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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:29:20 PM | okay so my bathroom flooded a few weeks ago, anyways there has been a steady stream of guys working on the renos, one in particular has been in constantly. Chats me up about my job, hobbies and work out routine at the gym. I am starting to feel like there could be a connection, but am not sure how to ask him if he is single or to hang out sometime. I dont want to seem super lame or like I am picking up reno guys at my house...lol.
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:32:39 PM | Hmmm... I think I would say something like, "What does your wife do for work?" and hope he replies, Oh, I'm not married". Then just invite him for coffee or something simple.
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:37:08 PM |
like I am picking up reno guys at my house...lol.
Even though you are........LOL!
Hey,i dont blame you......some of these workman in their singlets and shorts can be damned sexy........................
Im a hussy :) So,id come straight out and say to him,"How about drinks one night?"
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:38:51 PM | | Tell him you'd like to get to know him better after the job is over if he's up for it. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:40:02 PM | Dont assume he is married, use the girlfriend. If he is seeing someone he will say so, if hes married he will indicate this also. But if he is only dating or a friends only, he will say hes not seeing anyone special, or will indicate he doesnt have a girlfriend. Thats your cue.
Check his hand for a wedding ring. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:51:10 PM | Is that all? I thought this was going to be difficult!! If you've been chatting it up, then I'm assuming you guys joke around with each other. So, if you can build up the nerve, and depending on what he has on, just say to him, "Did your girlfriend dress you this morning"? OR, "What, your girlfriend wasn't around to dress you this morning"?
Good luck,
Cityboy | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:52:37 PM | Love it, love it, love it. Scared to say, hey, wanna hang out sometime? It's really just a matter of screwing up your nerve and sputtering what you have to say.
Don't practice any speeches, ever. That just makes you more nervous. Instead, just tell yourself over and over that it's just a matter of nerves and that it's one of those things where the nervousness just goes away (usually) halfway through the first sentence.
This is one of those moments where there is no dodge; there's no substitute, no code, no magic approach that makes it easier. Do you want to cheat yourself out of learning something about yourself? Nah ... of course not. Just go for it, babe. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:52:55 PM | Aha! You cook!!! Remember the old adage about the way to a man's heart is through his stomach? It's still true today. Duh!!! Ask him what his favorite foods are, and how & when he decided when he liked them. (e.g. Did his WIFE or current GF make it for him? That's how you'll get the info without really seeming to ask...) Just have on hand something that he likes, that you made, and that you want him to try... Cooking is really an underrated and underappreciated skill in either gender. Once you feed him, only a cad wouldn't notice and not take you out in the truck for an appreciative coffee/dessert. If you can cook like his mom, for most guys that is a match made in heaven. Good luck and go get 'em!
Edit: Maybe it did not occur to you that he may be just as shy and tentative as you? Reading your profile, I got the impression that not only are you quite pretty, but that you are modest and sensitive to a fault. That is VERY attractive to shy guys. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 8:30:22 PM | I would agree with all of the above approaches. If doe some reason they still come across as too obvious to you, then talk about yourself. Tell him how you like to XYZ and mention how you've been wanting to go those things with someone.
The idea here is to let him volunteer himself to join you. Wasn't is lucky that you just so happen to want to try this restaurant in your area but never had anyone to go with?
Of course if he does not volunteer himself, then you can take it that he involved. I assume of course you looked at his ring finger, right? | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 9:40:07 PM | Ok.. I dont know what your "station in life" OR your "hoped for station in life" IS
But.. You do.
Now.. if you want to be the "wife of a 'reno guy' " then you can pursue the male attention you are receiving..
If you want a white collar executive type.. Pursue the "reno guy" for a bootycall to get plowed.. and then dump him for your McDreamy with the porsche.. cause reno guy is a blue collar works-with-his-hands guy.
Make a decision | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 9:44:30 PM | I'm a guy that does bath reno's. sometimes we chat people up because we are working in your home, and we are being conversational or polite. sometimes its a real interest, but its usually about the work. I know so much about so many, but never dated a client, and only know one person that ever did. My soon to be ex was a single woman when she reno-ed her house, and almost hooked up with her contractor. that we work in peoples personal spaces creates a temporary intimacy that often dissapates when we leave.
