| 23 year old women without children, and I'm weird?
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:13:25 AM | I'm just curious why many men I have met ask me if I have children, and I say no. Their response is "weird, why not?".
Why am I the odd one for practicing safe sex and being responsible?
Do other men think like this? Thanks for your responses in advance
My first post was in "relationships". I thought this may be a more appropiate area for my question. Thanks. | |
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| 23 year old women without children, and I'm weird?
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:16:53 AM | Are the guys that act surprised have all their teeth and not had a hook up with their cousin?
Why am I the odd one for practicing safe sex and being responsible?
Because a lot of dingalings your age don't. Keep up the good work!
Have to say I am suprised by your experiences though...go into the single parent forum and see the young girls that have one or two kids already get ripped to shreds... | |
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| 23 year old women without children, and I'm weird?
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:32:49 AM | Yup, you're just going to have to work on your guy selection process. Do these guys have children by other women they've left behind? I'll bet they do. Be glad they respond that way, so you know to drop them then and there.
In general, I've noticed that online people have eddies and currents to them, such that sometimes you'll see a flood of nut jobs, then a while later a whole school of introverts roll by...we seem to be inching out of a huge swath of people nervous about the approach of winter, getting antsy to hook up asap, griping about details they wouldn't normally care about, and sending off ill-conceived emails to people they probably shouldn't approach.
It will get better. Eventually you'll get the guys who sigh in relief instead. | |
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| 23 year old women without children, and I'm weird?
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:02:38 AM | My guess would be that you may seem to be good with children or have some motherly vibe that they sense and thus it may be surprising that you don't have children.
As I haven't met you in person, I can't say whether or not there is some validity to that statement. As for being odd, we all have our little quirks that may generate a "weird, why not?" response from people. | |
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| 23 year old women without children, and I'm weird?
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:04:59 AM | i wonder if it's a regional thing. i hear kansas is pretty conservative; younger marriage and breeding can be part of that mind-set.
you might ask your single, childless women friends if they get the same treatment.
props to you for making good choices. | |
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| 23 year old women without children, and I'm weird?
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:20:46 AM | think this way ,,, have fun,, kids ,, why? money yeck, spend for you laugh at the ladies tyed down,, being loose with the sex is cool , for a while , then it's just a piece of meat Ray | |
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| 23 year old women without children, and I'm weird?
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:48:00 AM | (With music from "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest"in the background:
It just might be a manner of speech up there in Kansas. Sorta like "How you all are?" in Louisiana.
Ain't nothing wierd about your age or not having babies. Not even in your profile.
Ya wanna see "wierd," just stick around here in the forums. Especially as it gets later and later in the night.
Gotta go now, the sun's coming up ....... | |
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| 23 year old women without children, and I'm weird?
Posted: 11/7/2009 11:10:24 AM | "Do other men think like this?"
No...I would guess the response is for a reason....I can see a lot of female profiles for example and guess from the pictures that the lady has kids, smokes, and is probably not educated....sounds harsh but the responses you are getting are probably along those lines....Like a bit surprised...
Believe me, guys are not usually excited that you have kids, either... | |
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| 23 year old women without children, and I'm weird?
Posted: 11/7/2009 11:16:17 AM | | These days, if you are 23 and childless and are a working girl, it is rare. By the time a young woman reaches a certain age, she usually has at least 4-5 kids. I just found out a friend I met in Junior High School has given birth to her 12th child 7 months ago. She became a mother at 17. | |
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| 23 year old women without children, and I'm weird?
Posted: 11/7/2009 11:16:28 AM | It is not weird at all. It is an educated decision.
Although you are of that pivotal age where you can be married, could possibly have children. Prospective mates will ask about that stuff. Their reactions and recovery from that question will vary.
I found when I started online chatting it was literally a pivotal overnight change in age. I was 19, then I was 20, 21...chats were all innocent about how are you...do you have a boyfriend are you single etc...then I turned 22 and suddenly I was being asked if I was married or had children. Because it was assumed it was technically possible. Other women out there are doing stuff, hence you must be too.
Don't take it too personally. | |
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| 23 year old women without children, and I'm weird?
Posted: 11/7/2009 12:06:03 PM | I would hardly call that weird.
And I have to echo the sentiments from some of the other posters: if these guys find that being 23 and without kids is weird, you should probably refine your selection process a bit  . | |
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| 23 year old women without children, and I'm weird?
Posted: 11/7/2009 3:04:05 PM | LOL
I was once asked by a male co-worker, 'How'd you get so lucky not to have kids?'
My response?
LUCK ain't got nothing to do with it. It was a conscious decision. I think he had found out the hard way that luck makes lousy birth control. | |
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| 23 year old women without children, and I'm weird?
Posted: 11/7/2009 3:50:23 PM | I 2nd the guy above me... sad as it is, it's all relative to where you live. Me, I live in L.A., which let's face it, is a bit of a Neverland anyway that values youth and independence and people are trying to avoid growing up. If you had a kid out here at 23, you'd be quite the exception (and it sounds bad, but it's true: for most guys it'd probably put a lot more pressure on the relationship, as opposed to letting it go at its own pace).
Really, the average guy (for better, or for worse) would be THRILLED you don't have any other factors complicating things, and not try to make you feel awkward over it. What, are these Kansas dudes just hoping to prey on single moms anyway??
I say f--- it, next time you get a guy who finds that "weird" you rise to the challenge, ask them, "what, do you have a problem with an independent woman??" Make them think about WHAT they're asking you, or why they find it weird. Good luck. | |
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