, then you're gonna have to make a tough decision.
the best thingn is to keep on a friendship level with all of them until you know which one you want. if u string them along equally its gonna be even harder for u and for them | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 1:45:59 PM | Three... just three? Wow... I have crushes on two guys on this site, three actors, one deliveryman at the office and another friend. I certainly don't consider myself slutty.
Go out, enjoy yourself and see where that crush leads to... life is too short to not live to the fullest! | |
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Posted: 11/8/2009 1:56:25 AM | | No, not at all. Kudos for getting out there and taking the opportunities to date. You're not attached to anyone, yet. Dating is dating. No man sluttyness worries. Have fun and good luck! | |
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Posted: 11/8/2009 5:37:57 AM | Congrats for the date!
Everyone gets tons of crushes - just don't talk about them or look longingly at other ladies while on your date and all will be well....
My recent choice for dating advice is this new blog site - it's pretty funny and has some good advice, that seems pretty on point. metanotherfrog.com | |
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