| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:22:05 AM | Let me commence by saying this is strictly a hypothetical question.
I`m sure this has occurred to many of us who have been dating.
What happens when you`re sexually compatible with someone but share no commonality otherwise?
Do you continue seeing this person because the sexual chemistry is there or do you end it because you have nothing in common what so ever?
After a certain age, people are set in their ways and want nothing to do with change, while others have an open mind and don`t mind expanding their horizons learning.
What are you thoughts?Do you stay with someone because sexually you`re a match, or do you simply say to yourself this will never work no matter what i do? | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:30:29 AM | OP? Is this the lady that you are ahem "dating" that is so loud your neighbours are complaining? Sorry, couldn't help myself! As MsMicki said, the gal is nothing more than a F buddy. Not much of a relationship can come from that. When the sex settles down, what do you have left? Good sex is pretty easy to obtain, a good relationship not so much! | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:37:28 AM |
What happens when you`re sexually compatible with someone but share no commonality otherwise? Do you continue seeing this person because the sexual chemistry is there or do you end it because you have nothing in common what so ever?
Would not get started in the first place for me.. Since I get to know people as friends first. But to answer your question it would depend on if you were looking for a partner in life or just a sex partner?
Since your asking this question probably this situation is not very satisfying for you. So ask yourself this question .. "Is This What I Really Want?"
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:39:11 AM | SCD? Basically, least the way I see it is.....If you have nothing in common other than
sex, then there isn't anything more than an F buddy. This isn't even a FWB as you don't appear to have a friendship going. Don't you think to keep seeing someone, that at some point, you will wish for more than sex? What about just being friends, enjoying each other's company outside of the rumpous room? When not having sex, I think you should have common ground to have great chats? Some giggles? | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:41:23 AM | | I would get bored very easily with the other person if it was just based on sex...no commonality........no mental connection..........it's no different then getting self pleasure..........except there's no guilt involved when you pleasure yourself..........and no explanations to anyone else........ | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:42:41 AM | A few times = not many.
That is pretty quick from meeting someone on the net (a few times) to bed.
I think someone is not doing their due diligance and waiting to see if there is some compatability BEFORE jumping in bed.
This would definately solve the problem. | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:52:00 AM |
This isn`t a FWB question. It`s about meeting someone on the net, going out a few times and realizing there isn`t any commonality between you and this person except the sex...
You're right....since you haven't known them long enough to consider them a friend.....
which goes back to my original response....
they then become nothing more than a Fuk Buddy if you continue on with the sex
knowing you don't want a relationship with them.
and I repeat.......the other person deserves to know they will be nothing more
than a FB from that point on. | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:57:38 AM | Hypothetically, you meet someone, one thing leads to another and you end up in bed. Then you find out you don't really have anything in common, other than you both like the sex. Therefore, if you want to stop this pattern, when one thing is leading to another, you'll need to add another step. The step where you get to know your partner well enough to become friends.
Bear in mind, while you're engaging in this friend making, you won't be gettin' any, so there's that.
It will get down to your goals. Do you want F-Buddy, FWB or relationship? A relationship will take more time unless you get lucky and fall into something. Dare to dream.  | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:04:31 AM | Well you are now learning you need more than a sexual conquest....
If you have nothing in common but sex.....then that makes a pretty poor relationship for anyone. Maybe now you will seek something with more substance and a balance. I think a lot of people go through this to finally find out it is just mean-less and they don't like how it makes them feel afterwards.......
If your seeking someone special then don't settle. It isn't a win win. And it takes time and a lot of frogs that don't fit you...or you won't fit them.
Why give up something that you crave? It is worth the work at the end. To find that one person that fits you and you fit them in all area's of life?
Me, myself I wouldn't settle for any-less...I still believe maybe not the fairy tales dreams but believe in love....its not perfect but I want my soul touched....Great luck | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:14:54 AM | Personally, I'm at a point in life where unless it's a three-point landing -- intellectual, emotional, physical compatibility -- then it's no mtach at all.
But, hey, we've got to make our own choices. If for you one out of three ain't bad, more power to you. | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:26:12 AM | if this was really worrying you...
making you feel guilty perhaps?...
you would do the decent thing and inform the woman right away that you see no reason for continuing the "relationship"...
unless of course, she's enjoying using you for sex also... | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:32:07 AM | Daffie,
unless of course, she's enjoying using you for sex also.
Lets say that she is. This person is orignally from another country where the language barrier sometimes is an issue.
Would you continue going out and enjoying each others company? | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:39:29 AM | ^how are you having sex all the time when she's in another country?...
or do you mean she now lives in the 'states?...
i'd keep going out and enjoying each others company...
as long as she is aware of the circumstances...
meaning...
be honest and tell her exactly how you feel... | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:45:33 AM | Well, you clearly have something in common. Sex. Why are you even asking this question. If you call and she says come on over, be happy and make her happy. You can't know how your relationship will develop, and if there is really nowhere to go, it won't last long. You or she will move on soon enough if that is the future.
Actually, I suspect that since the thought is in your mind, you are already moving on..... | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 6:07:56 AM | | I don't know about this hypothetical because the idea of a woman having sex with me just to have sex with me is so far fetched that my mind rejects even thinking about it, to avoid facing the reasons why if it should be possible generally it is not happening for me. I'll have to sit this one out. Life sucks. | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 6:13:17 AM |
Do you stay with someone because sexually you`re a match, or do you simply say to yourself this will never work no matter what i do?
I know myself well enough that if I continued in this type of situation I would be heading for heartbreak. You see, I am one of those women who form bonds when I become intimate with a man. It's how I am wired, and I know this. So I would avoid this scenario at all costs. | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 6:26:51 AM |
the idea of a woman having sex with me just to have sex with me is so far fetched that my mind rejects even thinking about it, to avoid facing the reasons why if it should be possible generally it is not happening for me. I'll have to sit this one out. Life sucks.
Omg........im laughing so much at this........ya poor guy........
Op,i know this is just hypothetical,but you seem to have an awful lot of dilemmas in your hypothetical love life....
Just sayin'............................... | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 6:56:35 AM |
What happens when you`re sexually compatible with someone but share no commonality otherwise?
Hi.
In my case (and I hope ya all don't think too poorly of me here) it winds up that you have kid's. Then get married. Then fight non stop (while still having great sex) but stay married because of the kid's. Then the kid's get older, the fights get worse, and the sex is still as great as ever. (!!)
Eventually, it reaches a point where the balance between sex and fighting leans more towards the awareness that the sex just isn't worth the fighting anymore, and the divorce happens. Because I realized that I missed out on the emotional love and caring a relationship should have, and that was a painful realization. And many many years are gone, and emotionally I felt as lonely as ever. Fortunately humans are a hardy species, and can overcome great adversity. Yeah, that's what I keep telling myself.
Trust me, it can be a serous roller coaster ride............... | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:40:40 AM | scd - msg 14
Lets say that she is. This person is orignally from another country where the language barrier sometimes is an issue.
Is she from the country north of you or somewhere far east?
You know, sex doesn't know borders, maybe that's how she is contributing to lowering of international tensions. | |
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| Dating someone who you`re sexually compatible but nothing more?
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:53:35 AM | Try,
She`s from South America... She`s been living in this country since 2003... Communication is somewhat difficult sometimes. Mi espanol is poco poco...
Other than language issues we get along. And you`re right, sex has no boundaries or language barriers..
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