| Answer to the "intimidated" question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:10:58 AM | | I have seen a lot of posts where people ask is he/she intimidated. I'm pretty sure the answer is: (1) Yes, they are intimidated if you're good looking, (2) No, they're not intimidated if you're not cute. I believe some of the people who ask are looking for validation that people aren't contacting them due to intimidation rather than lack of looks. Does anyone else agree? If not, what's your theory on this subject? | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:13:36 AM | I've see a lot of those threads, as well. Frankly, I think women only ask such questions to boost their egos.
I get the idea that they want men to view their profiles, tell them how good looking they are, and the whole nine.
I consider those type of threads nothing more than attention seeking, troll posts. | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:19:09 AM | | I'm not indimidated by looks. I don't care to understand why people are intimidated by looks, so I don't have a theory. Intimidation is about fear and control - a tool you use for opponents and subordinates, not partners. | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:25:24 AM | | Its merely an excuse for not allowing yourself to realize he is just not that into you. So you think you should nudge him along... but if he really liked you... he would ask you out. End of story. | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:37:58 AM | I think 9 times out of 10, these individuals decide they must be "intimidating" because that's easier than to accept that they're actually just "annoying."
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:42:54 AM | | You've expressed your prejudices clearly. As with most such, there's no doubt some truth to them. Who cares? Such things only matter when you're trying to accomplish a relationship. You're just here for chat. | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:47:03 AM |
I think 9 times out of 10, these individuals decide they must be "intimidating" because that's easier than to accept that they're actually just "annoying."
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:52:12 AM | | Intimidating could also mean that the person looks to be two tons of fun and they may not be able to handle it. Moving right along........... | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:59:19 AM |
I think 9 times out of 10, these individuals decide they must be "intimidating" because that's easier than to accept that they're actually just "annoying."
:)
We have the ability to discern that which is pleasing to our eyes. What prevents us from acting upon it in many cases is their over reliance of same to be attractive. | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 11:07:40 AM | I actually think Yeah right... what is the real story...
I find the people that have to ask this or claim to intimidate people equates to the people that stand on the street corner shouting the world is going to end on Friday at 4 pm ...
I actually believe deep down they are very insecure people that have only their careers to talk about there is nothing else. If someone believes they intimidate people by their looks need to get a grip.
If there are people that are intimidate by looks, career, etc.. well they have self esteem issues IMO | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 11:12:56 AM | this is a common self-delusion. 'oh, he/she rejected me because i'm overwhelming, not underwhelming.'
sure. that always happens. | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:03:39 PM | I'm not intimidated by looks. However, if a girl is hot enough, I'm going to pretty much assume that she's going to blow me off the second she gets a look at me. That's called low self esteem, not intimidation   | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:54:49 PM |
I think 9 times out of 10, these individuals decide they must be "intimidating" because that's easier than to accept that they're actually just "annoying."
+1 | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:58:31 PM | Apparently men are intimidated by "strong women", "sexy older women", "intelligent women", "succesful women", etc.etc.etc.
The truth is that men aren't intimidated by any of those things.
They just can't be bothered getting to know women who have delusional high opinions of themselves. | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:02:50 PM | maybe because they tell me they're intimidated - iI'm not making an assumption. but it's not by my looks.
oops, guess this is the wrong thread.
movin along now | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:08:53 PM | | ^^It's one thing to be told face-t0-face that your intelligence is intimidating, Cynthia, but it's another thing to use the "intimidation" factor as a reason for why you're not getting messages. | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:10:01 PM | | I am still trying to figure out how someone is "intimdated" by an on line profile? Hell, even in person, unless someone is totally insecure, what the hell is there to be intimdated about????? | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:16:04 PM | I think intimidated is a strong word as I would probably use “lack of confidence”. Walking down an unsafe street late at night will get you intimidated but you might not contact a good looking person dye ti your lack of confidence in wanting them to even acknowledge your existence.
Having looks/lack of looks may prompt you to feel a person is more/less likely to respond. If you feel they are not going to respond based on you thinking they ONLY want a good looking person as well, you will not contact them.
In the end, what I think it all comes down to is your own personal self-confidence. If you are very confident and don't have the looks, you might still contact them but of course, you might just think it's a waste of time. | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 1:26:54 PM | | correct FFS. I don't get email from guys who aren't interested; not the intimidated ones.that said, my last post was half tongue-in-cheek. waiting for my flight; I'm bored. | |
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| Answer to the intimidated question....
Posted: 11/6/2009 2:17:07 PM | I've never been intimidated by looks, apart, maybe from the occasional real-life approach of a stranger (in other words, not someone I've been conversing with online already). Even then, once the initial ice is broken, I'm fine, and not the least bit "intimidated by looks."
I would tend to think those who feel their good looks are chasing off the men they know really need to look into more than a mirror, and see what aspect of their personality, attitude, behavior, etc. is really turning men off. | |
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