| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 12:28:27 AM | | if youre seeing a man that wont kiss you and wont show any affection other than in the bedroom, does this mean he just wants you as a sex object? or does it mean he has a girlfriend and just wont tell you? ive been having this problem with a guy and i dont know what to think, because he acts like he wants me around, he even introduced me to his best friends and apparently said nothing but great things about me. | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 12:38:12 AM | lame... move on
it's not worth waiting forever for a kiss.
i always expect to get or give small kisses on the lips on the first date but only if there is chemistry of course.
that's what dates are for. getting to know someone.
To see if they're a good kisser because that's really important.
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 12:40:37 AM | | we have kissed we kissed about three times, and i mean i know im a good kisser.. not to make myself seem like the shit. i consider myself to be a pretty attractive girl so i dont see why he has to act like that. but i mean we have kissed. and thanks for the reply by the way! | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:05:25 AM | | so many peole looked at my post but yet i cant get any advice? only one person so far, some more please!!! :) | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:17:48 AM | when a man won't kiss you, it means he's a player.
when a man seems to like you, it means he's a player.
when a man introduces you to his friends, it means he's a player.
when a man's friends tell you he brags on you, it means he's a player.
best to avoid men entirely. we're all players. | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:26:06 AM | "if youre seeing a man that wont kiss you and wont show any affection other than in the bedroom, does this mean he just wants you as a sex object? "
Yes I think it does. If he really likes you and wants a relationship with you he'd hold your hand, he'd kiss you even in public.The other option is that he might not be single. | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:40:06 AM | Viva some people don't like to kiss that much.
I would want affection other than the bedroom, but I don't think it means he has another girl.
You say it is a problem, so therefore it is. | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:43:35 AM | | Hun, move on. Usually, when people like you, they WANT to kiss you. That's not exclusive to women - applies to men too. You're young & cute, so I imagine you won't have a hard time finding someone who's really into you! Also, as the poster above says, even if he's just not a kisser, it's a problem for you, so unless you can accept that, it's going tp remain a problem; which, doesn't bode well for a relationship. | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 2:08:51 AM | | Have you considered maybe he is just not naturally affectionate? I kind of don't think he's a "playa," he does not seem to have sufficient social skills to please a woman. You might have something there, Viva, in being considered a sex object rather than a living flesh and blood person. Realize that he's not going change unless he wants to, and I don't see any compelling reason for him to do so. The lack of overt signs of affection like kissing isn't a problem unless you feel it to be, you posted on here in this forum, so it must be bothering you quite a bit, so if more PDA is what you value more than sex, find a man than has higher quotient of it than the one you're currently with. Simple as that. | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 2:30:33 AM | | hummmm....kinda sounds like to me that you are more of a trophy to him (look at what I'm nailing) than a possible realationship.....the issue is what do you think that you are to him? | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 4:02:50 AM | | There are men that feel uncomfortable showing open affection in public. Just ask him if he feels uncomfortable out of doors holding hands, kissing, ect. That might give you one other reason for his behavior. | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 4:26:10 AM | | I'm confused by your post but then I need some more caffeine this morning to get my head together. He doesn't want to kiss? I hope he kisses you while you're making love! So I assume you mean "public displays of affection". Personally, I like it when a man I adore puts his arm around me or holds my hand "in public" but as for kissing, I think that's more private. That's my style, everybody's different. As to whether he's seeing someone else, or "using" you as a "sex buddy", you'll have to ASK HIM. Find out where you stand with this guy! | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 4:48:34 AM | Could be that is he treating you only as a FWB or thinks you're a bad kisser.
You might think you are a great kisser.....on the other hand, he may not.
Why don't you ask him DIRECTLY? | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 4:48:37 AM | | Some guys are just uncomfortable with public displays of affection. There can be a number of reasons for it and the bottom line is you need to discuss it with him. There is really no way for any of us to know (including you) without discussing it with him. | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:18:51 AM | | Ultimatelly,.....it's all about the way he makes you feel......if it feels like perhaps he is using you just for sex.....then, my dear, he probably is....... | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:06:44 AM | | Talk to him, but know that any real time spent together with someone who is only affectionate in the bedroom wears really thin. If he can't won't meet you more than half-way on this, move on. A lifetime without affection is not fun. | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:16:34 AM | | ive asked him, hes had nothing to say about it. hes affectionate in public if hes drunk... CALL ME STUPID I KNOW IM STUPID, BUT HE WONT EVEN KISS ME WHILE WE ARE HAVING SEX... AINT THAT SOMETHING? i guess if it is bothering me i need to put an end to it. but it didnt start out like that, the first date he was actually very touchy feely. maybe he was drunk, and i didnt even notice. | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:41:42 AM |
i know im a good kisser.. not to make myself seem like the shit. i consider myself to be a pretty attractive girl...so many peole looked at my post but yet i cant get any advice? only one person so far, some more please!!! :)
Maybe your entire problem has to do with a sense of entitlement and an inability to delay gratification. | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:04:56 AM |
hes affectionate in public if hes drunk...
Obviously he's got some kind of inhibition about kissing (maybe he thinks swapping spit is gross). Or maybe you've got bad breath and he can't bring himself to tell you. If he was using you as a sex object I guarantee he'd be kissing you. | |
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| what if he doesnt want to kiss?
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:33:42 AM | I dated a gentleman who had difficulty with touch and closeness. He was a wonderful man, however I did find his behaviour somewhat odd.
I think the key here is communication. Try asking him what he thinks about you. Then later ask him how he feels about you. The answers should give you some insite as to what is going on in his mind. Then you can ask him how he feels about about showing affection.
Good luck with that. | |
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