I'm not saying theres not attraction, just that you need to consider that.
you dont say what the guy does, boss ,employee or sub. depending on who he is in relation to the boss, just ask the guy that pays him. suggest him for a girlfriend.
alternitvely, if he is the boss, you can always talk about a friend that needs work done with an off schedule, and ask if meeting on a weekend night or other family time might work. you can even do the calendar check thing.
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Posted: 11/5/2009 9:44:57 PM | simply asking him " so ummm... do you have a girlfriend?"
it doesn't hurt to ask. and you might even boost his self-esteem for just asking him that question and watch his face light up.
if he says no then you got an open shot there. then just ask him out for the weekend.
just ask him.... what do you got to lose?  | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 9:50:38 PM | | You are a hot little canadian chick. Believe me he wants to tap that ass. Guys love it when girls make the first move, it would make it a hell of alot easier for him if you did because hes wondering the same thing. Shit should i ask this girl out, does she like me. Ask him if he wants to hang out sometime. Remember hes at your house, hes in your territory and if he says no get a new plumber:) | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 10:03:39 PM | We guys are very very very stupid when it comes to a woman like you being interesteed in us. Go for the Brass Ring. Do a little diggnig first as the others suggested, then go for the throat and let him know you are interested. Do be subtle (sp ?) but let him know there is interest. I myself have been through many phases, scared to ask, why ask, what have I got to lose, if he is young he has not. So by all means let your interest be known, how ever. And there is always a but how ever, use caution, do not lat every card on the table. ust be happy that you are communicating with someone. Do not be scare of the NO, most people are, go for the gusto. What if he is the one and you where to chicken sh!t to say something, you will always wonder, At least if you make an effort, you will know. I will leave you with this quote:
We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of
discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline
weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” - Jim RohnWrite something about yourself.
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Posted: 11/5/2009 11:03:07 PM | | wait until the projects done and he's about to say goodbye for the last time. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 11:08:42 PM | Madame, do the good'ol 'hang-out' routine. Start playing with his imagination by telling him your weekend plans and do mention that you're going out to a bar. See what he is doing. Then drop the, 'waanna hangout' bomb. He'll take the bait!
Or, you can give him a treat for the successful completion of the project.
p.s. It's sad that women need a 'reason' to have sex, men just need a place. And he's already at your place. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 11:36:25 PM | | Puppy called that one right. Go for it, OP! | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 12:27:58 AM | Just keep talking. If it feels natural, then bring it up in the conversation. "Where do you hang out?" "What do you do for fun?" "Big weekend plans?"
If there's truly a connection, you'll connect.
If you remain hung up, too nervous to start the conversation, then there really isn't a connection. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 3:07:11 AM | 
Yeah he did. Unbelievable.
Yep, coffee and brownies works. Make a batch for the guys and when he compliments just say "Oh your gf doesn't bake for you?" Then you will get your answer.
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Posted: 11/6/2009 7:03:39 AM | I didnt imply anything.. As typical forumtrollers.. you two INFERRED IT.
What I DID do is analyze certain facts
SHE appears to be the property owner here. Now she COULD be a renter and has to live in the place while work is going on.. HOWEVER Her profile says:
"I would love to travel someday in the near future, what about you? I am thinking EUROPE would be a great place to start to see some interesting stuff and meet some cool people
I like doing the gym thing and am trying to put on a little bit of muscle right now! The whole healthy living thing is a important aspect of life to me.
I have a variety of interests some of which are a bit different then most! I work in the human services field and am CONTINUING MY EDUCATION PART TIME. I work hard and have most of the things that I want so far in life.
I am looking for someone WHO IS MY EQUAL, someone who HAS THEIR LIFE TOGETHER for the most part, knows what he wants and is out to get it. Someone with a good personality who fits the part of being the man in the relationship. I call it as I see it and hopefully you do too."
Now trollers?? I was asking the OP to look at herself and to answer the question.. AS SHE SEES HERSELF.
MOST (but not all) guys in the trades (reno guys) are fairly down home, work all day and pop a few at the pub after work guys. While SOME dream of world travel in their future.. GENERALLY SPEAKING most dont. They work their trade, come home and live.. living locally.
I was just ASKING THE QUESTION if she saw THIS as her chosen dream. YOU LADIES sniped it into an insult.
As far as whether or not a woman wants to marry a man.. ALL women have that picture in their mind seeing themselves in a wedding dress going to gradeschool where they put THEIR name and that cute BOYS name with a plus sign.. circled in the shape of a HEART on their bookcovers. Puhleeeeze. | |
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