| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:35:30 AM | | then why are you on here then? If you are so busy maybe you should date the thing your so busy with? I'm just not understanding why you would put on your profile that you are busy and really don't have a lot of time to date. Well dating takes time and effort. Does this mean when she finds a man that she likes its gonna be an instant click. I guess it does happen but lets face it, if it was that common we all wouldn't be on this site fishing now would we? So ladies just my personal view, if your soo busy and have to actually announce to the fishy's that you are that busy, for me its not worth the effort cuz you are busy.... lol ....... i gotta go i'm busy | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:45:36 AM | Well OP - for me, I've got it right on my profile that I'm not really here to date at this point. BUT - I might give it a whirl at some point...this is my busiest time of year - I do holiday donations at work, and right now I'm trying to find Christmas presents for a thousand kids.
A friend and I were discussing this a while back - we both sort of pinned it as, I'm tired, I work hard, there's always so much to do...errands, cleaning, family...and what we really both want is to get past that meet & greet, into a relationship - have a boyfriend that you are at the point where they just come over, you have a pizza or something and do the grocery shopping. LOL - of course you have to go through the dating to get there!
I guess you can't take all that "I'm so busy" at face value, because as true as it might be - if you get past that beginning part (when you may not see each other much) you may hit the melding together. Totally different story there. | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:21:54 AM | Maybe it's to say that they're really busy and are unable to respond to all of the messages they receive, and they probably get a lot too. But when they find the one guy they're really into, they'll probably make some time for them and then their grades will drop. Alternatively, they might be able to spend time doing the stuff she's so busy with together, like studying at a library, babysitting her son, whatever it may be.
I know what you're saying though. Why take on more responsibilities when you've got enough stacked on your plate? | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:35:07 AM | Funny! The man I'm in a relationship with now had in his profile that he didn't have a lot of time to socialize but would like to engage in a shared interest with someone as time allowed. He was caring for an elderly parent with alzheimers during the day and working nights, but he still had the need for human interaction and a respite from his overwhelming responsibilities.
I imagine some women may be trying to play hard to get or something, but others have a legitimate reason for making such a statement. And despite what you think, OP, women are not the only ones who do it. | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:38:34 AM | Women on this site are full of excuses
1- Do you wanna my # sure. : But they never called and you saw them online everyday
2- Im Busy: but always online talking.
3- I met One person but he wasn't my type: she dated him, invited him to her place etc.. but she 's trying to come clean to the next online man
4-I want to get to know you first: But she always into texting, doesn't wanna talk over the phone.
5- He's nice guy but no chemistry: They're looking for Mr Perfect. | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:41:33 AM | | hmph. My profile used to outline my general schedule with weekends being my free time to date and weekdays and nights not possible. I work long days and do the gym after work most nights. Other nights have other things. Weekends, including Fridays, are usually free for dating or camping, hiking, kayaking, etc. Guys could join me in these activities also. However, I found that men seem to not read profiles with relevant information and then get psssssd when I can't date on weeknights or a weekend with an event long planned in advance. For one guy recently, I even went back and picked a few blocks of time on days that are really busy and said we could do something in those times. He did not accept it. not good enough for him. So, I've deleted all of the info on my profile and now just have a few sentences. I have a friend on here who has something similar and she's getting pages of emails that she can't even read them all. | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:53:19 PM | You can not have a lot of free time to date to find someone, yet have a limited amount of time that you can spend with someone who's actually compatible and you have some interest in.
I don't actually see any problem with planning ahead for dates and working with your schedule and someone else's to find time to get to know someone.
It's usually people who don't have enough to do in their spare time that get miffed about people who have a lot going on. | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:59:56 PM | People of both sexes make excuses because sometimes its too hard to tell someone honestly that you aren't interested in them. Trust your gut man.
Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar... sometimes 'I'm busy' is a proxy for 'I don't like you.' | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/6/2009 3:24:21 PM | Also true with the education addicts. I dated a woman with a masters that was going for a phd and she never had time and I just quit calling her. She finishes up her phd and calls me thinking she can just pick it up where she left off a year before. I chatted with her and said what happens when you go for your next doctorate, I put my life on hold again so you can work the same social services job for 30K a year job and get another piece of paper, while I sit here waiting, no thanks.
