| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:07:01 PM | lets say there's 4 fours at a bar, and three of them come up to you and start hitting on you, the last doesn't. what do you think of the guy who doesn't, all things being equal?
i'd rather not be another fly buzzing around the flower, if you know what i mean. i like to think i'm better than that. i like to think maybe eye contact and a certain way of carrying oneself should be enough to at least win a smile or some other sign that i'd not be just another fool to be rejected. | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:11:10 PM | You can be the guy that buys her the drink without asking. Let the bartender/server point you out from afar.
Otherwise, why would she notice you with all the attention she's getting? | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:12:36 PM | | I would wonder why on earth you were hanging around with that pack of wolves... | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:15:29 PM | | I wouldn't notice him. Mainly cuz I'd have left that situation to get away from the pack. | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:18:24 PM | | Right, women do give off the first signals... but if you sit there like a dolt and don't do anything about it she will think you aren't into her. No lie. | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:19:09 PM | I'd assume you weren't interested or interesting for any number of reasons.
It's going to be hard to make much eye contact if 3 of your pals are being witty, engaging and entertaining. | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:26:19 PM | | If three guys came up and all started hitting on me at once, I'd assume there was some sort of prank afoot. | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:38:29 PM |
It's going to be hard to make much eye contact if 3 of your pals are being witty, engaging and entertaining.
right, because guys have to be witty, engaging and entertaining, and girls just have to look pretty. oh wait, that's a topic for another thread. | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:39:51 PM | | I'd assume he's not interested, and with all the attention from the other 3 guys, I'd forget about him in 10 seconds. | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:39:52 PM | How about that azz shaking thing that we do, would that be clear enough for you? That and a smile.
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 4:57:45 PM | | OP, so you're the guy that wants the woman to come up to him? Have fun waiting. | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:21:54 PM |
guys have to be witty, engaging and entertaining, and girls just have to look pretty. Yes-- it's not easy to look pretty. That takes some work I tell you! | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:38:15 PM | Most women go to bars and clubs to dance and drink for free. Not to meet the Average Desperate Chump for dates. Bars are a lousy place to meet women, unless you're hot. If you were hot I doubt you'd be consulting a dating site forum for advice. Find an activity that isn't all about The Pickup, and meet women the natural way there. You'll find much greater success.
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 6:04:44 PM | | I would think the guy who holds back is doing so because he isn't interested and promptly forget about him while fending off his three buddies. | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 7:15:58 PM | "i'd rather not be another fly buzzing around the flower, if you know what i mean. i like to think i'm better than that."
Think whatever you want if makes you feel better....But let me guess....somebody with average looks sitting back acting disinterested looking to pickup chicks at a bar with an attitude that he is too good....sounds reasonable | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:14:52 PM | | Maybe it's time for you to break away from the pack and be more of an individualist, do your own thing. Then you won't have to "hang back". | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 11:30:47 PM |
right, because guys have to be witty, engaging and entertaining, and girls just have to look pretty. oh wait, that's a topic for another thread.
Nope, you don't have to do anything. If you don't want to be witty, engaging, entertaining, (or if you don't possess the skills to be those things), no one is forcing you.
If you don't want to compete against anyone else, you would probably need to pick out the most unattractive person in the place, then you could have her undivided attention and maybe get away with being boring. (...idk.... . maybe unattractive people want someone interesting also, so good luck with that. )
If you think a girl should be more than pretty, maybe you should hunt for her where girls that are more hang out (tip: it's not a bar. )
Finally: If you think that girls have an unfair advantage, guess who's fault that is? Yours. Yep, men are to blame. If you and your 4 friends all desire/want the same girl, who has given her the power? (you) It's all about supply and demand.
If you went somewhere, and all of the girls decided that you were the "hot" guy, and they all approached you, and you alone, then U would be the one in control and in demand. | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 11:42:11 PM | | I would assume you were either gay or taken hence not taking much interest in approaching me when your friends have already came over...if you want to stand out...the coolest/cutest thing that has gotten my attention is coming out of nowhere with a drink in hand...one got me a beer which I thought was cute...it was like treating me like one of the guys...then asked me to dance... but as equally endearing was a pink drink to recognize her femininity...and they were total gentlemens about it ie. introducing themselves and then asking for a dance. Try those tricks to get you to stand out from the crowd...Good Luck!! | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/6/2009 11:45:40 PM |
you would probably need to pick out the most unattractive person in the place, then you could have her undivided attention and maybe get away with being boring.
Nah. I've been the most unattractive person several times and I still don't want someone boring. | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/7/2009 12:48:25 AM | Bro, I'm no chicky, but that guy who hangs in the back will be as successful as the sperm who hangs in the vagina, while all the others are racing through the cervix and into the uterus, racing to the egg... No, wait! Those sperm got put there by a guy who didn't hang in the back.
Walk up, club the other guys, throw her over your shoulder, take her out to your cave, ravage her, then go back and grab another one. Repeat. | |
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| the guy who hangs back
Posted: 11/7/2009 2:03:09 AM | | You might as well flirt with her too. She's going to pick the guy to whom she's most attracted. If she's not attracted to any of you, she'll just have fun eating up the attention! If you feel like you want to stand out, the guy who said send her a drink from afar had a good idea. Or, at least, if you're going to hang back, flirt intermittently - just enough to pique her curiosity. If she likes you, she'll be intrigued. The key is to give her enough to encourage her, but not so much as to seem easy. HTH! | |
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