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Posted: 11/5/2009 11:48:32 PM | | What would possess a guy 16 yrs younger to flirt heavily? I think it is crazy, but the guy just keeps going on. Anyway, I wasn't interested, but he finally piqued my curiosity, so i figured , yeah, OK, I'll hang with a younger guy for a few months. So, then I responded with my own (light) flirting. What does he do?...he blows me off. So I figured, OK, I'll forget about it. Well, a few days after I backed off, he started up again. So, I figured, OK, fun time again, so I started up again too. Well, then he backs off again...and then I back off. Then he starts up again...then...well, same thing as before. Anyway, it's been going on & off like that for almost 2 months. What is going on with this guy? I'm thinking it's mainly ego for him. Am I right? | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 12:23:18 AM | OP
Had me a cousin who used to "talk tough." Why, he was going to "go after" people stretching from the Post Office to Homeland Security. Used to go on for hours as to how he was "going to tell them off."
But that's all he did was talk.
In the end, he was too "p*ssy" to even talk back to the sales clerk who rang up his tennis shoes at full price even while the ad said them ol tennis shoes were 50% off.
Just goes to show ya. Some guys are just full of sh*t. Especially those wet behind the ears.
It ain't ego; he's just a p*ssy. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 12:33:40 AM | Evidently you like it to. Your feel the need for the attention. Does't make you all bad.
Ego for him, Ego for you, what is the harm. If it bothers you don not engage, but you do, says to me, you like the attention of a younger man emailing you with these fanatasies. no big deal, he is just in it to peek your interest, and he has, you bit. now he is having fun with it. You obviuiously have entertained the idea which is why you engage him. No harm no foul. You say in your profile that you are here for the forums but youn engage ? Just curious. I am here for the forumns and the minute someone emails meal I remind them my goal is forums only, prob 5 times a day believe it or not, so you must like it. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 12:37:13 AM | | Fluffydogs, apparently someone 25 does not have the maturity NOT to play someone for a fool and string them along for TWO months as an ego boost. The easy answer is that "you're not interested" and leave it at that. You know that saying, "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me." People that run hot and cold are only looking for notches on their belt/lipstick case... Move on, not worth wasting your time over. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 12:47:43 AM | He's having fun and you are confused.
Talk to men, then meet them.
He is bored and you give him attention.
Tell him you got a second job as a pole dancer since your new implants and don't have the time.
Come back and tell us in detail what he says. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 12:57:50 AM | ego for him? you must see yourself as a real prize. who knows, maybe you are. who knows, maybe he's bored and only resorts to flirting with you when his other contacts aren't panning out.
be that as it may, the real question is, what is going on with YOU? you could stop it easily enough. but oh no, you like it. mainly ego for you, i would guess. plus it gives you something to bring to the forums and lets you be the center of attention. he's a gold mine of payoff for you. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 1:22:31 AM | | His sending you a message ever so speraticaly does seem to be his style. So you have the choice of playing along with his style of gaming-ship or, you can play by your style and finish with the « va et vient » with him and finally meet or, cut him loose. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 3:37:52 AM |
be that as it may, the real question is, what is going on with YOU? you could stop it easily enough. but oh no, you like it. mainly ego for you, i would guess. plus it gives you something to bring to the forums and lets you be the center of attention. he's a gold mine of payoff for you.
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Posted: 11/6/2009 4:14:19 AM | Aside from what's been mentioned, this could also be a matter of both of you misunderstanding the other's communications. You describe his behavior as "heavy flirting," you don't say what exactly that means. Perhaps to him, it's friendly banter with a coworker he thinks of as a comfortable equal. You say you flirt "lightly" back, but you don't say what THAT means. Perhaps he perceives it as sarcasm intended to discourage his banter.
He stops when you (inadvertently) signal he's gone too far, then when he feels comfortable with you again, he starts back up, still trying to be a 'pal.' So it MIGHT not be an intentional ego game at all, or even a sexual one.
Juuuuust another possibility. No way to tell from waaaaaaaaaaaaaay over here. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 5:03:45 AM | | If you like the game, play it. If you don't, then just stop. It's that simple. Don't try to figure out the other person, you can only control your own actions. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 5:19:13 AM | Madame, usually I love a psychological challenge of this level but this is simply bananas.
p.s. Alright do what Gandhi say, "Just go with the flow... yo". | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 5:36:10 AM | Have you met him yet ? Or this whole "flirting" is happening online ?
Probably he has no intention of ever even meeting you. It's just something he does when he's bored probably. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 5:52:20 AM | Sounds like it is an ego thing for you. You liked being chased, so you gave in. Now your pride, or whatever you call it, is hurt and can't make heads or tails of it. For someone your age, something like this shouldn't even occupy your thoughts.
You got exactly what you asked for, fun time.
Find some other young stud muffin to help your bruised ego.
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Posted: 11/6/2009 6:20:50 AM | Reading your profile, I see you have your age settings between 18 and 45... so why were you surprised and shocked that this guy contacted you???
Yep... sounds like you enjoy the attention. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 8:12:25 AM | Really?...your 41?...and act like a little 16 year old girl.
You like the attention, and you like playing games like he is doing, so my advice is just keep doing it since you both get off on it.
Grow up, and act like an adult. Or just keep playing games like a 25 year old... | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 8:24:24 AM | As Bad*Monkey stated, we don't know if you've met this guy IRL or not. If not, he's bored. If you have, he's probably keeping you on the back burner until something better comes along. If you've met, and have had sex, he wants to know he can still come back for more.
Decide what you want. Nobody can do that for you.
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Posted: 11/6/2009 8:56:18 AM | Ugh, where is "1KindMan4U" when we need him?
He would simply state that you're toying with a "boy" and that's "what boys do." Any questions? | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 9:08:00 AM |
All mouth and no trousers. ?????!
All bull, no horn
TK
{bullock, steer
oh, fer pete's sake, he's castrated!} | |
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