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Posted: 11/6/2009 11:50:46 PM | | I've been a member now for a while. And it seems that, unless I initiate conversation, I get zilch in the female department. Is it my profile? I'll take any criticisms, as long as you leave my mother out of it (thats a joke). | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 12:10:42 AM | expand on how you are a struggling musician-are you in a band? Also, you really haven't said what kind of woamn you are interested in-she woukd need to know that she was a good fir for what you were looking for to date. Goodluck OP | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 2:42:04 AM | Wow...can you say cynical? You sure sound that way from your profile.
Here are my suggestions and remember you did ask for this...
User name, fish type and tag. Negative negative and negative. Change all three no one wants a false profit or a bottom dweller. Seems like this is what you think about yourself. Who would be attracted to that?
Your first line about "loudmouth tools" and "douche bag" (two words by the way) what ever? Do you honestly think there is a women on here looking for either one of those things.? FYI, the term douche bag is not acceptable anywhere in any profile on any site and will never attract any women with the slightest modicum of self respect.
That whole line just makes you sound bitter and angry that the loudmouths and DB's get the girls while you don't.
And you're right sometimes they do but they never hang on long so no need to be bitter.
Add more pictures with your eyes actually open and an optimistic smile wouldn't hurt either. Your picture looks forlorn like your dog just died.
Over all your profile seems negative as a whole and women are just not into that persona.
Try talking about the positive things in your life and the positive things you are looking for in a girl.
Oh yeah, all that stuff about cocaine on a first date, I didn't particularly find it funny just more cynical thought.
Put on some happy music and try again. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 3:51:52 AM | | OP, the fact is, most women want YOU to initiate first contact. That's just the way it is. Don't take it personally. BTW, you look like you are asleep in your main pic. On the bright side, I'm sure you have a lovely mother:) | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 6:55:04 AM | Let me make a few suggestions if I may.
1. Post multiple pictures if you can. If you only post one pic, look happy and alert. Smile. You may also want a pic of you playing your guitar.
2. I agree with an earlier post. You said nothing about what kind of woman you're interested in.
3. Guys must initiate contact with the women they are interested in. That's the way it's been for a million years. Do not send a flirt, wink or whatever you want to call it. Send a short message telling her why you liked her profile and ask if she has mutual interest in yours. If she's interested, you'll definitely hear back from her. Usually pretty fast. If you don't get a response within a few days, assume she's not interested in you. Move on!
4. Don't just contact one person at a time. Pick several ladies you're interested in and start communicating. Your goal is to meet in person and see if there is any chemistry. Unless the person likes to email a lot, ask for that meeting within the first couple of messages.
5. If you meet someone and think you hit it off, ask her for another date if not on the spot or within the next couple of days. If she doesn't hear back from you soon, she'll assume that you're not interested in her and she'll move on.
6. Learn to accept rejection in this online dating world. You're not going to bat 1000. It's going to happen, perhaps many, many times. "Nothing ventured, nothing gained".
If I could repeat just one more thing, DO NOT sit back and wait for ladies to contact you. Sure, a few may, but most won't.
Get moving!! ONLY YOU CAN MAKE THIS HAPPEN!!!
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