| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/7/2009 7:47:22 AM | | Christmas parties and formal events are right around the corner. I just started to date this girl and was wondering if it was appropriate to take her to office parties/gathers around the holidays. How long before you should take a girl to such events? | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:26:59 AM | I would not worry about appropriate timing . . .
Communication is important you should ask if she is comfortable at these kinds of functions, would she like to go, does she have proper attire? If I were you, I would be more concerned about family functions and such. It is perfectly acceptable to take a female friend out to a formal function, it's called a date.  | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:42:53 AM | There is no 'right' time, only what feels right to you.
I will offer a word of caution..make sure she can handle having a drink or two without doing anything offensive or embarrassing to you. It's a little hard to recoup at work if that happens. | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:58:42 AM | Don't want to be Scrooge here or the Bearer of Bad News...but here it comes.
this is the season where....when... when a lot of new relationships...dating occurs...the holiday season... men and women out there to snag someone to take care of them during the holidays so they are not seen as such loners.
some need a date for the parents/relatives.... Thanksgiving, Christmas parties, Christamas Day.... New Years....then it all comes crashing down.
ya...some are looking for the freebies....the extravagant gift giving....and then after New Year's....they dump you like a lump of coal!
ya....so... just be aware of this happening...and go moderate on your dates....pace yourself and don't shell out too much of your time, energy, affection and money.
I really see this as a problem and practice that is reached an epidemic proportions btw..... The Holiday Hook-Up Sucker.
not saying don't date.... not saying don't go to the events....just don't get carried away with the falling in love over the holiday season and for goodness sakes...don't buy jewellery on your credit card. | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:03:09 AM | It won't be seen as "announcing your engagement" or something else serious like that. Who cares what other people think anyway?
If you like each other and you're both comfortable with it - go for it! Life's too short to worry about such trivial matters. | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:25:39 AM | OP: If there is a girl that you would be inclined to introduce to people that are in your life; take her! I don't just take anyone to events of this nature. Usually it's someone I'm dating or someone that I am interested in dating.
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:05:00 AM | You know if it is the right time but take heed..
I will offer a word of caution..make sure she can handle having a drink or two without doing anything offensive or embarrassing to you. It's a little hard to recoup at work if that happens
Could be very embarrassing if she hits on your co workers or slips out of chairs. | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/7/2009 11:00:00 AM | | thanks for everyone's advise. i will take it with a grain of salt. i have not had an alcoholic drink with her yet. she seems like the type that wouldn't do anything offensive or embarrassing if buzzed. but then again, you never know. | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:16:43 PM |
Could be very embarrassing if she hits on your co workers or slips out of chairs. Had that happen at a staff Christmas party a couple of years ago... one guy's date left with another guy and things got incredibly tense around the office for quite some time.
I'm not sure which was worse... the girl for ditching her date and leaving with someone else, or the guy that felt it was appropriate to pick someone up at a staff party...  | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:34:18 PM | if you have a choice to take her or someone you have a solid friendship with i wouldn't go for her
i had a bf who took me to a christmas party and met his whole family and it was a great experience. we broke up. bad for him though cause he has that memory of me and all his people probably still ask about me..
so it all depends on how long u want her memory to linger if it doesn't work out | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/8/2009 8:03:41 AM |
if you have a choice to take her or someone you have a solid friendship with i wouldn't go for her i had a bf who took me to a christmas party and met his whole family and it was a great experience. we broke up. bad for him though cause he has that memory of me and all his people probably still ask about me.. so it all depends on how long u want her memory to linger if it doesn't work out
good advise. i think i'm going to talk to her and see what she says about it. i don't want her to think i'm hiding anything from her.
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/9/2009 5:46:47 AM | "Could be very embarrassing if she hits on your co workers or slips out of chairs."
It would also be in poor taste and disrespectful if she was to do that to you. Making a pass and leaving with a co-worker? Four letters that begin with the letter S. | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/9/2009 6:21:19 AM |
I just started to date this girl and was wondering if it was appropriate to take her to office parties/gathers around the holidays
Isn't there a movie where Bruce Willis did this?
You should be very wary of introducing someone new to your family, friends, and co-workers. That's not to say you shouldn't do it, only you can judge how comfortable you are with her by your side. | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/9/2009 7:03:03 AM | ^^ LOL...Blind Date?? With Kim Basinger?
My personal opinion on this sort of thing is....holiday parties are lumped into the same category as WEDDINGS. I would not take a casual date to any of them...only someone I was SERIOUS about. I also would not accept a date to any of those sort of events because I would feel like I was sending the wrong message.
Holidays reek of desperation when it comes to singledom....so many just do not want to be alone during them...others actually feel the need to score on presents. (ick)
If you are SERIOUS about this girl, and the feeling is mutual...go for it! Next, you will be asking how you should introduce her? LOL | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/9/2009 7:19:57 AM | | I'd say don't read into it too much..it's just a party and it is supposed to be fun. If you think she is going to read into it, make sure that you are clear with her though. | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/9/2009 7:53:00 AM |
My personal opinion on this sort of thing is....holiday parties are lumped into the same category as WEDDINGS. I would not take a casual date to any of them...only someone I was SERIOUS about. I also would not accept a date to any of those sort of events because I would feel like I was sending the wrong message.
Holidays reek of desperation when it comes to singledom....so many just do not want to be alone during them...others actually feel the need to score on presents. (ick)
If you are SERIOUS about this girl, and the feeling is mutual...go for it! Next, you will be asking how you should introduce her? LOL
Call me old fashioned, but i'm the same way. No one is going to meet my family or attend family parties unless there is something more serious between us. Just as I wouldn't feel comfortable attending work/family events of his as "the new girl". But that's just me. Some people are ok with such things. | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/9/2009 8:40:38 AM | From the wide range of replies, you see that everybody's different. Some are fine with it, some would be uncomfortable, some would even see it as a Holiday Sucker thing (that's way too elaborate for me).
Me - I'd go to a party at any point with just about anyone. Hey, it's fun and good food! I'd go with a total stranger as well as with somebody I've been dating for quite some time. On the other hand, if we are serious about each other and I'm not invited I'd probably be wondering ... how serious we are. | |
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| when to take girl to formal event/holiday party?
Posted: 11/11/2009 7:44:15 AM | I would go to a casual party....but there is a list of events that send out a message that you are more than just casually dating (in my opinon)....meeting the parents, meeting children if applicable, weddings, company events, family or high school/college reunions, to name the biggies. LOL
I had a wedding to attend this past weekend. I REALLY did not want to go solo, but I did not want to ask anyone I am dating casually because I felt I would be sending them the message that I was ready to take it to the next level...which I am NOT. LOL So instead I went with/hung another single gal who felt the same! LOL
The last guy I was in a "committed" (serious) relationship with...I attended his company Christmas gig....awkward! Had it been in a place that was not private...it may have been less so. But this was a private room for just his work. | |
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