| So here is my question
Posted: 11/7/2009 12:27:51 AM | | I realized what was meant by "you dont appreciate something unless its gone" I fell in that same position about 2 months ago. Me and this girl we seen each other but nothing worked out, kept the friendship going, until the day she told me shes seeing someone. Kind of felt really weird and awkward, my question is Was it a bad thing that I expressed how I felt and told her the quote above? I had to be honest. Things did change between us, but because of her current relationship, I didnt want to interfere or be the "emotional support guy". | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 12:41:56 AM | I think the quote you're looking for uses the word "until" rather than "unless"
Better to have shared your feelings than to have silently looked over your shoulder wondering if that would have made a difference.
Pave paradise, put up a parking lot. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 4:28:55 AM | | I always say how I feel. And, I have learned sometimes these things happen for a reason. And we just have to accept things. Like you, I would not be the emotional sounding board. Just go on with life, and be happy. It is never bad to express how you feel. Just my opinion. Most people have trouble in that area anyway, so be glad you have a voice and do not just hide feelings. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 5:48:48 AM | ^^ Exactly.
You know, so many people sit back and do the "I wish I said this" or "I wish I said that" thing. They are constantly worrying about missed opportunities. You took the opportunity so be proud of it.
You may feel like you 'should'nt' have said that because it didn't work out the way you wanted it. It just worked out the way it should. Maybe this is opening you up to a better relationship and giving you the skills to know what you have to communicate the next time.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 6:59:38 AM | | She knows what she doesn't have anymore. You guys broke up for a reason right? I think it was a really lame move to say that were you trying to make her feel guilty or something? Sometimes it's better to keep your mouth shut, bless them and move on. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 7:00:14 AM | I think it's best to share your feelings, even if you feel like a dork afterward. That way you know you've put all your cards on the table and done everything you could. I have to express my feelings, even if I know the other person doesn't want to hear it, just for my own peace of mind. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 7:16:36 AM | | See we never dated, we just thought talked things over, but nothing seemed to work out. As far as expressing how I feel, I am really good at that. But the whole situation never held me back from meeting new people and sharing experiences with others. And like you guys said for my next step I am pretty much filled with answers lol. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 7:28:07 AM | | So, it's really hopes that have been lost...it's very sad when things don't work out, but it's good she's moving on - and it's time for you. What was your motivation to say what you said? Was it meant to create a feeling of guilt, regret, what have you in your friend? If that was your motivation - it was unkind. If you were motivated by a place of true loss and sadness, then it was good you expressed yourself. The motive is the important thing here. Cheers! | |
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| So here is my question
Posted: 11/7/2009 4:12:25 PM | | Honestly, my motive was just to express how I felt. Life is good to me now. | |
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| So here is my question
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:21:19 PM | Just look at this as a lesson learned and hope with the time that you have between relationships, that you get right with yourself so the next time you will appreciate what you do have.
Expressing yourself is good and it is a step in the right direction. Just keep it in the forefront of your mind and remember your words "didn't want to interfere or be the "emotional support guy". Put some distance between you and your ex. So that if she does want to talk to you about anything, you don't get caught in the middle of her problems with her current bf. | |
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