I also get the workaholics as well that have to work 6 days a week and I don't go for that either. | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:11:47 PM | | Depends on what you're looking for... if it's a joined at the hip relationship where you see each other daily, yeah, he/she may be too busy with life - work, kids, school, etc. but if they're looking for casual dating, the occasional get together for drinks/dinner is do-able... Not everyone has the same idea as to what constitutes a relationship and what the goal of the relationship is. | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:40:18 PM |
People who say they are really busy and an only a limited amount of time to meet or whatever are lying. For one reason or another they have decided against meeting you. Accept it and move on.
Agreed. If somebody wants to meet you they'll make time. | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/7/2009 4:36:03 AM | well if their writting it IN their profile it probably means they have VERY limited time to socialize and are seeking the same. or maybe when their thru with work they just want to relax and vent , so they browse the dating site. something to do without committing. who knows? anyone who posts -" very busy with work", doesn't do it for me, so i just move on | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:19:42 AM | I actually am a very busy person!
I always let someone know up front what my schedule is like. Either they can acclamate to my time I have available or they can't. My time is so limited to the weekends and it is hard to even always get out then. However, I still try to get out. With 4 kids you need some YOU time somewhere
edit:ok, so I didn't write in my profile! | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:41:40 AM | sometimes we women (or men) can be really busy. like i work in a hospital and it is necessary for me to do 50-55 hour weeks, great for the money, but leaves me with not a lot of time.
any person i go out with will have to be understanding of that. | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:09:48 AM | When someone posts that they only have a finite amount of time....they are living in the real world. All of us who works full time....take care of a child....own our homes etc. know what it is like to attempt to find time for dating.
It is better that someone know that up front .....schedules and lifestyles match better.
I tried dating a person from POF...he worked nights....I worked days as a director with a salary position.....he was rested when I came home tired....I owned a home with 10 acres....he rented....you can guess the rest.
He had more time and became very upset because mine was more limited.
It could have worked because there was a connection but he had a preconcieved idea of how often two people needed to spend time to gether to quote "call it a relationship". There are things that change daily in our lives but if someone doesn't have the flexability to understand that....well....I would rather not be in a relationship with them anyway | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:29:51 AM | | My profile read: "I would be most compatible with someone who works at least one job and takes care of his home. Then we both will understand what it's like to be busy." I did this because I was contacted by many men in their late 50s/early 60s (I'm 56) whose profiles read something like "I'm retired (or "my career is winding down") and I now have lots of time to enjoy life and want to meet a woman to enjoy life with." Well, I work a job and a half to make ends meet, and also have medical issues that take up time with doctor appointments, etc. This does not leave me a lot of free time/energy. I do have time to spend with someone, but maybe not as frequently as he might like. I thought I was being considerate by posting this in my profile so as to not waste anyone's time if they're looking for someone who has much more free time. But it seems like the majority of posters here see mentioning limited time in a profile as an "excuse." I feel sorry for people who always see what others say as an excuse; it seems a very negative attitude. Why not see it as honesty until proven otherwise? | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/7/2009 7:45:46 AM | | they say this cuz they are busy. they want to give people a headsup before they get involved and the new person starts whining that they are too busy. wah,wah.wah...you never have any time for me. why on here? probably because its a way to meet someone they may want to date. there are others that are busy too and sometimes busy schedules mesh. | |
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| women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time...
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:44:47 AM | [qoute]any person i go out with will have to be understanding of that.quote]
True that.
<div class="quote">When someone posts that they only have a finite amount of time....they are living in the real world. All of us who works full time....take care of a child....own our homes etc. know what it is like to attempt to find time for dating.
It is better that someone know that up front .....schedules and lifestyles match better.
Exactly..Sometimes it's hard to find a time..In my case, I don't have a set time, I don't clock out at the same time, I never know when I come home, so ...
I am trying to make time, but not going to get fired because of it. | |
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